I have nothing I like to wear 😭 .. size 16

[Adollop]

I dislike the way I look, but am struggling to lose weight, I think partly due to menopause and partly due to various health problems.

I have nothing I look good in In winter it's not so bad, I live in leggings and long tops/ jumpers. But in summer I look awful. I can't find tops that don't emphasise my spare tyre , that are long enough to cover my bum, that don't make my 36g chest look matronly ...

I just bought a dress on eBay (where I mostly shop for financial reasons), it's a loose footing hankie hem, I right it would be better than fitted, but it looks awful .

Please, please help me. I feel so down.

I have a few things I like - a short denim skirt and a short black linen skirt, because my legs aren't bad, I like long loose shirts, but am struggling to find ones that cover my bum.

Any ideas appreciated. Links would be great too. I can't get to a personal shopper service and mostly shop online, as all I have nearby is M&S, Debenhams, New Look, Peacocks, bon marche ...

Speckled on ebay in May the used ones were selling for almost what I paid for my new one last year. Let's hope Next bring it back for 2020

And meant to say Adoll if that photo is of you, then you are being very hard on yourself in your op.

There has been some excellent advice on this thread and I second @wizzler comment about that photo. I tend to fall down with body self confidence and have found mollyjforbes on Instagram worth a follow - not for clothes ideas but for body confidence aspects.

Best of luck on the clothes hunt!

because I don't like Anthony much about my body sad

Tell him to stop right now!!!! Or LTB.

I’ve got loads of those next linen dresses. Not so good this year because they don’t have patch pockets.

Bravissimo also do clothes.

Debenhams have got their final clearance, some super stuff. You are a similar size to me. V necks, shirt necks are great.

I'm an apple shape. When I was bigger I usually wore maxi dresses in hot weather, or a tunic top over pedal pusher leggings.

Deathray didn't notice the typo lol

The photo in the dress was last year, this year my stomach is more pronounced I think - thanks menopause.

I love this - shows off a bit of chest and legs but is loose fitting everywhere else so looks relaxed and is really comfy to wear
www.asos.com/prd/11047129?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

and yes, bravissimo dresses are so good! I bought two in the sale recently - wore one out for dinner recently (first meal out in a year in fact!) and got so many compliments - it made me look at least a size or two smaller

Also just got this recently - bought a 42 as I normally wear a 14 and it’s comfortably loose so would probably fit a 16, it looks lovely on, looks much nicer on than the photos suggest, but I love a shirt dress. It’s very lightweight so great for summer
www.asos.com/prd/12736682?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

Thanks Sink. Bravissimo is probably a bit expensive for me, but I'll look on eBay. Not a big fan of shirt dresses unfortunately.

Bravissimo And pepperbery are fantastic for big boobs. I’m a size 16 and 36ff. I’ve bought quite a few things from eBay as they are quite expensive in store. You need to know what size you are eg 16 super curvy or really curvy etc

Also, have a look at the knitwear in the Phase Eight sale - I’ve found an oversized jumper and then fitted trousers / skinny jeans hides the oversized midsection I’m stuck with since my twins! They have some lightweight and semi sheer ones that work for summer

TRy White Company too- very good for apples. Toast also.

Yes I like the sound of oversized jumper and skinny jeans. Just can't be wool, as it sets my eczema off!

I'm big busted and have found that its important to have a lower neckline, not too low, as otherwise a high neck just makes my bust sink into my stomach and makes me look like a big round barrel. I tend to wear a lot of high waisted jeans and leggings with a tunic style top or t-shirt and long flowy cardigan which hides the big backside.

I've ordered from M&S their relaxed vest top and relaxed tshirt, as a start, to wear with M&S jeggings that I already have, with a white shirt over.

I'll now try and perfect the tuck ...

Always loads of bravissimo stuff on eBay, I got a lovely zip neck tunic
Bought a jacket today from Wallis which is lovely, their camisoles are good (tall range) too tight on my bust but as you're smaller they would work? Size up though

I'm a short dumpy apple, I tend to wear trousers, shell tops with kimonos over, I have two jersey dresses from Marla Wynne, she does great stuff for apples and layering but it's bloody expensive so I tend to buy from eBay, I like the balloon dresses as they hang off the boobs skim the belly but balance out my tooth pick legs.

I have a pair of green combat trousers from next that I roll up the hems and live in with white linen tunic tops from Phase-eight again eBay purchases and wear them with Birkenstocks, I probably look a sight but it's comfy and cool.

Everything @East7thst said. Look for clothes you like, not clothes that hide you.

Go and have a look on Facebook at a page called styled by Susie and the associated group, lots of friendly advice.

I'm an 18 at the mo and live in a couple of dresses (denim midi and a shirt dress in the main), denim shorts, some navy Boden shorts, lightweight shirts tied at the waist, bretons, skinny jeans etc. Have a couple of jumpsuits that I love.

100% agree with PPs who suggested you join theStyled By Susie Facebook group. She is wonderful & it’s full of lovely supportive women dressing for their shape. Any talk of weight loss is deleted. It’s about loving who you are & dressing to reflect your personality