Is this a good "going out" outfit?

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Recently left a ltr and my friend wants to take me out on Friday night. Dinner and clubbing - eeeeeek! I am 38 and feel quite nervous.

Don't want to dress up too far out of my comfort zone, because clubbing is so wildly out of my comfort zone as it is. But I want to look attractive, too!

I have black leather-look leggings and a slouchy black v-neck t-shirt. I have black flats. I intend to straighten my hair poker-straight and wear minimal makeup (literally just mascara and lip gloss). Silver bracelet. Black nail varnish (because it makes me feel tough for some reason!).

Is this a good plan??

This one

I would probably go darker than red for nails though. I love my nails dark.

If I were you and you have time I’d stick with the black jeans and get a new top if you can- just something cheap, as someone said a floaty chiffony cami top would be nice. Don’t worry about shoes, just wear whatever is comfy. Pair the top with nicely done hair (whatever you think suits you best) maybe some earrings or a necklace (cheap and cheerful from supermarket if you don’t have any).

Or ask your friend if you can borrow a top?

Most importantly have fun! Honestly one of the best nights out I had clubbing was when I met some new school mums in the pub for a ‘quiet drink’ wearing jeans and a woolly jumper. I’d clearly misjudged it based on previous experience of nights with ‘school mums’ I knew from my older DC- they were dressed up to the nines, dragged me into town and ended up dancing all night!

These are from the next sale section £10 or under and avaliable in size 10. Next if you order before midnight you can collect from store/home delivery for next day.

It is the more glittery tops.

I have some lovely leopard flats from Primark that would look perfect with those trousers. Also red lipstick would be great I think. I like the idea of a black top (I often go out in all black regardless of what time of year it is) but I think something a bit more oversized, maybe off the shoulder would be more suitable. The T-shirt looks a bit too fitted if you see what I mean? Maybe a black chiffon cami like this - www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/tops/black-cross-back-cami-/p/619863101?CAWELAID=120310300002436636&_cclid=Google_EAIaIQobChMIncec8o-e4gIVh7PtCh1GLQBfEAQYAyABEgJ_HfD_BwE&extcam=UK_PPC_PLA_Google_DV_m&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIncec8o-e4gIVh7PtCh1GLQBfEAQYAyABEgJ_HfD_BwE

Pair all that with red/black nails and a gold necklace! I’ve had plenty of compliments dressed in that when I’ve gone out. I’m 32 by the way.

Anyway whatever you decide to wear I’m sure you’ll look lovely, have a great time

I'm not a fan of the river island top, I think it's quite tacky I'm sorry.

If you were the black leggings, what about something like these

www.asos.com/na-kd/na-kd-ruched-neck-sleeveless-top-in-black/prd/12209378?clr=black&colourWayId=16365342&SearchQuery=black%20sleeveless%20top

www.asos.com/lipsy/lipsy-lace-top-in-black/prd/7327051?clr=black&colourWayId=15276818&SearchQuery=black%20shell%20to

And a little pair of black ankle boots maybe?

www.asos.com/london-rebel/london-rebel-wide-fit-kitten-heel-ankle-boots/prd/10124344?clr=black&colourWayId=15095872&SearchQuery=black%20kitten%20heel%20boots

Go whatever you feel comfortable in - you know what suits you best. Have a lovely time.

So I definitely think the trend now is to look casual glam. My go to outfits as an avid clubber in my mid 30s in London are...

1. Loose fitting high waist denim shorts with chunky boots and a black vest/cami/tank top. Leather jacket if a bit cold
2. Belly skimming dress again with chunky flat boots and leather jacket

I would always wear full make up and statement earrings though. It is a night out after all.

I will get help with makeup. I will do beachy waves thingy with my flat iron.

I like the rainbow sequin tunic, and I like how long/slouchy it is (which is what I wanted with the t-shirt but they didn't have larger sizes available), so I've ordered that. (my bra straps will show though!)

I'll look at the colours in the tunic to see what nail varnish I can choose.

And also - what is clubbing like? I feel silly asking, but I don't know what I need to do...?

This is what I pictured when you said slouchy top... the black one in your pic isn't slouchy it looks like a bog standard black t-shirt.

Either of these outfits would be fine for your night out. If you'd feel uncomfortable in a dress don't wear one.

The leggings are great, on trend and look good on you.
A longer top would look better, or something more flowy rather than slouchy but if you wear a nice silver necklace and accessories you could get away with this one.
And the black heels are nicest.

^^ the examples from whiskey are what I meant. Slightly longer top

Do you have your ears pierced? I find a pair of hoops helps me feel a bit glam. What about skinny jeans, your t shirt tucked in with a statement necklace?

OP have you not been to a nightclub before?

it massively varies depending on the place - could be horrible, packed, sweaty, plastic glasses!

could be a bit more civilised and more like a bar with a dancefloor.

either way, I always find people are really friendly so be ready for a lot of random chat - shouted over very loud music. Sadly I have found you have to be quite careful dancing with straight men - at some point "fancy a dance" became something else....maybe I was unlucky, I don't know. So the last few times I went, I said no to any man saying that unless I thought he was gay!

OP have you not been to a nightclub before?

No! Just one of those things I never got round to.

So you chat with random people over the music and dance with just your friends to avoid being groped?

Do you have your ears pierced? Many years ago, haven't worn them in ages, and now can't get any earrings through the holes. Might consider re-piercing them when I start dating again.

Thanks for the compliments - wasn't fishing, but very gratefully received.

OP I took someone to a nightclub for the first time and she had a fab time! It was a small one, not a megaclub. So yes, dance, enjoy, be wary of blokes. Sounds like life really

you might not get so much random chatting, I don't know. I mostly went to dance clubs where people would certainly have been, er, happy and that might account for the chatting.

though there's also the inevitable hen party who wants help with photos

I insisted on having my ears pierced as a teen and regret it now, earrings just always feel horrible in my ears. Don't feel you have to wear earrings if they are a nuisance for you. There will be scar tissue around the original piercing so it could be awkward anyway.

I hope you have a really fab night OP! Honestly, I'm as unglamorous as it gets so just go, enjoy the experience, don't worry what you look like.

My gosh I'd never wear boots to a club! You'll die of heat! Other than that, wear what you want I'd say.
Depends on the club but usually the bar is rammed, the music is loud, you make a million new best friends with random women in the loos (and find tons of selfies with people you don't know and will never see again on your phone the the next day), the dance floor is usually pretty packed if the DJ is good and you often take mercy breaks to any outside area to cool off after busting a few moves! Definitely get in a good few drinks beforehand due to the aforementioned busy bar and also over-priced fizz they sell. Enjoy!

You can dance with anyone you please op. Just because a guy asks you to dance doesn't mean he will grope you, but he likely finds you attractive unless it's just a load of people dancing together or a gay guy.

Really it's a bar, tables, lots of places to stand around, and a dance floor, a dj, lots of people, loud music. Just do as you please.

I'm a similar age to you and have recently discovered bodysuits. They are your friend. Ive got a top like this in red and I would wear it with your trousers.
They do it in black too which would definitely work too!

Primark do block heel sandals which would be perfect and both you can wear again

Not all of us want to suddenly grab the nearest neon coral piece of clothing as soon as it warms up
No one is suggesting that the OP goes out looking like a neon sign but depending on the town and the club she could stand out and feel self conscious if everyone is in summer wear and she us al in black.
I guess its down to knowing the venue as others have said.

Something like this

www.newlook.com/uk/womens/footwear/shoes/wide-fit-black-suedette-metal-mid-block-heels/p/591333301?comp=Browse