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Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow. Come look at photos and advise please.

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NeedANewHairCut · 20/12/2016 13:29

Ok, am a 40yo frump. Photo of me included.

Have booked in at hairdressers tomorrow for a pixi cut. Hair is currently past boobs. Really thick. I wear it tied back in a high pony tail all the time and need to do something as it's so boring.

So really cropped? A bit bouffant? Something in between? Or cancel the appt?

Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
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Revealall · 20/12/2016 16:03

I'm a no.

The problem is one a short cut would be boring as unless you go for a really edgy long fringe perhaps.
After a certain age we look a bit madculine and short severe hair doesn't help.
You do have good hair already.

Revealall · 20/12/2016 16:08

I would chop off a few inches though. It will feel good having a restyle.

goldface · 20/12/2016 16:19

No!!!! Your hair looks beautiful, I would love to have thick long hair like yours!

Needanewhaircut · 20/12/2016 16:33

..?

Quite like the style of the pink one.

Or maybe I should just get a fringe put in like the blue one, but without the colour?

Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
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MinceForBrains · 20/12/2016 16:40

Very short hair can look amazing but needs sharp cheek bones and symmetrical sculpted or elfin features. Most normal folk cannot pull it off. I include myself in that.

Needanewhaircut · 20/12/2016 16:40

This is how I wear my hair 99% of the time and it's not a good look.

Have booked in for a big haircut/restyle tomorrow.  Come look at photos and advise please.
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SilentlyScreamingAgain · 20/12/2016 16:41

People project a lot of their own anxieties onto hair, both their own and other peoples'. I went grey in my twenties but kept dying it until my forties by then I'd totally had enough of sitting in the hairdressers for one Satuday morning in four. It grew through a lovely, striking, striped grey that complimented my skintone, it looked good.

A couple of friends, women of my own age and slightly older, were totally freaked out by it, took me to one side and told me how aging it was and that, basically, I was letting the side down while letting myself go. This had nothing to do with my hair and everything to do with their own attitudes towards, youth/attractiveness/aging.

I recently went to a barbers and had most of it shaved off, faded to a little quiff at the front. I'm getting the same comments again, this time about 'femininity'. Folks have some very strange ideas.

I don't have a little tiny elfin face, I'm big and raw boned, but I don't think that tiny little elfin faces are the only ones worth exposing. Like you, I've got fantastic cheekbones and with my hair this short, they look even better.

The other great advantage of very short hair is that you can wear an amazing amount of makeup without looking like a clown.

I hope you're happy with whatever you decide.

chickensaresafehere · 20/12/2016 16:43

I did it in the summer,when I was on holiday in Florida.
Mine was boob length,layered with a growing out fringe.
I had a asymmetrical pixie cut & I love it,everyone said it made me look younger (I'm 45).
Just recently had the side shaved,to funk it up a bit & I love that even more.

Go for it! It will grow back & if you don't do it you'll always wonder what if.

Cocolepew · 20/12/2016 16:54

I have a face like a chipmunk syrong nuts and I look good with a pixie cut, even if I do say so myself .

ArseyTussle · 20/12/2016 16:56

What's the rest of your style like, OP? Pixie length hair can look great with edgy clothes and with feminine or classic clothes, but not so great with sporty casual.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 20/12/2016 16:57

Ah, you've got a lovely face. How are you getting those weird hair tentacles sticking up from the top of your head though? Grin

I say go for it but leave a little length on top which will be versatile to style, quiff, long fringe, slicked to one side etc.

I'd love to see an after pic if you go for the crop. Smile

RandomDent · 20/12/2016 17:00

I'm 40 and I went from bra strap hair to long pixie. I love love it. It takes 3 minutes to style.

Have you thought about donating it to the Little Princess Trust?

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CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 17:10

"fledglingFTB
...How about Kaley Cuoco, or Jenifer Lawrence's pixie styles..."

Kaley Cuoco looked so much lovelier with her hair long. If someone as pretty as she is can "lose" something by having her hair cut, it is significant. She looked more feminine with her hair long.

whattimestea · 20/12/2016 17:10

I've had pixie short hair 3 times over the years - I'm 38. Currently growing out my short hair but I know that as soon as I have it longer I'll look wistfully at pics of me with short hair and chop it all off again! I've never been precious about my hair but I know for some it's a massive deal. My thinking is, nothing is ever permanent, if you don't like it then it'll always grow. I love the fact that over the years I've had pretty much every style (and quite a few colours) going! Alot of my friends have had the SAME hairstyle for pushing 20 years, in photos it always looks the same give or take a few inches.

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 17:25

Very short cuts which are heavily layered, or whatever, take ages to grow out properly and there are horrible in-between stages to endure. It's all very well to say people are being "precious"and that it's only hair and it grows.
As for the bob, I have a longish one with a side fringe and it is no trouble. My hair has a bit of bounce and all I do is blow dry it after I wash it (daily). No product or gunk or straightening required. Bobs are not boring at all!

ArseyTussle · 20/12/2016 17:39

The point I'd make about people like Kayley Cuoco though, is that it's precisely because they're very pretty that they can look good with long hair. My hair when bob length or longer does my face no favours at all, it makes me look tired and old with a short fat neck.

Most people, unless their hair is their 'thing' will look just as good with well cut short hair.

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 17:42

MY point is that most women look better and more feminine with longer hair. The shorter styles not so much.

DirrtyMartini · 20/12/2016 18:02

Don't do it OP! I have relatively similar looks/face/hair colour/glasses wearer as you, and I really think you'd look way too masculine and harsh if you chop all your hair off. A long bob, or at least a few inches off and some fantastic layering/lowlights. Don't shear your locks off without going shorter first to see how you feel after a really good cut.

DirrtyMartini · 20/12/2016 18:06

I think new, more flattering glasses are what you want, the ones you are wearing are too wide for your face. New specs and a good cut/colour would be better than a pixie cut which is quite unforgiving.

PollyPerky · 20/12/2016 18:06

I think you should keep it as it is but have a few inches off so it sits just on your shoulders. Maybe a half fringe or some soft layers around your face would work.

Def do not get it all cut off.

PollyPerky · 20/12/2016 18:07

and yes, sorry, as PP says, your glasses are too big. They dominate your face and are the first thing anyone sees, rather than your lovely features.

NeedANewHaircut · 20/12/2016 18:10

I thought geek chic glasses were in?

I have to have fairly large plastic frame glasses. Can't have thin metal frames as my prescription is so strong.

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PollyPerky · 20/12/2016 18:20

Think it depends on your face shape.
These styles are very popular but tbh I've yet to see anyone who, imo, suits them!

www.specsavers.co.uk/glasses/starlet?sku=25666830

It's just a fashion- wear what suits you not what's supposed to be 'on trend'.