In Crepey Remembrance Of CremCat Past

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Hope that's an OK unilateral decision!

Am also agog at another thread where people are recommending drug testing kits for a 16yo who has had a few beers and the occasional spliff.

Seasalt ones are what I want and a bit cheaper than Land's End, thank you. They have to be normal close-fitting shape because of the uniform issue....

WAF, I may be wrong but I thought I remembered watching a video of IKEA man standing at sitting at desk that lifted. I hope the appointment goes well for dh. at teeth being stumps.

And what is John McDonnell doing, throwing the towel in on Brexit and when it is pointed out to him that he has therefore given up all possibility of influencing what happens, saying Labour will exert "moral pressure"? He is supposed to be a professional politician not the bloody Archbishop of Canterbury .

Waf, hope dh appt goes well. I know dh finds it frightening and exhausting but helpful to talk. Enjoy ikea - youcenade me realise I hvnt been for a few years . I wonder what on earth happened.

Lalsy - I have a v nice long built in desk so just need on-topness solve.

I also need meatballs'n' shit. I dont , of course but the idea is in my head now, as it is in Addle's

Waiting for train...

Didn't notice menu. Just saw "unlimited Cremant". That will do. As the only things I don't eat are fried bread, fritters and pig's liver. And prawns. Will eat prawns but am allergic, so have to have Piriton first.

WAF, stop with all your IKEA talk or I might need to go and peruse the Christmas stuff!
Glad to hear your DH is getting support - hope todays session goes well.

Addle, thanks for the rec - have just googled it and will tell DD. I imagine any sort of proper selling will prove too much - someone in RL offering her a tenner for a bag of stuff would be far preferable!

Bad start to today with DS. I am so anxious about him - don't seem to be able to loosen up. And the GP is worried about how stressed I am and has signed me off for another 2 weeks. I am hoping to get back to work before then, but it does hugely depend on how DS can manage school...
As the song goes, things can only get better. Surely.

Oh BTM.

I have just wasted about an hour wrestling with an accounts dept in India (it is for an Indian mag, not some random outsourcing) which apparently would have sat on my invoice indefinitely had I not chased and is requesting I supply details I didn't even know existed.

Oh Tilly nil desperandum xxx

lalsy did you mean these? i will investigate....do you think they work well for the large of arse and long of leg like moi?

Good luck with DH's appointment WAF and that it's the start of better things

I have spent another 3 hours working on the paper work for that wretched teaching review. It's like they WANT you to fail. By the time it actually happens I'm going to be a nervous wreck who can't string two words together....wibble

DD is driving me bonkers...the students have time off this week and some of next week because they are in, all through the Xmas hols...she's doing an assignment and went out on Monday and has arrangements for Friday with friends, but is hanging around a bit too much and watching too much drivel on the box. I am going to take the M&S cords back now and she wants to tag along... This may prove expensive.

BTM.

I think it's good your GP has signed you off again. Try to look after yourself. I can't begin to tell you how much grief and worry my ds has given me over the years, but I think/hope he is out of the mother-worry zone now. What I'm trying to say is that it's not unusual and it does end. I do feel it's a stage they have to go through - or so I tell myself. I have theories along the lines that in prehistoric times they would all be out hunting in athletic fashion for food for the tribe, and would be faster and stronger than any of their fathers - but our sons don't have that admirable role in society any more. In terms of tribal life, late teen boys would be the most important people. They would fight off the enemy too - bears, Vikings, etc.

Oh, BTM, . I am not surprised you can't shake the worry and anxiety. And you can't do your job with it, not in anyone's interests. One day at a time I guess? I will need to escape noisy work tomorrow if you can get out for a coffee or something?

Molly, I know what you mean. I think right-thinking teenage boys pick up quite a strong message about keeping under the radar in public, at an age when really they are programmed to be quite the opposite.

Yes, those, Rose - I have never had them but Crem rates. Land's End have cords in straight and slim leg but even pricier. I may hold off in hope of sales starting soon. You will all be delighted to know that I have solved my tights problem .....drum roll....I am a John Lewis medium and I like all their black tights!

BTM

Colly that's such an interesting theory.

BTM - so sorry. Anxiety is so difficult.

Rudy - just noticed Micky Flanagan's tour dates will be out this Saturday. Not sure if you're mad fans or not but thought I'd say.

(In DH appointment news, I would so love to have rushed in ahead of him and given the therapist some key childhood ishoo bulletpoints to save months and £££)

Oh, BTM, sorry to hear things are no better; I think it's a good thing that GP has signed you off for another couple of weeks.

Good look to Crepeys' DPs who are doctor/therapist visiting atm.

MI, I hope your day has improved, too. I was listening to a radio article about the currency issues in India - will it affect you, do you think?

DH is on his last week of jury service; so far this week, he has: come home mid morning on Monday as neither the prosecutor 's or defendant 's translators turned up (strike of translators), ditto Tuesday when the defendant didn't turn up due to the prison guards 'strike'. Haven't heard from him today, so presumably everything is proceeding.

Reasons to be cheerful:

1. It's a lovely day.
2. The birds have returned to the feeders in the garden, so my favourite bullfinches and goldfinches are gracing me with their presence.
3. There were two red squirrels in the garden yesterday (never had two together before).

BTM - hope you are in a slightly better place this evening.

Here DH having work issues and has been shafted by somebody he trusted. He is now majorly stessed and didn't sleep the night. God where are the decent people?

Decent people? Not the management here Hatty.....

It's unremittingly miserable when you are eaten up with anxiety from having to watch your child torturing themselves. The worry is just crushing. You so want to be able to make it better for them, and you can't. And you still have to somehow soak up their rage and distress about it all, while also tending to your own needs. And sometimes their needs conflict with yours - and what do you do then? You know you have my sympathy, BTM.

How are things with your ds, Beachy?

Yes, addle, 'twas indeed my ds who managed to break his arm when I was out with the crepeys. I'm very glad to hear your dh's attitude has mellowed a bit and he is more amenable to getting help. In my (sadly extensive) experience, the blame game, denial, and lack of insight are all part of the illness. Dd has times of clarity now, which highlight just how unwell she was before. (and may still be again - the whole business is nothing if not unpredictable, particularly now she is off the meds, and has extremely free-ranging moods). I could also relate a bunch of stories about my ex and indeed my own MH issues, but that would probably not be hugely cheering.

Waf, hope your dh is not too poleaxed after his first therapy session.

Thanks all, for the lovely comments about our Fb photo. It was indeed a nice moment in a year when there have been many not-nice moments, so I am keeping it to refer back to when it all goes horribly wrong again.

BD please oh please come on the 26th. It's the last crepey MU I will be able to make for a while (am doing postgraduate thing next term and it's going to be hellish) and I would love to see you.

In other news, dh has been a massive tit and missed his 6-monthly cancer check. He missed his blood test appointment and therefore didn't have his scheduled check-in. Has he firmed up a new appointment with the hospital? No, of course not. Olden-days crepeys may recall that he was diagnosed in 2012, so is not yet at the magic 5-year mark. Am I angsty? Yes, I am.

Sorry for binge-posting, but I'm just trying to catch up..
Rose, for yesterday's sad anniversary. I hope you can give yourself some space to find your own way to commemorate your dad.

Dh has missed a check-up, not a check-in. Damn you, auto-correct etc etc

Suggest you sign up for Lands End marketing. You'll always have some kind of discount from them... Almost daily.

Have not had time to catch up on thread. I have a teenager to get on a flight to NZ tomorrow first thing. I don't know wether to laugh or cry at the moment. My brain feels like it's full of soup.

Nobody told me waving off your DS to the other side of the world was quite so upsetting. It seemed like Such A Marvellous Idea all those months ago.

Oh Cocoa, yes of course it does and now it doesn't. Maybe you will feel better once he has actually gone and the awful build up is over?

Yes, re Land's End - I came off the list because of the emails but will go back on as I want more thermals (so S and B, me). Rose, some of their cords are in the sale (from last year perhaps).

Stropps, lovely to see you! Am so impressed you are going ahead with PG study. Wise words learned through difficult times on mental health from you and so many other crepeys.

Hatty, where are the decent people indeed?

I just can't get myself excited by corduroys. Maybe I need some kind of External Good Works to get me in the mood.

Hope things are better with DS, BTM and Beachy, and that DD continues her precarious even keel, stropps.

I am in a frenzy of trying to earn some more money. But it's all all bit catch 22. To maximise chances of something sticking, I am flinging myself in all directions - tutoring, selling my course, freelancing, transcribing, ebaying, etc - but none with the focus they need to actually get anywhere. But I haven't got time to do it in detail. I have two proper jobs to apply for, but if they don't come off, something else needs to bear fruit. If everything bears fruit at once, I'll piss 90% of people off.

Got my payslip today. Earned £60 less this month, somehow, meaning that two full days teaching a week earn me a grand total of £311 a month. Below minimum wage.

AND I've got to fill in parents' attendance allowance forms for them, which is a Task and A Half. AND there's no wine, as on vague (as ever) attempt to lose a pound or two while DP is away. Though there is gin...

Goodness Cocoa, that is anguish causing, given the distance and the missing him. It will be fine, Crem's promise.
Stropps, kick in the arse time for dh. Just cause you have Nothing Better To Do...
post grad thingy??? You are a Wonder Woman !!

Waf and Addle, much love to the dh's and their road to recovery. Hope you can arrange something nicer than an afternoon at Ikea for yourselves. A spoiling is in order.
Funny, the lure of Ikea has waned somewhat now they have opened but 5 minutes drive away. When I think back to the excitement of going on a trip by bus to Glasgow , just to go on a mass duvet cover/ tea light raid.madness

NU how goes it with the pre-hospital prep? How on earth will your dcs cope without you to mind the docs while you are laid up? It always strikes me that you are always there for them. I hope they are all there for you too Lovely.
BTM, dear love you. I'm so sorry the stress and anxiety are featuring large. It is exactly as described by the venerable Stropps. Somehow you have to find a way of living with it, but taking yourself outside of it all as well and continuing on as usual. Horrible. We are here.

In animal news, it is a case of 'be careful what you wish for.'
We now have a mouse living in the under sink cupboard.
Between that and the neighbour's clearly deranged rooster screeching in the middle of the night, the Reindeer kissy kissing noises, the goats shouting at the Reindeer and the grumpy farm collie shouting at all the above, my head is mashed. I long for a gentle plodding puss.
Another sleepless night last night.and the sweats. Still waiting to see gp about my hrt. But clearly it's getting urgent.
Reasons to MTFUP
1- Dad mobile enough for me to take him out for lunch. He's amazing.
2- I am off on leave next week, and only have to work 3 more full days to reach that.
3- Have found lost voucher for nice restaurant so can look forward to slap up meal soon.