In Crepey Remembrance Of CremCat Past

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Hope that's an OK unilateral decision!

MI, sorry to hear that. What sort of stuff does she eat at school? Just wondering if the typical teen diet of loads of bread and stuff is particularly unsuited to her, and she tries to eat more and that makes her feel sick? It s good she has told you.

Sorry, I realise her being worried and anxious is a problem too.

Will update anon. Btw SIL is culcha in Newcastle - so would have suitable freebies for small boys now their own are teenagers.

Just catching up on the other thread and marking place...

I think work is a combination of problems: too much overlap with another team, and no clarity on who is doing what (I can fix this when other team member comes back at the end of the month), lack of clarity of instructions - "can you write a paper on X?" (writes paper) "Oh no, that's not what I wanted at all, I wanted something shorter and focused on these three areas " (well you didn't say so) and also the assumption that if you are old and female you are also stupid. (I am 20 years older than most of the people I work with, and 10 years older than head of dept and That Colleague.)

Stropps - you are amazing and I would have no idea what to do in your situation, apart from scream a lot.

Sorry things have taken a dip BTM.

'Inconsequential cooking' well put Beachy.

Monty, really well done. So glad you can look at your achievements in the last year and be proud. Hope today has no-one crying on you. You need a break.

Yes, Monty, that is so good!

BTM, hope ds OK today.

OK, have done various things:

DD2 is actually quite keen on Nice Food. She likes cooking and is rather good at it. She takes a packed lunch most days and has just requested a wide-mouthed thermos: today she took leftover tom yum noodle soup, she takes stuffed pasta in sauce, other sorts of soup, etc...she does eat bread and pitta bread and bagels, but she eats I think a more varied diet than her sister on school dinners - though DP obviously is now back to his "I never wanted her to have a packed lunch" . He's of the opinion she just isn't eating enough which may well be part of it, though doesn't explain eg why she rang me in tears this morning saying she didn't want to go into school because it was all getting worse and she felt absolutely starving again (DP talked to her and encouraged her to go in which was I think the right thing for now). He feels it's food, we should have more snacks around the place (errr which of us makes effing flapjack may I ask) , she needs a better breakfast, etc. I worry that it's anxiety as well as hunger, as there's clearly that element as well.

I do realise this is minor, minor minor stuff. Do bear in mind that my lovely sister was anorexic and has struggled quite a lot with life as an adult, which is another bit of why I am no doubt getting this out of proportion.

I was going to say growth spurt as well MI - coupled with general teenage angst. Her diet sounds fabulous and balanced - how about porridge for breakfast with fruit?

Back to school here today but at least it was light outside, had to scrape windscreen though. DS trying to be sullen after his talking too last night but cracked and asked for a lift to school.

BTM, Beachy and Stropps - hope things are looking up with ill teens and young adults.

Crem - hope you're doing OK.

A word about the Newcastle weather Herbs - it doesn't rain a lot compared to the West side - never seen so much rain as at my sister's in Devon. May be a bit chillier though.

Oh - and thanks for the new thread Giddy

MI is she eating enough fat? Good for satiety.

MI - just to whisper NU and Colly's thoughts again. I know the food issue thing looms large for you and although dd2 may well be sh*t scared of giving blood to be tested, it's probably a good idea to make an appointment.

I'm shattered today. I have lots of work to do which I have either put off for too long or feel I'm failing at. However, I am simply pushing it to one side. I'm going to have some tinned soup a nice warming lunch and drive DH and I to the pretty park (his Achilles has been bad for weeks - symbolic) and stroll carefully in Autumn beauty for a while.

Aw you lovely Crepeys. She'd a little tear at the lovely new thread. Thank you ggg. How totally kind and a lovely tribute.

He was called Coco and was a soft pawed critter. Got home from work on Monday night, shortly followed by dh. He lay between us and purred for about 5 minutes before falling asleep for the last time.
Wee man.

So, life goes on here. Very hard week at the coalface with early start at work yesterday at 6am. Day flashed by fortunately, but am a wreck today.

Stropps, I see you are having a dreadful time with dd at the moment. GGG is absolutely right about constantly reiterating what you know to be true, and making no concessions to her on anything.
Your family life and working life must go on
No deals are brokered with her over anything
She must take her meds if anything is to change

Right off to catch up with thread.

Have made a GP appt

Oh Cremo - sounds like he was waiting for you

MI that sounds like a very sensible move and fab that she is sharing her anxieties with you so you can support her.

Am feeling exhausted by lack of sleep and trips to hosp (another tomorrow) But at least the sun is shining.

MI, you don't sounds like you are getting it out of proportion at all. It sounds very sensible and from my position of complete ignorance, the main thing is she is talking to you. dd has always been anxious but usually talks and we now have little codes and jokes about it that help her recognise when the anxiety is talking, IYSWIM.

BTM, it sounds exhausting for you - not knowing what each day will bring is so wearing. And WAF, glad you ca get out in autumn sun.

Aww, Crem, it does sound like that. Hope you can rest up today.

BTM , completely understand the wretched grind of coming and going to hospital. That plus the anxiety bout ds is totally flooring. Take all the naps you can handle. Is there any possibility of a bit if compassionate leave? I know thats prob difficult in your profession
Wishing you a long undisturbed sleep.

MI i dont think any anxiety associated with diet or eating should be underestimated . I think its very encouraging that dd has confided in you. Hope the gp asks the right questions. A wee blood test might be in order to allay any fears too.

Herbs hope ppp went ok today. Sorry dh was such an arse.

Am awaiting haircut, and posting sone eBay stuff. Then Pilates.
Poor dd is devastated re puss. Trying to prop up via whatsapp

Oh love him Crem. What a dignified soft-pawed finale. (I just had a cocoa for Coco and raised my cup to him)

Sending you strength BTM. Was also just thinking thank goodness your mum is safe and sorted now.

Crem, he was one gorgeous animal.

Crem - Coca was very cute and it's so poignant that he waited for you and went out with a purr.

Have found fillets of cod in the freezer plus green beans - tea is sorted.

Have yet to do course. Getting rather nervous. And seem to have wiped out my profits entirely on photocopying a handout, which isn't totally essential. Had no idea that 10 lots of 15 pages would cost £70. Waaaaaaahhhhh!

crikey - that is why the uni's send you a copy of the lecture that you can print at home.

er - I mean an online copy - I'll just go and cook my fish!

Coco the cat is gazing out of the screen in a very soothing fashion.

I am having an internal shitfit, thinking 'what on earth am I doing I don't know what I'm talking about and everyone will know and hate me and I've spent weeks on this and now I'm not even going to make any money'.

I have also just received my contract for my job, a whole year after starting it. It appears that if I wanted to leave, I'd have to give notice 'until the end of the following month', but they can give me as little as one week. That seems more than a trifle unfair.