Crepe And Stormy

[Cremo]

Over here Crepemunks!
Hope no one else has started one

Funny enough, I have just booked eyebrow threading for tomorrow morning. so S&B. [chic]

Poor old DSis now feeling murderous towards dad. He tried getting mum out of bed and into a chair in the living room this morning, what with her being all miraculously recovered and all. Night sitter alerted OT, who has firmly pointed out she has to STAY IN BED - and a hospital bed is being sorted - while also asking DSis if dad has social worker (we are both wondering if his always tenuous grasp on reality is finally crumbling). Sis also sorting more night sitters when the current six days runs out. Because obviously all this is Our Job, now.

Crepeys, please think very hard before deciding you want to die at home. I've thought this ever since DP was in similar situation with his mum. It is very, very hard not to resent the crushing weight of a responsibility we never asked for in the first place; I realise it is different in our case, because we have such a complicated relationship with our parents (I don't think any of the lovely staff who have been telling us how much our support is doing for mum realise that I for one had months when I hardly spoke to either parent) - but it's bloody hard.

MI, well said.

I am not as good a person as Auriga, though. I'm just grumpy and self-pitying.

MI, I feel grateful every day that DM is in a Nursing Home despite her moaning about having to be there.

Re Social Worker, I was told that DM couldn't have one as she was self-funding. Until the GP alerted them as she was not able to manage her own meds and started to need help with self-care. I wonder if your dad would tick those boxes yet? Would a medical professional be able to alert SS? Because once your dad is on his own and you/your sister aren't there, he almost certainly won't be able to manage, will he?

I think it's usually done through the GP in any case - because this would be in the event that he is losing capacity. I think. God knows.

Otherwise, you know, I think he'll be better at managing than one might think. He's planning to travel again. Which errr ahem gets him out of our hair and the country...

Well, I guess!

MI sorry to hear about the pressure. I am not sure I could deal with it either and my relationship with my parents is pretty good. In fact I miss not being able to speak to my mum :( Makes me feel very alone.

Hospital bed, btw, isn't a bed in hospital - it's that sort of bed!

BD

Trying to catch up.....

Heating here, is on...off....on...off... We had two snow flurries today in mostly sunny norf London

I can only emphasise what MI says about dying at home. But it's so very hard when one wants to honour the dying loved one's wishes. Having been closer to death than I wanted to be in my early 40's I have already had "the conversation" with my family and did it again when we were dealing with poor DDad. They know what I want. But there's no one size fits all, is there. How can I second guess what others want or need? I just know that the home were amazing for Ddad and it was such a dignified and loving exit. But DM had not wanted him there.... MI I recognise that everyone saying you are doing an amazing job is cold comfort. There's no light relief in the conflicting demands of DParents, work and one's own brood. Just KBO
....and you too, BD

Cremo How are DM and Ddad? Can you link the new clobber? I like the sound of the ponte jacket....

Herbs that is a comedy sketch...I wouldn't stand for it. You tell 'em.

I haven't put a foot outside the front door today. I am pleased that I got my power point done for this training session in May, though.... and the rest of the time helping DD finish her final art design. We didn't down tools until nearly 5, having started at 9 this morning. She has another morning of sketching etc tomorrow and then we're having an afternoon off, shopping and looking at Prom dresses. Any ideas on the High Street, Crepeys? She's a tall size 10 and wants long and black.

I found DDs in HOF and a friend whose DD ha her prom this year found one for her there too.

BD

I am on an Elderly Parents thread - lots of lovely people who can offer useful advice/experience if that's of any help to anyone?

dd's was from Miss Selfridge (long, black, slinky, terrifying!).

I am only a possible only for Saturday.....would love to join you.

Prom dresses:
HoF
Debenhams
TK Maxx

Charidee shop specialising in wedding frocks and brides-gang dresses. Dd needed quite a few for violin and concert performances. And her actual, proper prom dress came from China via eBay. You send your vital statistics, choose a colour and design and hey presto two weeks later a perfect chiffon dress of your dreams for pence ( £20 iirc.)
This is is probably the complete ethical opposite of buying in Oxfam , but hey ho.

Mum is out of bed but needs to be strapped to a chair to stop her from 'doing a wee job' . Ddad now back in bed as he completely knackered himself having a bath and getting dressed. They are both very frail tbh. Had small leaky tear on leaving them this evening . After changing their bed linen dad pressed a fiver in my hand and whispered 'thanks love'. < chokes >

Aw, Crem....

I hear ASOS is good for prom dresses. I need something for DD1 - they have a very dressy Boat Trip at the end of Y10. DS's prom is in a couple of weeks. He needs a suit, but I've told him he can wear his cheap and flammable Matalan number from last year. Assuming it still fits over his thunder thighs....

Went for the first ladyjog since October - I took it gently, but it was good to be back out there. Bloody freezing, though. We had two lots of sleet today.

Ds sailed in that sleet/hail/snow .... Okay to be fair he was crouched on a duckboard covered in bird poo (his description) cowering as the wind and sleet howled. It was positively Novemeber like round here.

Cremo :(. Are they okay? Meaning nothing really seriously wrong?

I missed the window for a Ladyjog if I'm to head east on the train I want, so am going to get a few work-related things done. Once the shower is free....

I am so sorry, Crem.

Oh Crem, having both so poorly at once....what a strain for you.

Yes nothing sinister. I mums case she's very thin and has a heart
problem, but she needs calories to fight definitely a virus .
With dad it's the virus, old age 89 plus his chest problems ( asthma, coughing and weakened heart and lungs)
Also hadn't filled his prescription for prednisone since the holiday. Sigh.
Sorted now this morning.
Old age.

I have an interview today, for a new job. Shitting bricks and couldn't talk about it before in case II bottled it.
Wish me luck

Cremo mucho mucho luck...... tell us all later!

Good Luck Cremo - show them you're the best

All prehensile appendages are crossed for you, Crem. And your DPs!

Good luck Crem
Not up to posting atm but thinking of you all.