Oh MI what a terrible stress. Your instinct is right though. You can't stay there. You have your own family to look after, and work too. I don't really think any of us is truly in control in these situations. We are just fire fighting at best. And you, lovely MI, are doing it better than many of us. 
Similarly Magi that sounds awful and one does hope for a peaceful ending to it all.
Addle re mobility scooter. It feels like quite a big step in a way.
Tilly difficult decisions, I sympathise. All I can say is that when my DM decided to override the advance care forms that we signed and in his last weeks, had DDad transferred to hospital because of an infection, it was one bad decision, . Is the electricity problem sorted out?
Uphill struggle today with no washing machine and also a blocked toilet. The latter I dealt with, using several kettles of boiling water, and a stick from the garden. Yuckaroo. DD has worked a mammoth weekend on art course work, but is winning, I think. Managed a 5k brisk walk this afternoon locally, but am glad we got some entertainment and gin last night, as today has been dull, dull, dull. 
ConS announced last night between numbers, that he has submitted the play to the new artistic director...