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Crepe Fear!

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 11/10/2015 18:13

Ta Da.

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Blackduck · 15/10/2015 16:20

Oh Stropps wish I was near enough to whisk you off for a hug and a large glass of Wine

I really don't know how I would cope with all that.

BTM - may well PM you if you don't mind - the more info re processes would be good for ddad - so at least he can prepare.

Lalsy · 15/10/2015 16:24

Stropps, of course you can't disengage - I think when people say that they mean from the more minor things that you can't change anyway. Not from this. Perhaps if she gets some help (and what a big if I know), she'd be able to look at next year again - it sounds like she needs to be in a better place to consider her options properly. You are doing everything possible, please post as much or as little a you like if it helps, even if we can't offer much in the way of possible solutions. Thinking of you x

NU, what fresh hell is this? Putting the garden to bed for the winter?

Crem, glad you have a teeny weeny bit more sympathy. BD, hope GP is helpful.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2015 16:33

Happy to chat BDSmile

Meant to say glad you have made a decision, Cremo, even if it was really Hobson's Choice. And fingers crossed you and BD find jobs worthy of you asap.

My Tesco Clubcard woes are over - another very nice young man sorted the second fiascoSmile

NU, putting the garden to bed for winter? I wouldn't know how to!

cressetmama · 15/10/2015 16:36

Hello Crepeys, lurker alert! Drawn in by your range of posts on age, children, ageing parents, and S&B, may I introduce myself? You were all so welcoming to the newbies a couple of pages back (I contribute in fits and starts). Cresset has DH, DS of 16, is 5' 4", size 10-12, one young dog (who can open cupboards and dog food packets unless they are above head height --mine, not hers) and a very nice MIL with accelerating memory loss among many other health issues. I was interested to read that there is an elderly parents thread, but cannot see it. Does it have a permanent home? I think I might need to camp out there...

herbaceous · 15/10/2015 16:46

'Putting my garden to bed for the winter' means just locking the Blackfoot and ignoring it.

herbaceous · 15/10/2015 16:47

'Blackfoot'? Back door...

Lalsy · 15/10/2015 16:56

Welcome Cressetmama! Nice to see you.

Off to search garden for blackfooted monsters and lock them up - you gave me a right shock there Herbs Grin.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2015 16:57

Hi Cressetmama! this is the thread I am on, but there are others - look in Other Stuff - Elderly Parents.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2015 16:58

Zactly, HerbsBlushGrin

cressetmama · 15/10/2015 16:59

Thank you!

There are only pheasants in my garden, but I shall be careful and have the dog by my side in case the blackfooted monsters come out after dark.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2015 17:03

Pheasants! I take it you don't live in LondonGrin

cressetmama · 15/10/2015 17:07

In Cornwall. Generally, this is wonderful, until I remember how much I miss working. Retrained as a teacher, but as this is a nice place to be, any local jobs are inundated with applications from fully qualified teachers with lots of experience and youth on their side!

CointreauVersial · 15/10/2015 17:15

Hello cressetmama. Your dog sounds very accomplished. I have a hamster that can walk upside down, but that's as far as it goes.

Strops, you must feel so helpless. I can't offer any practical advice, other than to say keep doing what you're doing, and don't forget about yourself.

Putting the garden to bed for the winter involves sticking the washing line in the shed and covering the table and chairs with a tarpaulin. Which will periodically blow off, and need retrieving from a flowerbed.

cressetmama · 15/10/2015 17:22

DS has now returned from school, so I am disappearing as he will call shotgun on the computer we share. Tip will be delighted to be called accomplished!

cressetmama · 15/10/2015 17:24

Reminder to self. It is time to bring in the garden chairs before the first big gale puts them through a window. This weekend......

Collymollypuff · 15/10/2015 17:31

Hello, Cresset - another dog-owning Crepey! Look after yourself, Stropps. Thanks

I read the following on dementia today, which I thought was good:

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/11931741/Validation-Therapy-stepping-into-the-world-of-a-dementia-sufferer.html

I am not a great one even now for being corrected on mistakes I make, so if you Crepeys all come and visit me when I am old and demented, I would like you to go along with my little fantasies...the ones described in that article are a hoot. I intend to instruct my dc very thoroughly in Validation Therapy. (Dh, otoh, will delight in pointing out all my errors...so he can fuck off.)

hattymattie · 15/10/2015 18:08

Stropps - so hard with DD, and of course you can't let go. It's a shame the school didn't see fit to have a frank discussion with you a couple of years ago.
Keep posting and venting.

My American neigbour is having terrible problems with her DS - he is partying and not studying at uni here and if he doesnt get his degree, he will have to go back to the US - he has never really lived there as his mother is an expat journalist. He tried uni there and lasted one term - too French in outlook.

NU - hello and sounds like you have some sort of yeti up on the wall there - makes me think of Game of Thrones. Talking of which, winter is well and truly hear, and I'm going to Uniclo tomorrow to get the thermals in.

Hello CressetSmile.

motherinferior · 15/10/2015 18:10

I am on my way home. I have an M&S picnic and am already necking red wine.

My mother's prognosis can briefly be described as fucking awful. At best six (6, vi) rounds of the less vile cancer will keep it controlled. If, that is, they can stop the bleeding which shows it is on the small bowel.

I am quite fed up. She may be a bit crap at being a mother but I am not enjoying this. Especially the bit where the onc pointed out (to me, privately) that she might v well have a "sudden catastrophic event" and tbh peg it before my sister or I could get there.

motherinferior · 15/10/2015 18:12

Sorry, that was All About Me. I am v pleased to meet you, Cresset, and Stropps that is a bugger.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2015 18:14

Oh MIFlowers

Lalsy · 15/10/2015 18:15

MI darling, am so sorry. Neck away. One doesn't even know what to hope for in those cirx (I sat with my df as he received a hopeless prognosis). Drink, sleep, let your subconscious do some heavy lifting Flowers.

motherinferior · 15/10/2015 18:19

Less vile CHEMO, that should read.

motherinferior · 15/10/2015 18:24

And my father continues to be in MAJOR DENIAL. He keeps hoping for the all-clear. DSis and I have never expected this, not since the first diagnosis. He is shattered because he really thought today might be "great, it's cured". And I have absolutely no idea how we are going to cope with him on his own. Which I realise we need to think about pronto.

Rosebag · 15/10/2015 18:39

I'm so very sorry MI. I guess we had all been hoping to hear better news. Yup...finding the spouse incredibly difficult to manage came as a huge surprise to me too with my DParents. Flowers

hattymattie · 15/10/2015 18:44

MI - really sorry about the awful news. Also I think (especially with men) that they are not good at dealing with stuff and so ignore is their coping mechanism.

On a happier note - I forgot to say Rose - I think that dress looks amazing on you and you have a lovely hourglass figure (I am like a tube with a bump where my stomach is.