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Creme de la Crepe

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MrsSchadenfreude · 22/08/2015 10:52

New thread...

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Rosebag · 08/09/2015 13:43

oh you old soaks, you…. Grin

herbaceous · 08/09/2015 13:45

We'd have to bring along industrial quantities of Zantac.

motherinferior · 08/09/2015 14:10

AND churros!

bigTillyMint · 08/09/2015 14:10

CV, sounds great - do they still do that deal!

No update from Caminos yet

Lalsy · 08/09/2015 14:42

Look at the small print, crepeys, they are onto us GrinGrin. Will have to save selfless gauntlet-tidying for another occasion.

bigTillyMint · 08/09/2015 15:08

Right Kings X is fully booked too apparently so I have just rung the Bankside branch and made a booking for 6.30pm on Sat 26th - let me know what you think - we can always change it if necessary. Who'd have known that would be such a popular date? Also, no 241 cocktails thereSad so we will have to find somewhere nearby if we stick with it...

motherinferior · 08/09/2015 15:11

Two hours. Huh. That’s a lot of cava…

BeachysFlipFlops · 08/09/2015 15:36

I'm test driving the new App. It's very whizzy!

I'm sure we can find somewhere nearby for cocktails. We could also do a Crepey wibble over the wobbly bridge.....

motherinferior · 08/09/2015 17:23

Crepeys??I??m reading another thread. And thinking about all the people who say ??they need you more as they get older??.

Mine, honestly, don??t. And I think that??s probably because I??m a crap mother. They make it very clear (DD1 says it explicitly) that if I??m not about they??ll just cook for themselves, organise their own social lives, and so on. OK, I don??t have to ferry them around (with a few exceptions of pickup from brass band for DD2) but also if I ask about their homework they just snarl that I??ve never done this before, why am I suddenly doing this, etc etc (told you, crap mother). I??m clearly getting something wrong. Or doing it wrong. And I??m worried.

motherinferior · 08/09/2015 17:35

Sorry about rogue ???s - cut and pasted from Word.

hattymattie · 08/09/2015 18:50

Vaguely caught up - my Tablet has gone for repairs so my posting is limited as I cannot just check in when I fancy. Have been running round the last couple of days sorting out schools, uni's, shopping with DD1 who has screwed the maximum amount of clothes she can out of me.

MI - may I just say - you look great on FB photo - I always thought very tall people had to stand at the back though (at least that's how it worked at school). Also you seem like a fab mother but I think yours are still quite young and aren't full blown teenagers yet. They sound really self reliant and that is a sign that they feel secure and confident. Therefore you are getting it right. You just need to be there when they need you and they will! (For what it's worth - snarling is normal).

Stropps - really great that DD has made A level choices and good ones too.

Has NU come back?

Meet up sounds brill.

WAF - great news on the agent.

BeachysFlipFlops · 08/09/2015 18:50

I was blaming it on the new app Smile

I think they do need you more, but in a different way. I've been reading the empty nest threads and it's making me a bit sad. Analogy of children at home being the planets circling around you as the moon, in that you know where they are, the same things happen every day and life is more predictable. Then, when they leave, they only come back as shooting stars, whizzing in and out unpredictably.....

Would just like to preface that by saying I think Stropps is being a very good moon surrounded by an unruly moon/shooting star!

BeachysFlipFlops · 08/09/2015 18:51

Unruly planet/shooting star.... Sorry.

bigTillyMint · 08/09/2015 19:06

MI I think it depends on the teen and I'm not sure they need you more - more that they need you differently - and not necessarily just taxiing. My two have been quite different in their needs and in how much and why I worry about them.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 08/09/2015 19:14

I am having a growly, I am a big, fat failure day today, Spoke to a very old friend this morning about getting together for a drink. He has just been made a Privy Councillor. The other friend that we usually go drinking with has just been promoted to CFO of some huge global company (we were moaning that he spends half his life on a plane these days). And I am still here, sort of somewhere in the middle, not going anywhere fast.

Interview today was OK but not brilliant, but I have decided I don't want the job anyway because three people have told me separately that the head of the secretariat is a nightmare. After two years of Bitch Boss I don't want that. Next interview on Friday. Would prefer that job, it sounds more my sort of thing.

I think the idea of being a SAHM to teens sounds marvellous. Particularly when they are at boarding school. I could do all sorts of stuff - writing, decorating, I could breed cats, weed the garden... the list is endless.

Snapped a bit at DD1 on the phone and told her that I was tired of her phoning only to complain about something. Could she be a bit more positive and start the conversation with something that had gone right for a change? Apparently this is too much to ask. (I could hear her eyes rolling over the phone!). DD2 then called to complain about the amount of work she is getting at school now, and got short shrift too. So we are all very moany at the moment!

Please come on the 26th Stropps. We will be much more fun than Belgium.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 08/09/2015 19:16

On a slightly higher note, I got a new cookery book in the post today: Rustic Fruit Desserts. Grin

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bigTillyMint · 08/09/2015 19:28

MrsS I am amazed that there are still recipes that you haven't triedGrin

Should we all be striving to do better/be better job-wise all the time (like the Tories thinking about exam results?) I think there must be something wrong with me. I just don't have any feeling that I have underachieved (despite having downgraded in my career instead of going for promotion) and I have no wish to move back up the career ladder in the future - I am happy with my work - life as it isConfused

Cremo · 08/09/2015 19:37

Bankside ( autocorrected to Backside) is fine for moi. T p s also muy bien.

MIyou are not at all a crap mother. The dds independence and self reliance is a credit to you, and also to a much smaller extent, the fact that you don't live in the sticks country , like us, meaning dd was utterly reliant on us giving her a lift everywhere . She completely refused to learn how to drive and continued, at the time, to use Dh as her personal chauffeur and me as her valet. I had hoped to help put in action some degree of benign independence, I suppose in as much as the earth need the sun to exist, but it seems dd prefers to orbit in her own alien universe and very occasionally 'phone home'
Whichever ways the dcs choose to launch, you will fret if they fail to thrive away from you, and you will fret if you barely hear from them again.

Sometimes I sound like Philomena Cunk. Grin

GiddyGiddyGoat · 08/09/2015 21:05

Is that a typo Cremo?! Who is Philomena C when she's at home?

Bankside suits me just fine although a bit gutted about absence of 241 cocktails and we can get by with lasjhings of wine no doubt...

But MI you are very around for your teens aren't you - whilst at the same time setting a v good example by working and pursuing your own interests. I think just being around (if you can) is good for them even, or especially, if they don't appear to appreciate it. That's just them being teenagers I think. How would they ever bear to leave home unless they found their Mum irritating at times....

Well said to your 2 Mrs S.

Hi Auriga! Very glad you can come to the knees up.

Stropperella · 08/09/2015 21:28

Oooh, I am all over the shop. I am finding this 2 jobs business a bit taxing. But I have loved, loved, loved teaching my first pupil so far. So that's good.

Was supposed to go to circuits this evening, but had to go to A&E with dd instead. She rang me in a state because she felt one of her "special" headaches coming on towards the end of school and had tried to get a GP appointment on the way home (the headache saga has been rolling on since last December) and they said there was no appointment until Monday. She diagnosed herself last week with cluster headaches and today the A&E doc agreed with her and explained that this is a migraine variant (dd's father developed monster migraines in his teens but grew out of them eventually). So she definitely needs to see the GP to get sorted with migraine meds etc. Hmm, I don't think she really needed another challenge just now, but hey, such is life.

Now, I would very much like to recommend a book about teenagers that I am currently reading. I bought it on the strength of recommendations on the Teenagers section of MN and dammit I wish I had read it about 2 years ago. "Get out of my life... but first take me & Alex into town." Approx once every paragraph, I want to shout "OMG, yes, yes, yes!" I keep seeing dd in it every few sentences. Last night, true to form, dd decided to do her French hw at midnight. As you do when you're trying to make a positive start in Y13. Hmm Then again, at least she bothered. Ahh, MI, just enjoy the fact that your dds are not needy monsters. Mine definitely needs me around more than she did 4 years ago at 13, but I have to be prepared to take so much more punishment than I did back then. She doesn't need me for lunches or stuff like that, she needs me as a sounding board, a rock, a triage nurse and a kick up the backside. And various other things besides. Whereas 10 year old ds just mainly needs a PA and a chauffeur.

Am just getting round to tentatively finding out what dd's plans are for the w/e of the 26th. Would be good if she went to stay with a friend, I feel... (have nasty feeling that she may have plans to go to a uni open day, which may scupper all chances of me joining you that day).

Lalsy · 08/09/2015 21:28

Yeah, exactly what GGG and everyone says. Being around some of the time (and not knowing when the best time is, often, given their social lives). You can't subcontract teenage kerfuffles so for families that used a lot of formal childcare for little ones, it feels like 'more' perhaps? I think the 'being around' while WAH has its own bagful of issues, which I failed to sort out, but think you do admirably at it MI.

'More fun than Belgium' - a Crepey mission statement Grin?

Lalsy · 08/09/2015 21:29

Oooh sorry X post Stropps

GiddyGiddyGoat · 08/09/2015 21:33

Aren't most things more fun than Belgium? Grin

Blackduck · 08/09/2015 21:39

Stropps you have to come!
Bankside I assume will work for me - can someone PM once everything is def decided?!

Re teens - MI I think you are doing fine and raising independent kids. Mine is pretty self reliant!

Oh MrsS when you up on Friday? I'm in for the grilling at 9.30 (clearly going alphabetical...)

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MrsSchadenfreude · 08/09/2015 22:35

1.30 BD. Sad

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