Rose, hope the move goes smoothly.
MrsS, I agree that it does sound as though your dh is somewhat enabling the neighbour's behaviour. If your dh is holding financial docs and cheque books etc for him, the neighbour will probably have it in his mind that he is entitled to knock, and it sounds as though he doesn't necessarily keep track of what the time is. Am highly intrigued by the fact that his umpty-two children and 3 ex-wives want nothing to do with him. It all sounds v ... creepy. I don't think I'd want to be holding financial bits and pieces for someone who is tending to paranoia, in case they got paranoid that I was nicking all their money. Sorry to hear about your dd. Given the situation with my dd, I am also only in a position to commiserate rather than offer advice. Dd whinges, whines, moans, shrieks and throws things in her upset about XYZ school matters, but is furious if I ask her what she wants to do about XYZ. Half the time at least, it would appear that the moaning is the point, rather than actually seeking a solution. The other half of the time, she wants to manipulate me into magicking up (i.e. doing the spadework for) a solution, so that she can continue with putting her energy into the really important things in life (such as messaging her friends, straightening her hair and sticking on new eyelashes). Ooops, do I sound bitter? 
BTM, glad to hear Reading was a great success. Hope the 6th form start goes swimmingly.
Here, dd is still unable to work out what subjects she is doing this year. She was supposed to re-enrol today, but "I couldn't talk to anyone because there were only 3 teachers and I would have to wait, like, an hour". I have no clue how she thinks she is going to sort it out, because she rang me, moaned about XYZ, so I made suggestions for what she might do. So then I come home and find her sitting on the sofa watching TheOnlyWayIsChelseaKardashians or somesuch and when I asked if she had called any universities to check what subjects they definitely required for entry for whatever it is she wants to do, she said know, she didn't know which ones to ring. So the sixth form starts officially on Monday. Nothing decided. Ok.....
I have started taking on private pupils. And of course there is a sudden influx of my other work on ridiculously short deadlines ("We need it by 6pm CET" etc). And I still haven't taken up ds's school trousers and he starts tomorrow. Buggeroo.