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Sorry but can I ask how you remove hair "down there"?

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mindifidont · 03/04/2015 09:08

Firstly I'd like to apologise if this is tmi or inappropriate...I hope it's not.

I'm really fighting a losing battle with this one.

I like to stay completely clean down there, like after a Brazilian, but waxing just hurts to much and I don't like having to go to a salon.

Shaving is easier but it grows back too quickly and I get inflamed hair sacks so get lots of red spots....not the look I'm after.

What magic tricks am I missing? Surely there's an easy, pain free method of getting smooth without the pain?

OP posts:
Fatty12 · 03/04/2015 15:37

I'v been getting it waxed for a number of years, the first time the pain is extreme but then i just got used to it and after a year or so .. the hair started coming back after ages!!

TRexingInAsda · 03/04/2015 15:39

Another vote for laser hair removal.

To all those going on about having to have hair down there so as not to look like a 10 year old - do you also not shave your armpits or legs? Genuine question.

TelephoneEggGnawingMachine · 03/04/2015 15:40

Grin at "public hair"!

Witchofthenorth · 03/04/2015 15:40

Grin that's a whole other thread Grin

Jackieharris · 03/04/2015 15:46

Women have only started 'magically' wanting to have bare vulvas since the explosion of online porn into society. It is giving men and women f* up views of what is 'normal'.

OP if you want to wean yourself away from this habit maybe try trimming with nail scissors so you have a compromise by having some hair but no nasty side effects of hair removal.

Whoishillgirl · 03/04/2015 15:47

Witch, I never said you had watched porn. Just saying that is where the trend came from because it did. Of course women can say they feel cleaner. Less sweaty, more comfortable but those are not the real reasons. The real reasons are cultural. We all do things we are cultured into but come up with rationalisations as to why we have made an independent free choice. That is just how we are. All of us. It is just really bizarre to observe this in a different culture, especially one that is just a decade or two behind mine. It really shows it for what it really is.

MaryWestmacott · 03/04/2015 15:47

the whole "If you are trying to remove your pubic hair you want to look like a child" thing - without thinking that it's clearly not a 10 year old's body, hair or not.

Men have facial hair after puberty - while beards are back in fashion, the majority of men in this country remove their facial hair, or at least some of it -they aren't accused of trying to have the chins of 10 year old boys.

anyway, back to the question, Veet is ok, but it doesn't get it as smooth as waxing and I'm going back to waxing after this lot has regrown. Hot wax isn't that painful.

cosytoaster · 03/04/2015 15:49

I'm nearly 50 and this craze for removing it wasn't around when I was younger, so agree it is probably linked to increased access to porn. Really don't understand why anyone would go to the hassle - it's not like you really look at it yourself down there or it's on public display.

TelephoneEggGnawingMachine · 03/04/2015 15:49

TRex I have never waxed my pubic hair, and haven't shaved it in over a decade (certainly never since I've been with DH). He couldn't care less how I have it - his opinion is that it's my hair & it doesn't really affect how he feels about me. I don't shave my legs in winter but I do in summer if I'm planning on wearing a dress or shorts, or going swimming. I do shave under my arms, but that's a hygiene issue as I find it easier to keep feeling fresh & clean, as I don't wear antiperspirant, so staying hairless under my arms is better.

And no, I'm not blessed with naturally fine body hair. I have PCOS.

I did try hair removal cream on my upper thighs once - completely pointless - I had to leave it on for so long that I ended up with several open sores. Never again...

MaryWestmacott · 03/04/2015 15:49

And yes, the 'all off' trend did come from porn innitally, it's a lighting issue, but that doesn't mean that allthe woman still waxing all off 10years later are doing so because of the porn industry - Sex in the City did more to publicise the Brazillian amongst woman.

IsadoraQuagmire · 03/04/2015 15:49

It's a hardly a recent development. Women of Ancient Greece, Rome and Egypt all removed pubic hair.

Tuono · 03/04/2015 15:53

And yes, 10 year old girls have no pubes, women do

Not all women do. Pubes often thin out to nothing as you age. Part of why I like my natural look is because it brims with yoofulness Grin

I'm at looking 50 coming up soon. My baldy days are yet to come. I'll live with my future skinhead foof as long as it does all the work with the fluffy bits falling out on their own accord.

MaryWestmacott · 03/04/2015 15:54

Actually, thinking about it, the Sex and the City programme when they first discovered Brazillian waxing on a group trip to LA was when I was at uni, so around 2000/2001, after that, you started reading articles about woman trying the new trend of Brazillian waxing and salons started offering it, all in a very short time frame - within a year it was suddenly a 'thing'. Apparently porn was doing the 'all off' look for a while before that. I think it took the SATC to make it mainstream in this country. Blame Carrie!

HoppityVoosh · 03/04/2015 15:54

Sometimes I wax it all, sometimes shave it all. Sometimes just a tidy up the edges wax or shave. I can't believe other people care what a pubic hair looks like. My DH doesn't care and he's the one who sees it so why do some of you?

No, women with no pubic hair don't look like pre-pubescent girls. They look like women who have chosen to remove their pubic hair.

Witchofthenorth · 03/04/2015 15:55

I get what your saying who I really do. It just gets me irrationally angry when people chime in with "it's only cos they do that in porn" or "why would you want to look like a 10 yr old?" and such.

As I said, irrational anger!Grin

All I know is that I have never had a conversation with someone about removing my pubic hair and was honestly ignorant to the bald look in the porn industry. I literally got fed up of feeling dirty when I was on my period and more sweaty the longer it grew, despite showering daily.

I was putting nair only bikini line, tidying the spiders legs one day when I had a "I wonder?" Moment and slapped the cream all over. I've never went back. It's the blanket assumption that all us bald folks do it because of porn and how we have been conditioned to think that gets me.

SkaterGrrrrl · 03/04/2015 15:55

I don't.

And frankly I'd be Hmm if my DH wanted me to resemble a prepubescent child or a porn star.

RonaldMcDonald · 03/04/2015 15:59

I'm a bit ? about this as I don't seem to have any firm ideas
I'm not a fan of getting it all waxed off but quite liked it when I did
I liked a hairy bower too but...
Mostly it is trimmed and I have it waxed into a small triangle which according to my chewing gum smacking waxer is all the rage in muffs atm

HoppityVoosh · 03/04/2015 16:01

Yeah Skater, I'd be Hmm if my DH wanted me to look like a pre-pubescent girl or a porn star too but y'know he doesn't, he doesn't actually care what I look like. Sometimes there's with hair and sometimes there's not.

NeedAnEasterEggForMyGiraffe · 03/04/2015 16:05

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houseofnerds · 03/04/2015 16:12

We care because your 'choices' are becoming 'rules' for our children, removing their choices.
We don't want our children to grow up believing that unless they spend hours and money investing in unnecessary 'beauty' practices, that they are weird, abnormal, dirty, or just wrong.
I don't either.

Choice is a funny thing.
Your choices are removing choice for the next generation.

All this nonsense about dirt and knicker elastic is ridiculous. It's trying to legitimize a beauty practice, like the whole 'oh I couldn't possibly go out without putting on my mascara because '
It's teaching your daughters that they are not good enough, that they need to spend money and time to conform to beauty practices because they are not good enough the way they are.

Witchofthenorth · 03/04/2015 16:23

That's ridiculous! My daughter is not privvy to my garden tending. And she is being brought up surrounded by love for who she is, what she can achieve and that she needs do nothing to make herself look better.

She knows she is good enough and is growing to be a confident young woman. Of course I know i have years of fighting the battle between her and what media perceives of her, but just because I choose to remove pubic hair and sometimes wear make up does not negate me from raising her to be proud of who she is

DarylDixonsDarlin · 03/04/2015 16:28

Wow this thread took off! Grin wasn't expecting it to turn into this kind of debate tho Confused

Its just (my) hair - and like my head hair, I'll do as I please with it. If that means I want to dye it purple and have patterns cut into it then wtf has it got to do with anyone else?

Should we say the same about eyebrows? I take my DDs with me when I have an eyebrow wax, am I giving them the idea that natural unshaped brows are bad? Hmm

NeedAnEasterEggForMyGiraffe · 03/04/2015 16:34

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123rd · 03/04/2015 16:46

I use immac

Pipbin · 03/04/2015 16:50

I'm not sure when eyebrows started to be plucked to within a inch of their lives either.

(I remember when there used to be a specialist porn magazine for men who liked women with shaved parts as it was unusual)