MN Vogue Vol. 53

[libertychick]

We are so over winter and cannot wait for Spring/Summer 2015 to hit the rails - come and chat about clothes, make up, sparkles and shoes. All styles, tastes and budgets are welcome.

I always size up in any swimwear as otherwise I find them creeping, you know, upwards

My passport just arrived, looks like I am going on holiday after all!!

I saw this and thought it was the perfect bag for all you Autumn MNVoguettes.

Love that colour Linus

Afternoon everyone! This was supposed to be a quick hi but has turned into an epic post. If anyone can bear to scroll through it, I would love some advice on the last para I wrote.

Firstly, hope all Voguettes & DCs are, if not better, at least on the way to being so.

DS's head bump is still seven shades of blue but otherwise well. I'm still a bit shocked that they have those kinds of automatic doors in a school. All the fuss schools make about health & safety these days...not allowed to go out and play in the snow the other day but fine to have a heavy door slam shut when it senses loud noise...in a school

Did anyone hear about the Myleene Klass "birthday present" email? I thought it was quite funny. I always ask parents if their DC would prefer cash so they can buy something they really want. However that really only applies to small birthday gatherings with DCs closest friends as opposed to a whole class type party. I think the way the mother of the birthday child and her friend conducted themselves was pretty obnoxious tbh. I cannot imagine sending out an email suggesting all 30 invitees give my child a tenner!

Blair - another one here who always sizes up with bikini bottoms. Trying to get the balance between comfortable coverage but "not your mum's bikini"

One Yay to passport and travel!

I was thinking about past Voguettes/S&Bers and wondering what happened to the MNer who lived in Italy - I think she was a fashion journalist or perhaps PR type? Cannot remember her screen name...perhaps Donna something? Also does anyone remember LetThemEatCake? Not sure if she was an MN Voguette or not but she was always very active on S&B.

Just one last thing: If you had a situation where a man was giving you unwanted attention but found it awkward to say something yourself, would you be happy with DH saying something? I'm in a horrid situation which, as a grown woman, I find frustrating because I should be able to speak my mind. I have made it clear through not engaging & blanking when seeing him in public but I feel awkward making a "thing" out of it because he has reason to be at our house because of his job and then I have no choice but to engage. Sorry - this sounds really convoluted and complicated! Anyway, this week said man made an appearance for reasons other than work (not a real reason - clearly just an excuse). DH has had enough and wants to say something. We will be at an event this evening where this person will also be. DH is a very reasonable, intelligent chap so I'm not concerned that it will turn nasty BUT this man will have to call at our house in future and I am the one that will have to see him. I hate that he makes me feel awkward and just yuk & I want it to stop. But I cannot bring myself to say anything because I feel that he will just say "oh it's only a compliment etc". Do you know the type?! Sorry for going on. Actually feel quite tearful now I've shared. Apologies Voguettes, did not mean to bring on the heavy on a friday afternoon!

Oh ujjayi don't be upset,you've done nothing wrong. In your situation, yes, I would be happy for my DP to say something quietly and sensibly. if it makes you uncomfortable and upsets you and you haven't been able to get it through to the man in question then I think your DH making it clear he needs to stop would be fine. You know your Dh and it sounds like he wouldn't cause a fuss and make a big deal of it and would just quietly tell him to back off. I hope it stops and you feel happier soon

Ujjayi I think if I felt too awkward to say something myself, then I would try to make sure I never had to see him again - but it's difficult when you can't explain why he needs to call at your house. I guess having your DH say something is a good middle ground, but then I'd worry that I'd feel more awkward the next time I had to see him. Really sorry you're in this position though.

Thanks all for the bikini reassurance! I think bikini designers need to learn about vanity sizing

Linus that bag is gorgeous. I don't really like the full sized Marcie but the little cross body is nice. I saw a lady at lunchtime with a pinky-red Paraty.

I can't open any of lib's links as they start loading and then stop

That is really horrible ujjayi! I understand you feel uncomfortable and you have every right to be. What a creep!

My DM had something similar happen to her when I was in my early teens (the creep in question came to deliver something on a regular basis) and after a while she refused to open the door when it was him ringing the doorbell and if DSis or I opened the door without checking on the videocam who it was we had instructions to tell him DM was out if he enquired after her.

He really made her feel uncomfortable in her own house, luckily he did get the message eventually but it took quite a while.

I'm not sure your DH should tell him to back off tonight at a social event as the creep might make a scene but maybe he can have a 'quiet word ' with him during the day making it clear his services won't be required anymore if he doesn't stop harassing you.

So sorry you have had to put up with this.

Thanks One Blair and Linus. Linus - your mother & have a lot in common with this one. That is basically what happens here - I have to get eldest DS answer the door if I suspect it is the D-man. He makes my skin crawl. I never respond to any of his comments, just try and take the damn parcel & shut the door but as your mum knows all too well there are just some people that don't get it. It actually makes me think twice before ordering anything online because of it.

ujjayi I love your outfit today, you look so fab, you have a great figure and generally just look fab

Wearing red today for CHD awareness in support of a friend who ragically lost her baby to it

Dp is back tonight for two nights so will hopefully have a ncie weekend spending some time together. He might be going abroad for work again int he next couple of weeks, it's weird how it makes me miss him more when he's not in the country even though we live at opposite ends of the country here anyway

If he is a delivery man can you start getting parcels delivered to your DH's work or something?

It sounds terrible, I bet he knows how he is making you feel, those types often do :(

If it's a delivery man Ujjayi then why not send a polite email to the company he works for? I'm unclear as to how you know him socially too but that is tough. I think if my DH was going to say something in an instance like this I would like to be stood by his side so he could see that DH was speaking on my behalf too IYSWIM. Poor you - how horrid :(
Dona is still around as FrugalFashionista I believe.
So the Boden cashmere arrived. This bright pink is the keeper. I never in a million years would have thought this could look good on me but my whole face lights up - I love it, couldn't take it off :)
The darker one here is too muted for me - you were right QueenC
Linus the medication you suggested was pretty much what I survived through Uni on

Ujj tricky......even if someone says something, wouldn't you still feel a bit awkward opening the door to him? Could you call delivery HQ and ask for another delivery person?

X post with Shop... Great minds

Fist bumps Dry

ujj that's really tricky, maybe try to be firm,and don't interact with him ,just take package and say " I'm really busy,good day," once or twice,he might get the message without the need to say anything, I've been in a similar position before, and honestly it only stopped when I changed work

I've just read about myleene email drama, and some parents at her daughter's school are furious as they say the email is a year old, so why did she bring it up now, also she has no right to share these private email with on Instagram! I for one would be upset too, and I think that if a child wants one thing then why not chip in?

Oh! One more thing , why didnt myleene think about her daughter before posting the email ? This thing will really have an effect on her, not getting invited to parties and stuff, it really shocks me that this thing slipped her mind, she was trying to make a point and generating publicity. but it really backfired horribly.

Can't believe I'm still going on about myleene

Blair DH commutes to London each day so not practical for him to be bringing home parcels, unfortunately.

Shop I don't "know" him as such - he just imagines he knows me! Eldest DC is at the same school as his, a few years apart but a common interest iyswim. Whenever he sees me at events for the common interest he basically makes a beeline for me. Last time, I spent the whole event not dropping eye contact with anyone I was with and ignoring him - even though I was aware that he kept hovering to try and talk. My friends were astounded at how obviously desperate he was to get my attention and I just didn't relax the whole evening.

Santa - I have tried not interacting, being too busy etc It worked for a while but he has recently upped his game and started with compliments etc to which I don't respond - just ignore.

On reflection, I think I need to say something rather than DH and I think I will say it this evening at the end of the event when I will have had a glass or 3 of chardonnay. DH is never usually one to step in but he knows how uncomfortable I am and his just knocking on the door this week for no reason was just the last straw. I have just been standing in front of the mirror practising saying "Your behaviour makes me feel very uncomfortable. Please stop paying me compliments and do not just turn up at my house for a chat. It is completely inappropriate" before walking away. My weakness is that I hate being rude to people - even if they deserve it - so I need to ensure I don't start being apologetic for being forthright.

Thanks all. It is really helping me to talk this through with you.

Santa - on the Myleene thing. I hadn't realised it was a year ago - so clearly just drumming up business on that score. I also think if a child wants something specific then organising for everyone to chip in is fine but I don't think it is okay to ask for a specific amount nor to do so unsolicited. I think the way I would have handled it would be to say to a good friend whose DC was invited that it would be lovely if...and see if she spreads the word! And I have to say that asking for a desk is frankly quite bizarre! As parents yes, we have a loathing of plastic tat but DCs love all that stuff, no?!

Completely agree that her poor DD must be mortified and she will get the rise taken out of her and given knowing & pitying looks from other parents!

Or you ever have irrational dislike of famous people? I've never liked Myleene.

I saw her once, out at lunch. She is, as they all are, tiny

ujj that's awful. I think you do need to say something to nip it in the bud as it sounds like he is v determined. What you were going to say is fine, definitely not rude.You should not have to put up with this behaviour. Disgusting lech.
Actually something similar (but not as bad) was happening to me last year. One particular delivery driver was a bit too familiar for my liking and made me feel v uncomfortable he would linger for longer than necessary trying to find out stuff about me. One time I missed his delivery while I was at work and he kept asking where I work so he could come and deliver it there instead. He is the one that delivers Outnet, nap and matches so don't see him too often and If I do order anything I always select Friday as re-delivery as DH usually works from home and answers for me.

Ujjayi if you get time have a look at a book called 'The gift of fear'. We get signals about certain people for a reason. If he was a nice, genuine man he would realise that he was making you uncomfortable and he would apologise and back off. Would any of the nice men in your life, friends or your DH ever do this to a woman? You need to get angry - this man is a creep. You are worrying about being rude to him but he is not worrying at all about making you feel threatened or uncomfortable. How dare he, seriously how dare he? You don't owe him anything and in fact he owes you an apology. Seriously, think about how would you react if someone made your daughter or your sister or your mum feel like this and then defend yourself the way you would defend them.

and breathe men like this give me the rage

Ah for you Ujj, sounds really difficult. Good luck, your line sounds good.

I saw MK shopping on Oxford Street once - she is even shorter than I am! This was the day I also saw Denise Lewis iirc - she was not short!

Also Lib is right, it is making you feel uncomfortable because it's a bit off.