A lot to catch up on. NU that is really sad about your DCat. And when you're feeling unwell and jaded too. 
and hugs to you.
cremo could it be because you've been there for your DD that she feels confident that she can flounce off like that...but she knows and she hears. It's just the egocentricity of youth. You're an amazing parent...try to believe that. They don't realise how hurtful they're being sometimes, I guess.
MI sounds like you handled it really well with your DM and I'm sure they will make sure she knows what's what to do re stoma care before she's discharged after the surgery.
addle you are a saint!
tilly ours is also freezing....discovered that half of the rads aren't heating properly and DH the silly bugger has been turning down the CH thermostat before retiring....( it goes off at 11 anyway) so it's only luke warm when we get up until someone realises and cranks it up to a decent temperature. However we're back at the flat today and it's very warm and cosy. The house is like a wretched draughty barn.
CV I sympathise. I too suspended my low carbs for the festive period. I am fat, bloated, full of wind and hungry all the time. I think my latest indiscretion was to have polished off a Stollen loaf almost entirely by myself. Oink.
Have done a longish walk today forcing myself and the entourage. We are certainly better tempered for it. Worried that my hips seem to ache these days. It was about three miles...used to be able to do much more than that....ah me.