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The Darling Crepes of May

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CointreauVersial · 12/05/2014 17:25

My turn......

OP posts:
motherinferior · 22/05/2014 09:34

I did nine O-levels. It was when I was still an Intellectual. Grin

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 09:39

Rose, if you were here the only possible thing to wear is a wet suit! The cat has insisted on going in the conservatory and the rain is hammering on the roof. It's cold in there, too, so there is a draught whooshing in.

Herbs, sorry you're not feeling so well - have you been overdoing things? Possibly the excitement of getting on your course has worn off now and you're feeling deflated. Have an easy day.

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 09:43

This feeling of exhaustion happens about one day in three. I can't put my finger on what it is. Not sleeping well... not taking my iron tablet... doing a fast day... none of them always correllate.

But yes. I shall take it easy. Other than voting. And walking DS around and about the place.

I had to HAVE WORDS with his teacher the other day. He's got a new shell for his eye, and it turned around, making him look quite odd. Two of his 'friends' said he looked like a monster. He was all upset. I told teach, and she's going to have a 'circle time' about everyone being different, special, etc...

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 09:50

Oh, Herbs. Poor little love.

Have you had your thyroid levels tested recently?

I have just put the heating on.

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 09:52

I don't think I've ever had my thyroid checked. In fact, I haven't been to the doctor for myself for years. I'm due a smear, but the very thought makes me cry.

QueenQueenie · 22/05/2014 10:02

Morning Crepesters.

Ds1 doing "Core 2" AS Maths as we speak. Ds2 doing his first GCSE exam tomorrow (taking one this year, the rest next year). So I'm another one with a ds in Year 10 - we seem to have a few of those between us!
REALLY looking forward to this time next year - A2s and GCSEs.

I hate that really exhausted feeling - when it's all you can do to drag your weary carcass through the day... I sometimes think it's the weather - well that and not enough sleep probably.

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 10:08

Perhaps a visit wouldn't go amiss, Herbs? And please go for your smear (my Dm and Dh's DM both died of cervical cancer). You must give time to yourself: what would the family do if anything happened to you? Sorry if I am lecturing.

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 10:13

Sometimes I feel the family would be Just Fine if anything did happen to me, as I get the impression my relative economic inactivity yet desultory approach to housework make me more hindrance than help. But DS would miss me.

I know I know I must go. But it hurts SO MUCH that the very thought makes my ladygarden clamp shut. I doubt they'd do it under general anaesthetic.

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 10:33

You've obviously had a really bad experience; when you see the GP tell him/her about your fears and see what they suggest. And I can't believe that you're equating your worth to your earning capacity, Herbs! Totally irrelevant: you're obviously a very caring, generously hearted person. Please don't fall into that masculine trait. And look how you got into your course - you seemed to have sailed into it to me. Have you a RL friend who you can meet for lunch or coffee? I think you need to get out and see someone for a bit of fun. Baby sitter and a night out with DH?

cremolafoam · 22/05/2014 10:40

Oh herbs it could be iron or thyroid or just the fact that you have a 4 year old and are propping up dh and everyone else , and all that volunteering you do , and dealing with a massive life changing new course . Even writing that makes me exhausted. Give yourself a break lovely HerbsSmile

I did 12 olevels , two if which were dossy ones in lower sixth ( remember that lazy year we had between O and A levels?) in Music and Social something or other.
I did do Geography which I also loved for the drawing of Ox-bow lakes, scree slopes, bread-lines, wadis,
and weather systems. I have clear and detailed knowledge of sheep farming in East Anglia and The Murrumbidgee Dam. And no I've never used it except perhaps to win a round on Pointless.Grin
Dd getting her yellow fever jab today which allegedly makes one really ill.
Plus this vaccination thing is costing a fortune Confused

Leg responding a bit to paracetamol. Could I be one if those people for whom tramadol is uselessWink

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 10:43

Oh dear. The kindness of (relative) strangers has just made me do a massive cry, and realise that I have multiple big worries, many of which I need to sort out with DP, yet cannot as he ignores me. And I haven't pushed it, what with his dad dying and all. So it's all festering within. Not good.

Sorry. That's my self-pity whinge for the week.

QueenQueenie · 22/05/2014 10:44

Herbs, you sound in a bad way. Have a hand to hold and a virtual cup of tea. I'll make you a cup of salted caramel green tea which I am completely addicted to at the moment. There there.

Have you had a terrible smear experience or has it always been horrendous for you? I would suggest going to a family planning (are they still called that?) rather than gp. They do so many they they are much better at it and tell them about being scared in advance. I'd also suggest a stiff shot of gin / some nurofen before you set off. Don't fel hopeless about it. I haven't ben for the mammogram I should have had 2 years ago so am ridiculously reckless. I am going to make the appointment.

cremolafoam · 22/05/2014 10:46

Holds herbs little paw{}

QQ me too. Should have had mammogram in October but failed to make appointment.Blush

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 10:50

< wail > I'm not even pre-menstrual, just mental.

It's always been painful. But the last one especially. It was six weeks after DS was born - so only five four years ago – and it was agony. But yes - maybe I'll go to family planning clinic. The nurses at the GP are lovely, but always make me cry just be asking if I'm OK. FP would be more brisk.

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 10:53

DH has just received the letter telling him that a bowel cancer screening kit is on the way: OMG that means there will be one for me shortly. Sad My experience with these isn't good. I always have a failed one, then a clear. And then they tell me because of the failed one I need to do another one. I hate them and would actually prefer a mammogram instead (although that paints a very amusing picture in my mind).

QQ, where do you get the salted caramel green tea from, or who makes it: I really fancy trying it.?

QueenQueenie · 22/05/2014 10:57

It's delicious NU despite sounding rather... odd. It's only Twinings and sold in my local Waitrose in with the other boxes of green tea. Do you think it will have reached you up North?!

Blackduck · 22/05/2014 10:59

Herbs - offers tissues (which I have a stack of as I am very lachrymose this week...) I too hate smears and it has taken me ages to get over it (consciously relaxing helps but takes a while to master), also I think some GPs are just rubbish at it and FP are better.

Clearly a lot going on in your world hence you feeling like you do.

hattymattie · 22/05/2014 11:00

Herbs - smear test shouldn't hurt, only be vaguely uncomfortable.

I blame the hot/cold weather for upsetting everybody's systems. Have been to gym so feel much better but still not worth going to the hairdresser - am looking more and more raddled,.

cremolafoam · 22/05/2014 11:02

online supply QQ

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 11:08

I like green tea, and I like salted caramels, but have a 'thing' about flavoured teas. Maybe this can cure me.

I really do need to take the bull by the nettle, and discuss massive stuff with DP. Such as the fact that as we're not married I'm in a very vulnerable financial position, but he refuses to get married or discuss an arrangement. Or, whether I should get a maintenance grant for my course, or whether he'll support me. He goes a bit tight-lipped whenever I bring up my studentship, so that convo is going to be fun. And many more.

He can't help, of course, with the other big stuff - dad dementia, ever-collapsing body, etc...

My hairdresser doesn't use a mirror. One of her big pluses.

hattymattie · 22/05/2014 11:11

Somebody else has recommended that tea - given that I love Hagen Daaz salted caramel ice cream, the tea might be a lower fat option.

Herbs - I think six weeks after a baby is not a good time for a smear given that you'd still be somewhat tender (missed that on first reading). Also, I'm not sure men are emotionally capable of giving support - they don't understand lady problems and it's generally not in their make up to empathise (or maybe it's just my DH).

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 11:17

I had a c-section, so my parts were relatively unscathed by the birth, though perhaps still reeling from the shock.

QueenQueenie · 22/05/2014 11:18

What do YOU want to happen Herbs.
Do you want to be married? Do you want to take out a loan for your course or do you think he should be helping with the cost of it? They are big conversations but important ones too.
It took dh a good while to come round to the view that finances should be properly shared given that we are married and have two dcs... he was initially much happier when I was earning lots of money and frightened by my giving that up. Nowadays though he appreciates me being more around for him / the dcs / the dog with more time and space to do all the things he doesn't have time for...
Your course is a huge step towards a different, more reliable career. Why wouldn't dp want to support you in that? What does he think you should do?

herbaceous · 22/05/2014 11:27

The problem is, I don't know whether I want to be married. Pros: it will make me more secure, financially and emotionally, and be a good party. Cons: I will have to share my big money with him (inheritance, capital on house). Don't want to marry someone who doesn't want to marry me or discuss anything without becoming martyred.

I've got to take out a loan for tuition fees anyway, it's just the maintenance part I'm wondering about. His career has really taken off in the past couple of years, partly because he's been able to travel abroad, do long hours etc, because I've been holding the fort. My career is, consequently, in the toilet. I also supported him while he did a masters. I thus think he should support me during my course - it will only be for eight months, realistically. But he's recently been chuntering about wanting me to pay more into the joint account, etc etc...

NUFC69 · 22/05/2014 11:28

Good advice from QQ there, Herbs. Sitting yourself down and deciding what you want is a start.

We have a Waitrose so I will have a look tomorrow.

Off to the hairdresser now in an attempt to look younger.