What does one wear to a swingers club?

[SnowNotSoWhite]

Apart from not a lot
Have no intention of getting totally bare assed in public so any ideas on nice lingerie and clothes that would, be, ahem, accommodating?

What is sploshing? I don't want to google it in case I am confronted with an image I can't get rid of.

nfk - it's an extreme version of sex with food. So imagine big bowls of custard, beans and cakes etc. It's nothing disturbing in the slightest! Google away.

Just looked at it. It looks a bit like a student rag week. In Spain, they have a tomato festival where crowds of people roll around in tomato pulp. I imagien that has the same sort of charge.

It is if you have a baked bean phobia!!

I think sploshing must be something that's done in private, have never seen it at a club!!

I don't think I'd be comfortable with sploshing, all that food being wasted.

My puritanical streak manifests itself in the oddest ways. I'm fine with the idea of partner-swapping and group sex, but unnecessary food waste annoys me.

EBearhug, I'm with you on this. There are people still starving in the world in this 21st century, flinging food about for jollies strikes me as distasteful at the very least.

KatoPotato, a baked bean phobia? How do you acquire that? I'm picturing a summer's meadow picnic, horribly disturbed by an angry swarm of baked beans that chased you for a quarter mile away from the cucumber sandwiches and ginger beer, leaving you nervous in their presence ever since. You don't want to know how my imagination thinks a baked bean propels itself through the air.

Sploshing does sound decadent in a rather crass way, not to mentioned decidedly un erotic,
It makes me think of children's television and being 'gunged' or whatever they called it when people got covered in goo

I totally get the baked bean thing...I can cook them for the kids but the thought of - shudder - and not in a nice way - bean juice touching my skin makes me want to stop breathing and throw up!!!! Same with ketchup and peas, but bean juice would be the worst. Makes my wasp phobia seem perfectly normal though!!

Honestly I've no idea where it came from, but I cannot bear them! They make me gag to think about them!

I once even passed out at work training when it was a massive communal breakfast... There was a vat. A vat.

One of my colleagues tried to hypnotise me... Didn't work..

"bean juice touching my skin"

What exactly is 'bean juice'?

The nasty sauce the beans are in. I dislike baked beans, just because they are in sweet bean juice. Flip, "sweet bean juice" doesn't sound out of place in a swingers club does it?

If any of you are in Birmingham, there is a fetish fair there tomorrow afternoon. Lots of stalls selling kinky gear and equipment. There is also a workshop about ' fire play'...

One substance that i came across is nutella. Apparently a friend i know liked the idea of pouring it down his partners top although she had not yet agreed to let him try it.

Nutella doesn't pour that well, even after being in the microwave for a bit. (Used it as a cake ingredient recently.) I think it would kill the mood a bit to be banging the bottom of an upside down Nutella jar to try and get it to move.

One thing about fetish events / Bdsm is what is the psychology behind a man or woman leading another man or woman around wearing a lead and collar?

Total domination/submission. Don't really get it myself. I get a bit freaked out by anything too close round my neck anyway, so I physically couldn't handle it. I can do submissive in the bedroom, but walking round like that isn't me, either leading or being lead. I want to know someone is there by choice and could walk away, but chooses not to, and I want someone who can express their own opinions and expects to be treated with respect (as I do,) not humiliation. But that just means it's not something which does it for me - it does for others, and as long as they don't expect me to be actively involved, that's fine.

What an extraordinarily educational thread.

I'll never think of baked beans in the same way again.

Or be able to keep a straight face when I think about this thread either...the 'etiquette' of swingers clubs...! Well well...you live & learn. Ive been to one ages ago, with an ex of mine. Pretty erotic in its way but it wasn't about doing anything with other blokes, just getting off with my one really and I couldn't stop thinking about how many bums n bits had been in the Jacuzzi

OP I hope you come back and tell us what it was like

This thread has made me look at certain things differently... Like the advert for a local hotel's swimming pool "Sploshing and Nosh"!!

to everyone thats been to a fetish/bdsm club. what are the main types or common outfits that males and females wear at these events ?

Came across this website on bdsm items www.fetters.co.uk/dungeon/

Can I just say that I love that this thread is still going?

glory hole!! I had never heard of this. If I saw a hairy bottom pointing at me I would be worried it would trump on me

Yay the thread's still going! For those of you asking what people wear to a fetish club, here's a link to the 'Club Rub' website, lots of interesting pics on here...

www.club-rub.com/index.php/gallery/gallery-events