What does one wear to a swingers club?

[SnowNotSoWhite]

Apart from not a lot
Have no intention of getting totally bare assed in public so any ideas on nice lingerie and clothes that would, be, ahem, accommodating?

Destiny me? Intrigued! Personally I don't think it would be for me, but I'd love to see what actually goes on. Don't think I'd ever be brave enough to find out though...

Curious to know which one it is...

I get it a bit more now. I think an acquaintance of mine actually took me to one at the end of a night out in London a few years ago - we were struggling to get home and it was freezing! Being quite drunk I remember queuing and having a little giggle at people in lots of leather and PVC, huge boots and studs. The bouncer didn't let us in for ages because we 'weren't dressed appropriately'. We persevered but when we finally got in there were only about 10 people milling about. It was very warm though I am now reassessing whether her ex's new g.f confiding in me that he liked to almost strangle her so he could come was a new thing... Also keep seeing other friends (one of whom I know was a very well paid dominatrix from a ver ver posh public school whole new meaning to naice ham!) and their pics on FB and recognising some of the themes mentioned by Destiny. It is a very small world!

Destiny I've definitely put too much info about myself on MN a few times I think. I'd have to PM you which one it is!

I have a friend who tried being a professional Dominatrix for a while. She got fed up with it tho because men often would lose their nerve and back out at the last minute which meant she then had to cancel the dungeon she had booked. She had some good stories, the best one was a client who wanted her to insert a can of Dr Pepper in his anus..!

Yes Destiny, my friend did it for about 5 years and stopped, party for the same reasons and partly because she wanted to have a normal 9-5 and perhaps start a family. She had a huge amount of bodices though and her confidence was through the roof. I remember her telling me how much she earned to walk over men's backs wearing stilettos for an hour and I was They never touched her, just wanted her to whip them and make them lick her shoes mostly. She moved to a coastal town years ago though so haven't seen her for a while. She still looks like she knows how to have fun though - loads of parties with some themes you mentioned above.

Actually, I say they never touched her, having thought on that I do remember her saying she had a couple of scary experiences. I don't remember details but she didn't make light of them. She certainly said it wasn't a regular thing though and she had less of that as she knew the job better. Confidence was the key, apparently.

TheVictorian, yes. Very much so. Everything, every little detail, all the fun bits, all the cool stuff, all the funny stuff, what we could've done better, what turned out not to be as much fun as anticipated, what possibilities we might have missed, everything. Same after a session at home. It's part of savouring the experience. And getting back into normal-life headspace after the massive emotional rushes.

takingthathometomomma, there's nothing stopping you attending to watch. Seriously, happens all the time. Lot of folks like an audience, so long as you're respectful and stay out of range of the whips etc.! (Yes, this does occasionally happen. Getting in the way like that is grounds for being thrown out of a lot of venues.)

Herena, oh dear me yes. Amusingly, DP and I are theoretically open. Neither of us ever really bothers. Without the thrill of the illicit playing away becomes a question of whether one can be bothered. I'm far too lazy, as it happens. Even if a quick phone call to DP to check she doesn't want to veto is about the extent of the actual limits. Still too much effort and generally when I'm really missing her anyway...

This has been a really interesting thread! Especially on a subject I've always wondered about.

There's a swingers club quite close to where I live and me and DP were considering going to one of their couples nights but after a baby and a ruined changed body, I don't know if I've got the confidence to walk around a club in lingerie

I think I may have to send one of you knowledgeable MNetters a PM!

Happy, that's what corsets are for, they hold it all in..!

Very true! Although I've got an extremely large bussom and finding corsets to fit is a frigging pain.

I was also wondering, if we're new on the scene would we be shunned for not getting involved right away?

I would think we would have a few drinks, chat to people and look around but would probably only have sex with each other, if that!

God, I sound like such a wuss.

I've got quite a large bust too but find corsets really easy to wear and very flattering. You can always wear an under bust corset with a pretty bra... Also no one would judge you if you just came to a club and hung out. Everyone's been through that same period of being new and nervous. I find people to be pretty understanding tbh.

I think me and DH are going to go for it after reading this thread, although I too am worried about my
Wobbly middle and neither of us getting any action. The stuff MN makes you do!

We should negotiate a mn discount!

Cunty & Brita

No, don't be embarrassed. I was laughing at "things MN makes you do" and "MN discount"

Cunty we'll do it together and report back with our experiences of glory holes and pie buffets!

Can't wait for that thread!

I'll say!

OP returns!
Am no clearer on what to wear but might take a radio .
Am v curious about seeing a swingers' club and am pretty much sure I'll bottle out of doing anything except perhaps watch.
Worried it'll be seedy, sleazy and chavvy sex snob but planning on having enough to not let that or my mum tum hanging out of my lingerie bother me too much.
Would be nice if Daniel Craig could be on that leather bed or heating up the pies though...

The link to the questionnaire was fascinating. Sort of made me a bit sad in that there are a number of the less pain related things I would like to try but have never been with a partner into anything like that. Two of the things I definitely would NOT be into and had absolutely no idea that they were even a 'thing' was roleplay as a Pig and as a Puppy. That seems curiously species specific for starters!

happy everyone is new once. People are generally really pleased to have new faces (fresh meat). Swinger do's and fetish clubs are incredibly social places and most people are happy to chat and put you at your ease. They want you to come back. Nobody will jump your bones without your permission. It's supposed to be fun.