Chanel Bags...

[SugarHut]

Hello....not a stealth boast, more of a quick, help me not look like a chav....

A friend of mine is in handbag shop right now. He's just text me saying would I prefer a "Chanel Quilted Caviar leather Flap bag" in black, red, white or gold.

What do I have? Discounted red as I have a red Lulu Guiness clutch. Is white chavtastic? Do I go classic black, or nudey gold? Both I have loads to match, outfit wise. Help quickly please!!!! What's best?

Googled them...I presume it's the small one. He doesn't know me that well to spend loads.

TIA!!! x x x

I don't think this situation is necessarily as straight forward as some posters are suggesting.

Some rich men will shower glamorous/ beautiful women with gifts, despite knowing there's no sex on the cards, as they want to be around glamour, it makes them look good and these women may be fun, sympathetic, easy company. And they will pay for that, since what it costs isn't that high for them. A friend of mine is quite beautiful and has a rich friend who loved to spend time with her, and be seen with her, and bought her an Alexander McQueen dress and a MaxMara cashmere coat for a work dinner he took her to. She looked gorgeous, and was fun and he wanted to be around that. Being with her made him look good to others and feel good about himself.

To be brutally honest, though, I don't know if she would have spent as much time with him as she did if he wasn't rich. But he was, so they hung out, and it worked well for them, until she met someone she fell in love with, and no longer cared for the arrangement. I'm not sure how long these things ever last for. They lack good foundations.

Wouldn't that make you an escort (being paid to be around a man)?

bunnymother - I suppose having a partner makes it pretty obvious that sex isn't on the cards though? Kind of eradicates the "hope" element - and makes it harder for your friend to spin the line that she's "available" in some way. If your second paragraph was true then the rich bloke would simply enjoy being with her for her fun, sympathetic and easy company and your friend would reciprocate that. But it is really about the sex, or the hope of it when you boil it down to gravy.

The scenario I am talking about wasn't that commercial, it was a friendship. They are still friends, in fact, but not as close as they were. In this situation, the "payment" from him wasn't required (although was undoubtedly appealing), and it was luxury goods, not cash. And the "services" from her were just her company. Surely, it's not a binary scenario - how about beautiful women marrying rich men - Melania Trump was asked if she would be w Donald if he wasn't rich and she asked, in response, if the interviewer thought Donald would be w her if she wasn't beautiful. I'm not looking to open a big Pandora's Box, but just think that some of these situations have subtleties beyond a straight escort set up.

In the scenario of my friend, though, it all changed when she met someone she actually loved - sort of cast a different light on the relationship w her rich friend, and changed it, suggesting the friendship as it was lacked, err, integrity. If that makes sense.

Sorry for the essay - I find these sorts of things quite interesting. What we offer, what we want etc.

Cross post w Miss bee hiving - I think my friend meeting someone else lessened her desire to see this rich friend - I think she must have felt there was an element of falsity or something that she wasn't keen on her new boyfriend knowing about. Or maybe the rich friend did just like to hope there was a chance for him (even though there she had been clear there wasn't). Like I said, these set ups don't have good foundations, so don't always go the distance.

Dexter73 lol at escort.

My brothers ex-wife was an exotic dancer lol.

Thank heavens they're divorced and she's the biggest gold digger out there!

Yep. .. I'd still go for coffee with him regardless, bunny gets it rather well. He wants to turn up with this that and the other, for once, I shall damn well take it :)

You go for it!

Some quite nasty posts on here IMO. It's up to him how he spends his money, you've been honest. Why are posters judging you? I don't get it. I get the sense people are quite aggrieved that this man is happily buying you nice things and that you aren't obliged to sleep with him. Some posts sound not far off 'you have to fuck him now otherwise you're a cock tease' which is just daft. You're both adults - it sounds like the situation described upthread where he just wants to spoil you a bit.

I know a couple of beautiful model types who have been showered with stuff, all good natured, brief relationships or friendships, some men just like flashing cash and spoiling people and let's face it, it's lovely to be given nice things - some posters need to lighten up. He's not buying her, or anything close. He's buying her nice things. Expensive ones! I am delighted when DH or a friend buys me a chocolate bar, it's a special thing to be given a random gift - if I was rich I'd spoil people I liked

I have nothing against buying presents for friends and family but buying someone you have only known for 9 days 2 Chanel handbags, Calvin Klein bangles and earrings, a pretty Swarovski watch, some sparkly Uggs, , some Chanel Coco Noir, and Dubarry Galways is just plain weird.

Sugar Hut what sort of modelling do you do? could have sworn you said you were in 30's so catalogue work would be out...

my brother works with models (photographer) will have to ask him to ask them if they get offered 'additional extras'.

ooh sorry didn't mean catalogue just meant normal modelling work....

I'm around 30. I don't give exacts on here as would be too easy to identify me. I still a fair bit of modelling, I look about 23. But, you do seem to know so much about it, very well informed, I must say, so I won't bore you with any real fact. And the detail as to what castings I take or turn down, well, that's none of your business :)

HTH.

ps... shreddedhoops spot on, I think a lot of people can't imagine that situation happening to them, so they treat my situation with how it would work out for them. You are perfectly right. Just because to some people, the only way they can see someone giving you lots of pretty things is to tart themselves out or be a cock tease, well that's a reflection on them, not me. Just because in their case, they probably would be obliged to sleep with him, string him along, whatever, you're right, they're just pissed that it's not the case for me, so "la la la" we won't believe it. He likes being out with me, he likes chatting to me, I think he's hilarious, and we enjoy each others company. Does he fancy me, yeah. Do I fancy him, no. Do either of us view this as anymore than a friendship. Nope.

I love how "help me pick a colour of a bag" turns into a mass of peoples own insecurities masked by an attempt to take a superior highground.

I'm next seeing him on Tuesday....bags should be here by then....woop!!

But really, you were looking to court controversy, or why post the thread? It would have been easy enough to ask about the colour without going into detail about who was paying for it. Were you expecting us to all go 'oh how lovely for you, you obviously deserve it, being so beautiful and fabulous and all, stranger from the internet'?

It's disingenuous to play the innocent victim of viperous tongues when you confess to something morally dubious on a public forum.

Plain and simple, I was after the opinion of what colour of bag to get. Which I think is pretty clear. The fact other people can't help themselves is nowt to do with me. I also couldn't give a flying fuck whether I seem a "deserving" person to anyone else or not.

I guess some folks have to look for the negatives and false motives in everything. Glad I'm not one of those folks.

You could have just asked which colour bag to get though... Didn't need to mention how you were getting it at all.

In fact you said it wasn't a stealth boast (why say that at all?), then said your friend was in a shop, then said you didn't know him well.

Rather than 'What colour bag should I get? Black, cream or red? I already have a red so might discount that... But please tell me quickly as I need to make a decision now, thanks!'

Anyway, whatever. I don't actually care who's buying it but it was blindingly obvious you wanted people to know that a man who doesn't know you well wants to spend money on you. And if you didn't mean it to come across like that at least you know now that it did and can avoid in future when he's in Tiffany & Co next week and you ask us if you should go for a solitaire or trilogy.

Enjoy your bags!

Not really. I had about 4 minutes to make a decision on something quite expensive. Do you think the post "Hi...chanel bags, quilted flap, unsure of size, do I get it in black or gold? Quick responses if possible please?" would have got anything other than a page full of "why don't you know the size?" "What's the rush, take your time over an investment?"

Good Luck to you, enjoy the bags. No one can tell you what is happening in your relationships friends/lovers or otherwise. This man is obviously loaded and I'm assuming that he's not putting tens of thousands of pounds of goods onto a credit card that he can't afford to repay, but that he has significant sums of money whereby he can more than afford to spend the kind of money he has been and not blink. this could be the equivalent of a bunch of m&s flowers for him.

Whilst I don't think I would accept the goods myself, who knows if I was in the same position maybe I would?

Is he an arab prince?
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I'd love a black Chanel bag....

yes not a stealth boast the list of everything else he has bought you was really relevant to what colour bag to pick. surely being in the fashion industry you should know what will suit the stuff you have and so don't really need to brag post about it here. Anyway its your life and up to you how you choose to live it enjoy your handbags.

Don't blame you for accepting gifts. I sure as hell would, given half the chance. Lots of jobs have perks and freebies. These are yours, you lucky devil!

Some people do seem to struggle with the idea of being given presents unexpectedly and the giver not needing anything in return. In the past I used to love giving friends, work colleagues & family little treat presents when I saw them - plants for keen gardeners, special foods for foodies etc. I enjoyed the giving & I thought they would like the receiving. However I gave a work colleague a bottle of beer from a local brewery I got when I was on holiday & his response was "many thanks - I'll enjoy that", but then an aside - "but now I'll have to get you something when I go on holiday". Obviously a Chanel bag is on a different scale but it probably costs the same percentage of your chum's income that a bottle of beer was of my income. Your chum will have enjoyed selecting the gift & your happiness when you got the gift.

That's what I thought too skinhead that I'd like a black one...then I was arguing in my head that they looked a bit twee. Then I thought, well everyone gets a black one, so go for the most popular. Then I thought, it depends on the size.... so apparently I have a large creamy coloured one, and a smaller black one, which can be used for day and evening respectively. But...til I actually have them in my hands next week, I'm not getting too excited...til then, it's just words...