Wisely and avidly planning our Christmas lists..

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Come join me!
Not so inspired but I do so hate being threadless.

A quick hello, thank you for all your collective loveliness.

Looby I'm keeping up the 'brave' front but totally broken inside I've allowed myself today off work, and back tomorrow to just do one day this week. Hope I can hold it together at work, nobody (other than line manager) knows so should make it easier.

Bunny how are you? Possibly your last ever day of being pregnant ever! Wishing you all the best for tomorrow, will be thinking about you lots.

Roary sorry to hear you're unwell.

Bloss did at you only taking the job if you find the right trousers!

Tulpe I like the look of those shoeboots.

Hello Poly the warehouse leopard scarf (I've got it in brown) is amazing, it's my favourite scarf at the moment.

Ooh Bloss...what exactly is a 'swopping party'...and yes, will you be on tel?

Or these, high waisted drainpipe from Zara?

roma/marsha/cake/hells Great outfits today! I'm in boring but practical skinnies/pink long sleeve T/Belstaff combo today due to microwave schlepping. Can't believe I had to carry the box from the shop to the car. No shopping trolleys, no one to help.

carciofi Love my Belstaffs but they probably won't be on sale before springtime.

roary So sorry you are missing your dinner tonight. Hope you feel better soon.

pickled Get that coffee machine going and fingers crossed for a quiet night tonight!

dolcee Your DD's christening sounds lovely. Love my teadress too. What kind of shoes did you wear?

bloss How exciting! Looking forward when we are picking an outfit for your TV appearance .

cake Hope you don't stress about bloated-ness. I'm sure it will go away if things are back to normal.

vin Haven't got the weights yet and I'll be happy to wait. Jillian is still in her wrapper. notyummy's and abo's talk about V lunges and squats make me nervous already. Made feeble attempt at Dukaning too but I just can't do the attack thing. Maybe I'll try again before Christmas. Also trying to break the sugar addiction but find it terribly difficult. Had to indulge in a bar of chocolate yesterday after I was being shouted at on the phone with a client .

All the best for tomorrow bunny!!! Hope you are not too nervous today and get some rest. It will be wonderful when you hold your two little ones for the first time and I bet DD will be so excited too!

Oh Zembo

Bloss - how about the topshop faux leather trousers - they'd make you memorable in the classroom

Dolcee - glad christening went well! Whens the auction?

Oh Zembo...really feel for you. Keep strong and take time for you to come to terms with your loss...big hugs...

Second warehouse scarf! Have it in brown but grey fab too!

Hells my feet are39-40 (actually my left foot's 39 and my right's 40

So many x-posts.. I'm such a slow typer.

bloss Sorry, not sure about the teaching trousers. Couldn't you just wear a dress/skirt or skinnies?

zembo Must be so difficult to put on a brave face for work/DCs etc. Wish there was anything that I could say or do that would actually help

A job for 1.5 hours a week sounds faberoony from where I am, by the way. I have, unsurprisingly, discovered that I can't do my job 8-4, but I recruited an extra person - hooray! And he's started and is v.good, so I'm pleased about that. That means that I've taken my staff from 5 to 8 in about 2 months!

Hi zembo, I'm sure it's going to take some time. Keep strong in work, and take it slowly at home.
I'd ideally wear my skinny jeans with blazer combination, which I love, but I think it would be frowned upon in the staffroom. Can't really believe I'm agreeing to this! It's been over 6 years!!!!!
No, I'll get £50 for for my 1.5 hours, which will add up. I've run out of things to ebay too, so it will be nice pocket money. I've said before, I'm down this year as no longer getting carer's allowance and I've no evening classes at the moment either. I'm quite excited by the prospect to be honest!

Auction mid Dec...dh involved in lots of activity, and I am ostrich like. Took ILs to see yesterday. They were at amount of work. Complete renovation. But then they cannot possibly see why we have taken 2.5 years and still not found a house!

If we get it, I think I will cry. Bizarrely have met my potential immediate neighbour. Been unknowingly sitting next to her at swimming since summer. 3 DCs too. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm........

Good for you Bloss! The staffroom, by the way, might have moved on from 6 years ago, and skinnies might just be de rigeur? 1.5 hours a week sounds perfect and hey, check out your hourly rate lady!

Thanks fritzi. How dare someone shout at you!
Maybe I could wear the Janice next week, with flat shoes or boots, and my blazer. And keep the blazer shut.
But will have a look at skirts. Just a little look...

Right, about to sort out the mess that my ILs have left whilst DD sleeps...honestly...I was a good hostess as, although itching to get the hoover out, I refrained, and cannot bear it any longer...plus they changed things around in their room

Moan, moan, moan...........

Lots of nice by Malene Birger just in on Outnet - sadly most things I wanted already gone in a size 8 but lots of 10's and 12's left. Hurry ladies!

Have placed large Outnet order even though I said never again.

aaaagh. Will live to regret I am sure......

dolcee, exciting re house though, no? It may be worth it in the end. I hated every minute of waiting for this house. Every minute for 4 years I tell ya!

BTW, there's petrol money in that £50 too! Before there's a mass stampede to PGCE school!

Oh Bloss, LK have some lovely high waisted skirts at the moment....

Sorry about the TV career, by the way, but its normally advisable not to work with children, animals or family I hear!

Yeah, yeah, yeah but see, I feel I 'wasted 10 years doing up my old house...the only comments I have made to dh are that I will not do that again, so we will: a) rent this whilst we do it, and b) will have a proper time lined contract to get work done. As the rent on this place is not cheap there might be some impetus to do the job swiftly !Failure to do so will result in the immediate commencement of divorce proceedings.....

Wise words dolcee. Get an architect, builder and project manager on side too!

I should really print out syllabus for Spanish GCSE shouldn't I?
Just remembered my roll neck merino dress, my zebra dress, my M&S jersey dress. Will be perfect. I'll wait a while before buying trousers I think! Can't do skirts, such a faff getting the length right and the to tuck in or not debate.

Bloss - you need some black thick jersey/lycra skinnies - look like skinnies with propr fly/pockets etc but are not denim iyswim. Trying to think where I have seen some.
They did have some on Outnet a while back, also mango/zara. Mint velvet?

Zembo - It does get easier with time but so for you. It's good that you don't need any further medical interventions but make sure you replenish your body with iron/vitamins etc too as I think it is quite hard going physically as well as emotionally. Are you really sure you need to go back to work tomorrow if it is just for one day. Why don't you fib a little if necessary and tell your line manager you still have physical symptoms and will be back next week?

DH found out very recently that one of his employees had had a mc on the last transaction they were on. She didn't tell anyone or take any time off and was working day and night seven days a week. DH was really that she had not said anything (he didn't necessarily expect her to tell him personally btw) and had just carried on as normal in what must have been such difficult circumstances. DH feels really bad about it and he can't say anything to her because the way he found out was really uncool (someone else being indiscreet) so he can't offer his condolences/sympathy to her. Not that I am suggesting you should do anything based on this anecdote but DH's associate probably thought he wouldn't care/understand/be sympathetic and actually he was horrified by the fact that she didn't take some time for herself and to recover.

Zembo, can you not take a couple of weeks off work? It sounds like trying to put on a brave face will be really hard, not to mention the fact that you can't be feeling well physically either.

I find the v raises hard too notyummy; am very impressed with your superman abilities! Speking of which, I really should go and do it now rather than sitting on the computer...

roary sorry you're not well

zembo I understand that you prefer to keep what has happened private from your colleagues, but I hope that doesn't mean that you are pushing yourself to go back to work sooner than you are ready to. What's happened is a big deal, and I just wanted to say that I hope you allow yourself the time and space you need before having to be too 'brave' before others.

Feel very dull in my borwn cord skirt and oatmeal jumper after hearing about everyone's fab outfits today. I may need to change after The Shred

x posts with Esher, but I agree that I would much prefer a colleague of mine to take time out in your circumstances.

Zembo don't under estimate your loss. In a way it can be very unhelpful to know that mc is relatively common since it tends to make one think that they 'shouldn't be making a big deal of it'. The fact is that you have lost someone, despite it not being a baby that you may have held etc - from the moment you start planning a pregnancy, imo, you invest yourself emotionally in a planned future with that dc. So it is a loss on many levels, not to mention what your body is going through. Please be easy on yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. One of my biggest regrets from my loss is allowing myself to listen to people who said "oh well, at least you can have more babies/ it did not happen later/ she wasn't a real baby etc". I dragged myself into forced okayness far earlier than I should have and paid for it later.

Hope this helps a bit. we are all here for you xx

Cake, that's beautifully put.