Right, will have to be quick as making tea. Sorry for the me me me post in advance.
Ok, DH had an arranged marriage at the age of 18. He went along with it as didn't know any better - married his first cousin (common practice amongst many Pakistanis) who was barely literate, whilst he is extremely bright, had just go 5 As in his A levels and was about to start his medical degree at Cambridge. Went ahead with all that, had 2 kids when he was 20 and 21.5 yrs old. Second child has cerebral palsy (not too badly affected, but pretty much dependant on her mum now aged 18yrs). DH is not particularly a family man so needless to say things didn't work out. He left his wife and kids aged aprox 7 and 5. He went on to marry again (not me yet!) and had another DD. This time he married a real nutter, so again things didn't work out and second divorce. So when I met him he already had 3 kids. Just to repeat myself, he's not into family. No contact with DD2 (he persued via court for a few years then gave up). Very little contact with the others - we saw his DS1 for the first time in 4 years last weekend, it was the first time my two met their half brother. All a bit 
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. So, if we manage to conceive again it will be no. 6 for him. How selfish am I 
. He is totally over kids (could have lived very happily without ever having any) - he does love our 2 very much but rarely involves himself too much! BUT he does seem to love me very much (suppose he's had a pretty crappy life before he met me!)- so there you have it. A bit complex,no? He does financially support all his kids (very generously, esp the disabled daughter - way above CSA payments)so does feel responsible for them all at least!