Thanks for further comments re M&S coat. I haven't seen anything on Hobbs that fits the bill, but maybe more will come in soon. I was hoing that if the fit was good, since it's a good price I could splash out on some more ££ scarves to cheer it up... I had an M&S deep purple coat last year which was great, but a chunky weave. I fear a flat weave may look cheap. Anyway, will see when it comes in and meanwhile look on.
Thanks also for your kind words about my friend and her loss.
bunny if you and DH need to share the changing-bag aspect of a bag, how about getting a roomy wash-bag for the nappies, wipes etc and just transfer it into whatever bag either of you is using? I've had a simple zip-up cath kidston oilcloth one for years and it's perfect. Goes into whatever rucksack or day bag we're using, or even just under the pram.
tracey are you looking forward to a week without DH?! Mine doesn't go away, but I do relish the occasional evening alone that I get when he goes out 
DS2 starts school tomorrow, so now I must go and fill his pe bag and label his book bag. Although he's 5 already so probably the oldest in his year, he still looks so tiny 