So many problems with SC

[M2p]

I have been a SM for about a year, SS 12 SD 9 yet I feel like this is just getting worse as it goes along.
At first yes it wasn't too bad, meeting them starting to get to know them but as time has gone on I've found myself separating myself from the situation trying to keep busy when their here. So they are very fussy eaters, will never try anything new and if I cook something ive made before that I know they like sometimes they say they don't like it and won't eat. If I don't have dinner done at a certain time all hell breaks loose and it's like I'm starving them to death but they never moan to me about it they go to their dad. They ignore me, even when my P is around, they will ask him questions to ask me. It's even worse when he's not in the house which is a fair bit as he works and he leaves them with me multiple times in the week, i will ask if their hungry and they will just say no all the time, but as soon as my P comes home the first thing they will say is their hungry and haven't ate like I've done it on purpose. Also SD stares at me all the time i can see her out of the corner of my eye. Sometimes she will just stand with her head poking round the door while im doing something it makes me so uncomfortable. These are just the main things there is also little other things that goes on aswell, has anyone ever experienced anything like this before?

@M2p if their father isn’t available then surely they should be with their other parent? Otherwise what is the point? You aren’t enjoying the relationship, and they aren’t either. The only person benefiting from this situation-ship is this man! Possibly to reduce maintenance payments..

You have a DP problem.

OP with all due respect I very much sympathised with you at first but reading your last few updates you are a bloody fool. People treat you as you allow them to and you are allowing all this. This isnt on anyone else but you. Its your fault, you are allowing all this.

So who is looking after SS tomorrow?!

@Ophy83 I don't know, I'm leaving before he goes to work

@itsjustbiology I know it is and I'm an idiot to allow it to happen

He's going to leave him on his own, and somehow it will morph into you being selfish and not having your priorities straight.
If you really don't want that child being left on their own, father and boy need to leave before you do in the morning. He thinks he can just carry on regardless and you will fall into line.

It might be more; he might “ like” op as far as someone that selfish can like anyone but themself. But op needs to step back and ask herself if he’s worth getting involved. It seems to me it’s working for him and a disaster for op and the children.

@M2p he is a cheeky fucker - you are not his babysitter or his housekeeper. Wait for him to
go out, change the locks. Seriously, get rid. You can do better - and better alone than with this selfish bellend who doesn’t parent his own kids.

Haha ok this is ridiculous. He moves in with you and leaves you to look after his kids who don't like you. He hit the jackpot

This man is using you for babysitting, maid services and sex. Just get rid of him.

He definitely seen you coming, free house and childcare on tap...

Good morning OP. I hope you have already gone out. Your partner just completely ignored your wishes and picked up his child anyway, even though he will be working. Do not back down.

Morning, i am out. Just before I left I saw him get a bowl out ready for him to have breakfast and made him a sandwich so at a guess he's leaving him home alone. He asked me what time I'm going to be home and I said I don't know

Thing is now after all that's been posted on here I don't know wether to do dinner tonight or not cause they will expect it. Do you think just should get back in time and make it like i normally would or try and stay out?

100% stay out and have a lovely dinner!

100% stay out! Think of your favourite food, sit in a lovely restaurant in peace with a book and a glass of wine

Stay out.

Stay out

@M2p

I feel like there are bigger questions you should be focusing on right now.

What is your decision regarding the relationship? make that decision and work back from there.

So if you're ending it, then set a day/time when you will be telling him and how much notice you'll be giving him to move out.

Once you know the above you can work out your actions up to that point.

I've been thinking about your situation OP, you could really do with some peace and quiet I think away from all this pressure.
If you were my friend in real life I would strongly advise you stay out not just for today but the whole weekend. And I know it's easy for me a random Internet person to say this, but I really agree with so many posters here, kick him out of your home.

For today, I’m voting with the ‘stay out’ people. I think you taking some time to yourself whether that’s alone or with a friend would be good for you. Try to do some things that you enjoy, don’t just hide somewhere watching the clock. Go and have a look at the shops, a nice long browse in a bookshop, go to the cinema, walk in the park with a meal-deal picnic, things like that

I vote stay out! And to talk through all of this with your friend today.

As countless others have said, he saw you coming!
Stop being a doormat and tell him to fuck off.
Oh and 100% stay out later!

This, all day long. Maybe have a little adventure, stay in a hotel or go somewhere on the train. Take some physical space from the situation.

Or if money is tight, get a notebook, go to the park, and sit and write it all down. Our brains respond differently to handwriting than to typing and you might get different ideas or more clarity from doing this, especially out in nature.
really take the time to think about what you want from your life.