Really not interested in SDD

[Flobobo]

Probably going to get a flaming but genuinely I am just not that interested in my SDD age 6.

I have my own DD (16) been with DH 4 years, married 1. No kids between us.

It doesn’t help that DH and his family treat SDD like she is the first 6 yr old to ever exist, they even have a dedicated WhatsApp’s group to her where they all just go on about how amazing she is.

In truth, she is a regular 6 yr old, and actually can be quite spiteful to my DD in what she says and does to her.

I am kind to her, buy her things, take her out, involve her with my animals etc but the constant over the topness is nauseating tbh.

I know I’m being harsh but how do I deal with it?!

I feel really sorry for your daughter.
Can't be very nice for her.
Living with a bratty 6 year old and a step father who is a lazy father to her.
You absolutely have a husband problem but I don't think your own choices regarding protecting your daughter have been great.
If you are working at weekends, has she to cope with this badly behaved child?

I wonder what your daughter thinks of your choices that have foisted this pair on her.

How long are you married, living together if you are together only 4 years?

'sadly my DD is aware that she gets away with a lot so doesn’t bother to mention things now, only in passing or if something is particularly shitty like this'

This is the problem. I'm sure your poor daughter really resents this nonsense and can't wait to get away from it all. In a few years your daughter will move out and your DSD will be in her tweens/early teens and be unbearable and your daughter just won't come back very often. The fawning WhatsApp group isn't the problem, the massive disparity in how your child and his child are treated is the problem.