Husband being dramatic over holiday

[Pluddy67]

I recently went away with a friend abroad.

I purchased my 2yo a small gift whilst there and also rang to speak to her every day. I also bought my sister a gift as she helped a couple of the days collecting from nursery when H wasn't home yet.

Husband made comments when I got back about it being unreasonable that I hadn't bought something for DSS. He also mentioned the fact I never even asked to speak to DSS or say hello when I facetimed our DD.

I think he's being silly and a bit dramatic. Especially re the facetime thing. Of course I missed our DD and wanted to see her. It may sound awful but I didn't think about DSS once and certainly didn't miss him, why would I be desperate to say hello to him?

DSS is 11 for reference.

Nope!

Apparently it does need to be said, given the amount of people that think they can dictate what others have to be doing/thinking/feeling.

Meh, we don’t know where it lands on his scale of ‘minor annoyance’ to ‘marriage ending crisis’, but either way it’s up to her whether she wants to meet his standards.

Sure, she did indeed ask. Given that she quit replying days ago it doesn’t seem like she was that invested tbh.

What literature? Cinderella? 😂😂

Actually she does ! She will affect a child’s life and her husbands relationship to that child ! It’s a huge responsibility, they like it or not is there . People like you seem to think nothing of marrying someone with children , seem to think it doesn’t affect anyone but it does ! Stop being so self centred. Those children where here before you and should be your husbands priority

No, she doesn’t. Evidently. You may want her to, but that isn’t the same thing as her having to. Your approval isn’t required outside of those familial relationships you actually do have any authority over - your own.

and no, a stepparent isn’t responsible for a stepchild. Parental responsibility remains with the parents.

So simple and true.

I don't.

Absolutely, but also Medea and Katerina Marmeladov in Crime and Punishment. Also, from real life, my niece's step-mother.

Your poor niece, thats sad :(

I’d be asking your husband to have a serious word with them when he’s back. Also I’d be telling them yourself too. It’s not okay to be like that

That’s pretty much half the week.

You let your true feelings show. DH was disappointed. You’ll all get over it.

Also says everything about OP’s attitude toward her poor SS. She’s not bothered about him.

Interesting. Saying no to anything isn't really relevant to OP's post so I presumed it was personal experience you were speaking from.

He’s not being “dramatic” or “sensitive”, he loves his kid. It obviously matters to him that his son feels loved. You’re on here asking strangers if you’re being unreasonable for not giving a shit about that. Yes, you are. Be nicer to his kid ffs, you’re an adult.

No she doesn’t. Give over.

She certainly does. Very few on this post who agree with OP.

Couldn’t agree more. Totally devoid of human compassion or feeling.

So? Doesn’t mean they are right.

Shows a most have empathy and know how to treat kids.
Doesn't mean you're right either, so 🤷‍♀️.

I would have bought him back a gift if I’d bought one for one child.

And my husband wouldn’t have bought back a gift for his daughter alone so I think you are an outlier on this.

I think your husband is being a little dramatic. Sounds like there’s a deeper routed issue here… But if you don’t miss him then you don’t miss him. I admire you for being so honest. Your bond with both children will be totally different.