So me and my partner have been together 4 years..I have one son he has two girls 8 and 5 no children together. For the first 2 years his ex wouldn't allow him to have the girls it was a nightmare. Now we have them every single weekend Fri to Sunday. I have a two bed house so I sleep in with my son (10) his girls have our bedroom and sleep with him. The situation now is too much for me I can't cope every single weekend I basically have to pack my stuff as they sleep in as they go to bed so late, I have to be out sat and Sunday morning for my sons football. The house is a total mess they are nice girls but just don't respect anything clothes get chucked everywhere, rubbish gets left, they don't flush toilets. Which to me at their age should just be normal to do those things. It takes me most of Sunday to tidy the house get rid of the sticky hand prints the mess and to change all the bed sheets. Then most Sundays my partner just drops them home and goes to the pub. I feel like there is no respect for me, I do everything get the shopping in and when it comes to birthdays I wrap and buy the presents and get balloons etc. I even buy mother's days presents for them to take home. For example last weekend I washed 8 outfits that one of the girls kept changing all were dirty and messy with food. And the youngest still wears a nappy to bed and just weed in it in the morning basically because "I just wanted to do it in my nappy" which obviously meant my bed was soaked. I am at breaking point I I just cry. There is no talking to my partner he just seems to get angry even when I suggested that once in a while they go home on a Saturday and just stay the one night. I work full time and my partner now works away for most of the week and then at the weekend I can't even get into bed with him...I just don't even know anymore. ☹️
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harriethoyle · 21/03/2024 09:36
You need to ask him to move out and prioritise yourself and your son. Your DP sounds like a nightmare.
HeadInTheSand0324 · 21/03/2024 09:41
This isn’t sustainable at all OP and it just feel so overwhelming.
In a perfect world you’d go your separate ways but I know it’s not that easy when you have a child together.
I have no idea what the answer is but I just wanted to post to say that the way you are feeling is of no surprise and I hope that somehow you find a resolution 💐
harriethoyle · 21/03/2024 09:36
You need to ask him to move out and prioritise yourself and your son. Your DP sounds like a nightmare.
minnie1813 · 21/03/2024 10:09
Oh I didnt add it's my house he moved in with me
minnie1813 · 21/03/2024 10:09
Oh I didnt add it's my house he moved in with me
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