Hang on..I'm a mother too.

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Sorry it's a mothers day one.

So DH asked repeatedly if the DSC wanted to spend mothers day with their mum. Their mum didn't mind and said no stick to usual pattern.

Now all of a sudden DH has to take them back on mothers day so they can see her for lunch.

Fine whatever. However I am also a mother to his children and now I'm spending it with LO on my own until he gets back later in the afternoon.

I'm just ranting. I knew he had kids. I chose this.

I can have dinner instead of lunch. Yes. That isn't my complaint here. Lots of people do get my complaint so I'm not going to go over it again.

Mother’s Day is about you and your kid. You will be with your baby, so that’s all you require. It’s not Valentine’s Day.

Why not all go for breakfast and then H takes DSC back so he’s back for you in the afternoon

It also shows a teen that if they want a lie in next Mother’s Day, they stay home with their mother

He's making sure his ex is having the mothers day she wants but hasn't bothered to check with his wife what she would like.

Many husbands spend Mother’s Day with their mums rather than their wives, leaving their wife to spend Mother’s Day either with their own mum or just with their DC celebrating being their mum

No, mother's day is about being shown appreciation. I very much doubt a baby will be capable of that unless you count a dirty nappy as a thoughtful gift.

Who are you to tell me what I require?

They do yes. And?

The stepmother haters really monopolise these threads. Can’t they go and lurk like Nearly Headless Nick elsewhere?!

Seems my spoiling for a fight suggestion doesn't just apply to with her DH.

I understand why you are pissed off, but you've had lots of good suggestions here of how you can still enjoy your day and you have fought against every single one.
Mother's Day can be really tricky for some, I hope you are able to enjoy yours.

I genuinely think we need a dedicated section on MN for posters who want the catharsis of a row but because they can't have it in real life come online and pick fights with strangers instead.

We could call it PCAHAFWM: Please Come And Have A Fight With Me.

Isn't that aibu?

Because I don't want to have to come up with a compromise or a suggestion. I wouldn't have minded if he'd approached it better

Not really. Some of AIBU is people who want a rant but lots of posters want suggestions or solutions to their problem. This thread isn't on AIBU, anyway.

OPs real problem is the feeling that she is further down the food chain than his ex.
No amount of "celebrate on a different day" or "have dinner instead of lunch" is going to come close to addressing the issue.

If OP feels she is further down the food chain then she has more issues than just Mother's Day

That's literally my point.

Sorry, hadn't realised this was in step parenting, so hadn't taken onboard the depth of the issues.

Have a good weekend OP 💐

And mine!

@Illpickthatup if you read properly I was quoting the OP

If there is more to it then OP shouldn't be concentrating on Mother's Day, so why make one day in the year great when the rest is shit

Yeh, tbh I'd be a bit miffed too. He should say "sorry, we've got mother's day plans already organised ourselves, that's why I kept asking and now it's too late to change them"

The best Mother's Days are the one's without kids! Get him to take all the kids and you go and have a lovely lie-in and a lunch out!