The straw that broke the camel’s back..

[JH20000]

Name changed.

I have had no end of problems with DP’s ex wife. She’s awful sorry to say and I’ve had abuse consistently from her.

My 3 step kids are challenging to say the least, multiple problems with them taking drugs, truanting from school, consistently being in trouble with the police, being disrespectful to everyone, stealing etc. I’m struggling massively to the point I’m now on multiple anxiety/depression medications. DP is very blasé about it all, and I’ve had little support from him. For what it’s worth I’m child free myself so struggling because I’ve never been in a parent role before.

His ex wife turned up on the doorstep this evening screaming and shouting because I told the eldest child off for coming back to ours late last week. He was supposed to be in for 9 and came in at 10.30 for context. She was leaning in for a fight, screaming abuse at me and stating I’m the reason the kids are badly behaved and that she’s reporting me to social services. 🙄

DP stood there throughout shrugging his shoulders stating that I shouldn’t have told the child off and that he agreed with his ex wife. I told her I was going to call the police as she was becoming threatening and she laughed in my face before storming off.

This is the straw that broke the camel’s back. I guess I just needed a handhold. I’m not sure why I’m putting up with this crap.

I've been utterly horrified reading this thread. I'm so glad you've managed to extract yourself now. What a messed up bunch of psychopaths. Have a wonderful trip and I wish you a peaceful and happy future

Enjoy your trip @JH20000 . Spoil yourself whilst you’re there.

Having a beauty of a time, thank you all! Have done all the usual tourist stuff and have had so much fun I’ve not thought much about anything.

He has sent me another YouTube video (over email this time!!!) and it’s to do with how monogamous relationships are a scam and how having polyamory relationships is the way to go for humans. It’s his ‘life calling’ (his words!!)

The thing is, instead of upsetting me, I found it utterly embarrassing for him!! I have so much second hand cringe for him, bless.

@JH20000 does he know you’re in NYC? As I’d be rubbing that in his face!
“Sorry, no time to watch, in NYC”

It's hilarious how he is desperate to harass you with his twaddle!

Can you block properly?

So glad you're having a wonderful time, delete the email and block. He's just trying to get a rise out of you. Enjoy your holiday and make the most of having some space from the utter fuckwit

I did think that @JH20000 could send him an out of office email

'Thanks for your email, I'm currently out of the UK at present, living my best life in New York City. If that's you CockWomble, you can fuck off back to your 'not so ex wife' with your devil offspring - oh and stop sending me videos about different relationships - I'm not in the slightest bit interested'

But it might not be a great idea if he's still got keys to the house

@JH20000

'The thing is, instead of upsetting me, I found it utterly embarrassing for him!! I have so much second hand cringe for him, bless.'

This quote from you shows you are successfully seeing him as he really is (a prat) and moving on.

Hope you enjoy the rest of your fabulous holiday!

Just flag his email address on your email app as junk and they'll auto filter into junk where they belong!

Glad you had a good time OP

Amazing, I love this. Whilst he has realised that you blocked his phone number and so has gone out of his way to email you with a stupid video………. You are living your best life in New York and laughing at how pathetic he is. Block his email, block all his social media accounts, block any of his friends who you don’t want anything more to do with. Go be amazing you 🥰

@HarrietStyles brilliant isn’t it! Block the little bitch!

God he’s a sad sack isn’t he. He’s trying to make out he’s living his best life but he just comes across as sad. Why would your ex, who is in New York care about any of this?! His attempts to appear “cool”, “happy”, “fulfilled” etc just come across as desperate to me

Block the cock. On everything.
You are in New York.... you live your best life :)

This is your time now - ghost the fucker. Every time he finds a way to contact you, block and never ever comment or reply. It will drive him mental.

Ignore for months then randomly reply "who is this?" 😂

if they both werent utterly bonkers, id forward to her and say I absolutely wasnt interested. But best to ignore. Keep blocking him.

@JH20000

The thing is, instead of upsetting me, I found it utterly embarrassing for him!! I have so much second hand cringe for him, bless.

My word you've come a long way mentally haven't you? You've gone from the emotional shambles from before, not quite to indifference but your sentences above. Good for you. 🌹

I would say I am still getting emotional at times, sometimes it just hits me and I have to stop, take a breath and then carry on. It just feels like that entire period of my life was a lie. I know time helps in getting over things but I am having a wobble from time to time.

His ridiculous messages are funny because it comes across as so fake. It’s like he’s desperate to justify himself.

NYC was an absolutely amazing trip. I am so sad to be leaving!

Of course you will have a wobble now and then, he did a right number on you, but as long as the wobbles are further apart and in less intensity then you are winning. It will just take a while for it all to get out of your system. And that is okay

So glad to read you have having a great time in NYC ❤

Thank you, they are definitely less intense but I am turning that sadness into anger. I am so angry he treated me like that. It’s hard, because I am struggling to turn that love off for him. I really want to, but I can’t just yet. Not that I’m planning to bang down his door and demand he takes me back, but I am struggling with not being able to turn off the love for him.

That part of your life wasn't a lie hence his desperate attempts to lie to himself with his stupid messages!!

He was a weak man who never created any boundaries with his ex and doing what she wanted and caving to his kids was easier than being the decent partner he tried to be at first.

Sorry but I am moping a little tonight..! Insomnia is bloody awful.

2am I get another email from him. It was originally about something legit but then he adds on to the end about how busy he is nowadays and how ‘so many women’ are taking up his time.

Just feels like a gut punch. For someone who said he didn’t have any time for me at all when we were together he sure has suddenly found the time for others. I wasn’t worth a second of his time, was I?

I don’t have any point to this post, I just wanted to write down my thoughts as it does help.

He's a knob isn't he😂
Sounds like his life is a bit crap and is making this all up....remember if his life was that good without you he wouldn't need to keep telling you.

You said he emailed about something legit...was it really?
Is the house sold yet? If that has all been dealt with just block his emails, there is no need for you to have contact with him.

Keep living your best life and soonhe won't affect you❤️

There is NO legitimate reason for him to contact you or for you to allow him to. You need to block him on all platforms.

‘so many women’ are taking up his time.
But at 2am, he can email you? He has no women. Block him, he's a dick.