Always going 'halfers' on everything for DSC.

[ItsMeRhondaFromPS129]

Just looking for an outsiders perspective please as my friends are shocked at this.

I have been married to DH for 7 years. He has one child from previous relationship and I have been in their life since they were 3. Close relationship etc. I also have my own DC with my husband.

As far as I can remember, I have always paid half of whatever is bought for DSS. E.g. go karting sessions (where me and DH have just watched from the side), football training, clothing, honestly - everything when DSS is with us.

So not to drip feed, he pays maintenance through CSA, has a good relationship with DSS's mum. I wasn't the OW - we all get on really well.

It doesn't really bother me as he's a part of our family, but my friends think that's cheeky of my husband to expect me to pay half for things.

Thoughts? I know ultimately if I'm happy to do so then what's the problem, but I'm just curious :)

Thanks for reading

Does he pay half of everything for your son.?

If so then that's fine and if not...well he is taking the piss out of you

@ChairCareOh but you could argue the dh is paying in more in the first place
And for all we know it could be a lot more

Imo the money for the kids should be coming from the joint account as dc are a 'household expense'. His maintenance should be paid by him alone out of his money as that has nothing whatsoever to do with your household. Your money is then yours to spend how you please as is his balance after maintenance.
I also understand those who say you should not be contributing towards his child (I would personally feel like that myself) but in your case you seem happy with it & that's your prerogative .

Not sure why your friend knows so much about your financial situation.

However, they need to butt out.

When I was still with dds dad we maintained separate accounts and his maintenance for his older kids cam entirely from his money.

Anything done with us and in our house e.g. clothes, activities, holidays etc were just paid for. Generally he paid all household expenses, holidays, cars etc and I paid for clothes, presents and fun stuff as well as dds childcare. It worked out about 50/50 on costs (although he earned double my wages). If I needed money he would happily hand it over so never an issue.

Stick with what works for you.

The issue is your own DC is overall getting less, not noticeable now but will be in future years. Your DSC has 3 adults funding them, your DC only 2. Maybe not an issue now but what about when it comes to inheritances, will your DC get half of your assets too as well as that of their parents?

I can't get my head around this. He earns significantly more than you. I'm assuming that this means that despite paying maintenance to his ex, there's still significantly more left over? Great that you both take the same out to put in your personal accounts but why then contribute to his DC's expenses? It's not really fair that your 'personal allowance' has to cover his child's expenses. Have you actually worked it all out and you're still better off?