I don't want them to come tomorrow now?!

[Poooooo2]

But I don't know who is being unreasonable??

My step son is due here tomorrow morning to spend Christmas day with us which he hasn't done in many years. My husband is really excited.

But now his Mum has messaged to say she has tested positive on a LFT for Covid after feeling unwell.

Step son feels fine but she won't force him to do a test as he hates them and doesn't have symptoms so she doesn't think he should need to.

My husband is all for him still coming and he actually rang DH upset last night because he still wanted to come. I am really not keen now but don't know what to do. We have young DC ourselves. I'm torn between thinking if it were one of my DC I of course would still want to see them and thinking but I need to do what's best for my DC as well which is protecting them from potentially getting Covid over the holidays.

I also don't think there is any way my husband would refuse DSS even if I said I didn't want him to stay.

Why are people saying it doesn't matter if OP's family potentially catches Covid? Am I living in an alternative reality? I thought we were all supposed to be trying to curb the spread of Covid so that the hospitals weren't put under pressure. Let's say the OP's stepson was persuaded to take an LFT and it was positive, would people still think he should just come and stay anyway?

@DontTellThemYourNamePike yes but spreading covid to more people, potentially putting OPs parents at risk, plus her children and risking any of those people being severely ill or having long covid doesn’t matter because OP is a stepmother and therefore she and her family and her children are irrelevant and all common sense and wider rules are in abeyance 🙄

This is hilarious - on every other covid thread on MN people are told under no circumstances to break rules or take the risk of infecting other people, no matter what the heart rending circumstances.

There are also full of posters saying how badly covid has affected the MH of children and how their MH should come first etc.

A lot of people aren’t testing at the moment due to low availability of LFTs so if the child’s mum hadn’t done a test until tomorrow or after then he would have come around as normal.

If she says she is happy to take a test herself but refuses to get her son tested then I would say she’s lying.

He needs to do a lateral flow. Not fair to be spreading it if he has it. Tough if he doesn't like them. They are part of life.

This ^

I will never understand why it’s ok to spread disease around households unnecessarily, just because step children are in the equation

@DontTellThemYourNamePike

Why are people saying it doesn't matter if OP's family potentially catches Covid? Am I living in an alternative reality? I thought we were all supposed to be trying to curb the spread of Covid so that the hospitals weren't put under pressure. Let's say the OP's stepson was persuaded to take an LFT and it was positive, would people still think he should just come and stay anyway?

It's mumsnet, it's also the step parenting board so yes even then people would be screeching "you obviously hate your step children to abandon them at their time of need" and various veins of yes the rules apply but never to SC.

How dare you not want Covid 😩

Sharing is caring as they say !

Are any of you vulnerable? If you are that’s a no.

If you aren’t but are concerned, are your kids young enough that you can just put Christmas Day off for a week? If you can that’s what I’d do.

If you can’t then you just have to weigh it up, make your husband take part in finding a solution.

@Poooooo2 I don't understand- if the issue is mum won't LFT him why can't your DH do it in the car? They wouldn't have left mum's home technically and child will understand they have to stay with mum if positive no? I think you have to decide what you will do if it's positive and go from there. Then DH needs to be brave and tell his DC they can't visit

So what happened in the end?

Well this is a whole new level of bat shit crazy stepparentness. Of course he shouldn't come, not worth the risk