Nursery for new baby, takes away bedroom for DSS

[Biffasum11]

Hi All,

Just need some advice from those that have maybe been in my shoes. Me and my husband have been married 3 years and are now expecting our first baby together. My husband has a dauggter with another woman who is almost 7. I have been in DSD life since she was two. We live in a three bed semi and saved to buy it. Currently we have our master bedroom , our spare room that is my dressing room/ DSD room when she's here. She's is here once a month for the weekend due to distance. Her mum moved 300 miles away when she was 1 year old. Our third bedroom is a box room and is now an office due to me working from home. We only have a small lounge dinner and very small kitchen so I needed a dedicated work space. Now my baby arrival is fairly soon. I would love a nursery I have always envisioned a lovely space with a rocking chair and a cot with all their little bits. Realistically we do need the spare room space for the baby as our living space would be too small and cluttered to keep everything there. But this would mean DSD has no room at ours and would need to sleep on a blowup bed or on the sofa. I do feel awful but at the same time I would love to have a decorated nursery. We can't move right now as would mean paying large sum for early repayment for our fixed rate. And just makes little sense to throw away thousands and we wouldn't get a four bed for what we could afford once we pay those charges. Plus when it's just us two house size is no issue. Should I feel like I'm just evil ? Husband seems fine to make me a nursery and doesn't seem to have any guilt so should I just enjoy it and not overhthink?

You literally aren't willing to make any compromises and your oh sounds like a wet lettuce willing to go with whatever you want. I hope you never split up, you might feel a bit differently if it was your precious child sleeping on the sofa. Look at building a shed to work in or work in your room once the baby has transitioned into the nursery.

@SouthOfFrance

Pretty sure if you move house you don't need to pay an early repayment fee, you just switch your mortgage to the new property.

But anyway, you have 3 bedrooms, I think it's unfair to make a child sleep on the sofa in this situation. Move your office downstairs or put a small bed in the office room along with a small desk.

Agree. You can usually port a mortgage from old property to new. Though settlement on both properties, old and new, has to occur on the same day.