Boundaries around the house with step.kids

[Kindasup1]

I was just wondering your thoughts , do you let your step kids have completely free reign to play in any room around the house ?
Surely I am entitled to some privacy my bedroom and my work office as an example. My husband has two kids from previous relationship one boy and one girl aged 7 and 9.
When they come they want to be in my room go through my things and play in my office. We have a child together who is 2 when they are bigger I wouldn't just let them run riot ! Am I being too precious over my house or do I have a valid point?

My bedroom is out of bounds. I always wanted it this way to have one room where I could seek half an hour of peace and quiet and curl up with a book when their behaviour got a bit much. I was even stricter about this when one of them started stealing my belongings.

Frustratingly DH isn’t of the same opinion and runs the old red carpet dynamic when they stay here.......

Sadly it wasn’t a typo, he was 16 at the time. I remember it vividly, they both jokingly raised their middle fingers to me. You couldn’t make it up.

His parent never questioned anything he did or raised any kind of discipline. Ended up with two very spoiled and unpleasant young adults.

Good gracious... I'm sorry but there is no way I'd suffer that. And I'm sorry that's been your experience. For some reason it's like you have to sacrifice your home , your life, your own kids stability to be seen as good step mum. As long as I pay the bills , the mortgage for the house its my rules thank you very much.

Blimey, I have areas of the house that are off limits to all of our children. They pop in if the need us for something, or if invited, but otherwise they're not allowed to just wander in and out or do things in either our bedroom or the office. They also have the same rules for each child's room. It's their private space, the other kids have to have a good reason to be there. They also have set bedtimes based on their ages and maturity.

Unfortunately my DP's children don't have any of those boundaries at their DM's house, still even sharing her bed every night at 6 & 8 which makes it difficult having to cope with two separate systems.

YANBU

They don't need to be in your office or bedroom.

It is perfectly acceptable to have different rules in different houses.