Because so many ‘cold hearted’ SP’s (women) are on here saying they wouldn’t miss their partners/ husbands children if they didn’t see them again.
That’s what they are crying about.
I imagine they are somehow extrapolating the responses into some vision of children arriving into homes with their fathers with some horribly rejecting woman who (through her detachment) is evidently causing immense emotional harm to these children. You would think from the emotive responses, these children are being abused.
Even though (as many of us keep saying), in many of these situations the healthy route is detachment. To step back, give the RP / children time and space for their core bonds (which is the primary bond the child is seeking).
If with time, a relationship between the SP / child can grow organically, then there may come the time that a SP posts (as many have on here) that they would genuinely miss their SC.
The nuances and complexities of these situations, people cannot educate themselves on. It’s far easier to vilify the new woman on the scene than it is to take a good hard look at your own behaviour (as a parent) and ask yourself the difficult question. How are you parenting? And what do healthy/ boundaried relationships look like? And what expectations are acceptable when expecting someone (who is not a parent to your child).
I expected nothing from my DP regarding my DC. Their relationship was entirely theirs to build- organically. Zero expectations from me.
I parented them, fed them, provided for them, sorted childcare around my work for them, ensured all their needs were met. Anything my DP then chose to do (or not do) was his choice entirely.
Will I be offended if he never sees them again? No. That’s his choice. I have no illusions that the bond he has with them is anything close to how he feels about his own children.