Are you still keeping normal contact with DSC?

[Sunshinedelight1287]

DH ex has decided she doesn't want DSC to come to ours for normal contact due to risks of the virus.

No one has any symptoms in either households.

Kids pick up from parents how we respond to this virus and now she's instilled fear about travelling between households. It's so difficult.

I wondered if anyone else has experienced this?

I know exactly what the judiciary has said. I can read. It is still however allowed is it not under current guidelines Yes. It is.

And until such time that it’s stopped point blank. I will evaluate the risks involved and continue to make decisions that are perfectly within current guidelines.

This isn’t as black and white as you make out to be. My step daughters mum has another child, who is also going back and forth from her other home. She is also a teenager and not following guidelines seriously. (I know this because she has said she keeps popping to the shop when she feels like it). Even though I’m self isolating with my partner and daughter we are spreading germs between three households. I developed pneumonia from flu two years ago and laying here anxious and unable to sleep, I’m doing everything I can to prevent that again but with my step daughter travelling back and forth I have no control of potential spreading. It’s really not a pleasant situation to be in. The other step mother to the teenager is 7 months pregnant and also panicking about the situation. My daughter is staying with me full time until this situation is clearer. I feel that parents who are expecting their children to be passed from different households are behaving selfishly on other family members. Children are incredibly resilient and they adapt easier than we are led to believe.

We are at loggerheads again here over the children. Normally we are 50/50 with a cao.

Our house is wfh, only one of us leaving for food supplies once a week and all good health wise so far. Mum of Syepchildren is nhs staff, working in the community but has time off booked for her half of Easter break (as we do) and due to her role, after the lockdown advice last week all agreed children stay here as best option to minimise risk of exposure for all of us.

Mum now saying she wants kids back for her Easter Hols but is working for some of it so will be in and out, half brother has been attending school when she's working but obviously is missing them too, and while we agree in principle and don't want to stop them seeing their mum I've been up since 3am worrying and anxious and trying to see past risks to both households as nothing has changed in that respect only that mum does have 5 days off in a row from good Friday.

My youngest (late teens) does have seasonal asthma, usually aggravated by hey fever so I've already requested a new pump as a precaution but I'm not overly worried (yet)

Am I just being a ninny worrying, if we say no or ask why the risk is less than it was last week when she did agree, mum is likely to go nuclear and send a sol letter trying not to upset anyone, including the kids or mum, my kids are here until lockdown over as we are less risk household for their dad and he's ok w that - any advice please

Or do we keep everyone else happy, go back to cao and hope we all ok??

@jokerreturns if your late teen child has asthma, then I would be fully isolated and wouldn't accept any going back and forth, sorry. I know it's the Easter holidays but I really don't understand anyone planning to relax their precautions this month. We are skyrocketing towards the infection peak, this is the month to buckle down and take no risks.

If we can keep her hay fever under control the asthma doesn't come into play, not dismissing it at all but trying not to be a drama queen! I have asked docs for a prescription incase I need to fill it later

Sassbot you may be able to read but you dont seem to appreciate the difference between can and must.