Hiding in bedroom away from skid

[NotJuliaRoberts]

Does anyone else do this?

We have 6yr old SD for two thirds of the time up from 50% (recent court order, hopefully temporary). I find her loud, overbearing, and the recent increase in tantrums is unbearable. She will follow me around the house and even into the bathroom and sit and watch me pee.

DP is a Disney Dad with the typical guilt and permissive parenting. He also seems to have a bizarre love affair with his SD and often says he'd be happy if life was just him and her.

I have recently began hiding in the bedroom whenever SD visits. I am very quiet and just read or watch TV. I am 19 weeks pregnant and can't deal with the relentlessness of SD. I'd much rather sit on my own, lonely as it is.

I know I can't do this forever, but for now, it's keeping me sane.

Anyone identify?

I'm not being rude OP... but do you want to be a mother?

You seem like you don't want to be a mother to your stepdaughter... and you seem to be quite open to having a relatively late stage abortion rather than a single parent?

I mean this as gently as possible- is your problem perhaps that you don't want children, rather than your SDs behaviour?

workingmums not being any more patronising than some of the comments I've seen on here. I don't like people thinking they know a full story when they don't. In counselling we say something I think we should all bear in mind 'you're ok, your behaviour is not ok' and some of the comments here have been very very harsh when it's clear OP isn't in a good mental state.

Not every pregnancy is the same. Some posters on here may not have been pregnant for a long time and forgotten exactly how difficult it can be. Or, if you were lucky, you'll never know because you had a lovely pregnancy. Was that patronising too?

Sorry but while pregnant (3 times) i never treated my DSSs this way or any other child for that matter.
Pregnancey is not an excuse for shitty behaviour especially towards children

What makes you think the OP is not in a good mental state, like oyu said she has said very little.

Yes you are patronising.

Oops wrong thread

This was the poster who nicknamed her SD for her having marks in her knickers who posted a blog about her step daughter on twitter and on here. It was absolutely vile.

Oh I remember that vile poster. Her Facebook page was awful! Is this the OP??

Skid = shit, so YABU, please don't use this term.

I'm pretty sure it is the op her writing style and using the word skid gives it away as that was her nickname for the child. I never seen anyone used such a degratory name for a step child.

I don't think the Op will back until,she decides to post another despicable little thread about her poor step child.

Everyone needs to back the F off of this woman. She's 19 weeks pregnant, hormonal, and clearly unhappy.

No. She is a grown up. She is pregnant, perfectly normal state, no need to turn into Cinderella's step mother. There is a six year old girl who has to live 2/3 of the time with a woman who despises her and begrudges her dad loving her. Who then tells all and sundry about her "skid" knowing exactly this is a name for a shit stain in pants, this is why she chose it to start with.