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what would you say........

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 03:20

I saw this on another forum and it was brilliant, so I decided to blatantly steal it. Some was hilarious, some was brutal but all a great vent no judgement
What would you love to say to your step kids but cant in real life??
I would say to SS7, when you get caught out in a lie, laughing and saying I was joking doesn't make it cute, its still a lie.

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LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 22:25

'Slut'? In relation to a little girl?

Fuck me, this thread started as a bad idea but has descended into sheer insanity.

If a little girl goes into school and tells an adult that her SM has called her a 'slut' I think outside agencies would be called in, and rightly so.

Why was that the particular sentence that popped into your head, OP?

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:25

You once again miss the point. The point was (I can't say is because its all been twisted) to get off your chest what you would like to say but know you never will/would. It's not nasty to children to think "I would love to say ......" But hd your tongue and write it down elsewhere to let it out, its nasty to children to hold it all in and feel like throttling them and snap at them.
As I have tried to say (but been attacked) having a thought and acting on them are very different.
Thinking something bad doesn't make you a bad person. Jumping on the high horse doesn't make you superior either.
FYI I'm not on the other forum I just read it liked the concept so stole it (as I originally stated) and no I still don't think lying is cute (as per my original post)

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:27

Lilac no one is calling anyone a slut

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LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 22:28

No, lying isn't cute, by any child.

But saying it's ok to think your SD is a 'slut' is way, way beyond a child telling lies.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 22:29

So why did you use that sentence unless that's what you think?

Why go for that, over anything else you could come up with?

It's repulsive, whether you meant it or not.

Disgusting and utterly repellant.

Cleensheetsandbedding · 10/02/2016 22:31

I think it says more about your mental state of mind op - most people don't think like that.

Ludways · 10/02/2016 22:33

I've just read this whole thread and words fail me. What utterly revolting sm's one or two of you are. I wonder what your dh's would think if they knew what you thought of their beloved children.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:34

I don't even have a DSD so don't think that. The person I was responding to had said something along those lines (i assums from a different thread) as if that was the aim of the thread, which it wasnt . The aim was to allow people to say what they wanted to say but felt they couldn't whether it was negative or positive as some people did post

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Pantone363 · 10/02/2016 22:37

God what happened to MN it's like netmums around here.

90% of the step mums on this forum seem totally normal women. The other 10% are sad jealous bitches who can't stand that another woman got there before them. You need to be vile to children because your weird little insecurities would eat you alive otherwise. The DSDs always seem to come off worse as well...wonder why that is?

And the inference that a daughter wanting attention from her dad is somehow a mini wife/flirting/playing up for attention just shows how fucked up in the head some of you are.

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 22:37

My understanding of what you wrote is its ok to think and write on a public forum, even something as bad as "my SD is a slut" and that that reference could be to a little girl and it's still ok because it's just venting? That's what you said; that it's ok to get that off your chest as a SM rather than express anger towards the child openly. Can you not see that even thinking that about a child indicates a certain kind of person and mindset, that's what posters are responding to and it's not actually about the "venting" at all?

Even without all that though I can't agree this could ever have been a "great" thread,

Pantone363 · 10/02/2016 22:39

Why couldn't someone say something if it was positive?

Don't talk bullshit, you were trying to start a "let's say all the horrible thinks we feel about children" thread whilst hiding behind some bullshit lie about seeing it on another forum

LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 22:41

The key word in the OP was 'brutal', for me.

That's what she was after.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:50

What it said was some was brutal on the other forum. Did I say please be brutal? No I did not. But interesting how one negative word is pounced upon as justification to assume I'm a nasty person.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:52

And what's to say the imaginary slut is a little girl?

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 22:55

You said it by using "her" in the sentence.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 22:56

Because we're always calling males 'sluts'

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 22:56

"I think you are a little slut who flirts with her father for attention"

gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 22:58

You said;

I saw this on another forum and it was brilliant, so I decided to blatantly steal it. Some was hilarious, some was brutal but all a great vent no judgement
What would you love to say to your step kids but cant in real life??

You were soliciting a mix of 'hilarious' and 'brutal' posts and promising 'no judgement'.

We don't all agree with your idea that 'brutal' 'vents' are 'brilliant'.

Or that it's fine to express any vile thing that pops into your head and expect a positive reaction because 'you can't help your feelings'.

HTH.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:58

So what's to say its not a teenager? Either way it's irrelevant because she doesn't exist.

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gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 22:59

And what's to say the imaginary slut is a little girl?

Oh FFS. You do realise people can just scroll up?

LilacSpunkMonkey · 10/02/2016 23:00

That's right, keep clutching at those straws, OP.

You can't unsayable what you said. And it was nasty.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 23:00

The concept of no judgment venting was brilliant. Not being brutal . Again leap to bad conclusions

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gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 23:01

So what's to say its not a teenager?

Because calling a TEENAGED DSD a 'slut who flirts with her father for attention' would be fine in your world?

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 23:02

I worry for the future of the world with you lot as parents.

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 23:03

In what way exactly? What do you think might happen to the world at our hands?

This thread is becoming surreal.

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