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what would you say........

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 03:20

I saw this on another forum and it was brilliant, so I decided to blatantly steal it. Some was hilarious, some was brutal but all a great vent no judgement
What would you love to say to your step kids but cant in real life??
I would say to SS7, when you get caught out in a lie, laughing and saying I was joking doesn't make it cute, its still a lie.

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FaFoutis · 10/02/2016 20:39

You should be judged for thinking something like that. The problem is that you think that way in the first place, not that you need to 'vent' as you put it.

I'm guessing the OP doesn't have children.

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 20:41

You don't think a woman should be judged for referring to her step daughter as a slut? Seriously?

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 20:44

I would be hung drawn and quartered if I referred to my young daughter as a slut. Quite rightly. Why on earth do you think a step mother should be allowed to say that about a child who has no choice at all in having her in her life and be supported unquestioningly? In the name of "venting".

With that post you've convinced me what your intention was behind this thread and I'm so glad people spoke up.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 20:45

No you shouldn't judge people for their feelings. End of story. Do you judge people for loving each other? It's feelings, you can't help feelings. Yes it would be sad if someone thought that but they don't need judgement

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 20:46

I will judge anyone who refers to or thinks about a child like that.

gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 20:46

So calling a child a 'slut' is a 'feeling'?? Confused

No. It isn't.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 21:01

Niki if you don't want to see frustrated step parents venting stay off the stepparent forums. It's pretty simple really.
It's not about egging each other on its about having a safe place to voice thoughts you wouldn't voice elsewhere.
If you assume these posts are about your children you have an issue. If you assume people venting (bitching as you call it ) results in harm to the children then you have a problem.
My advice get off this thread and start a " my kid is an angel how about yours" thread

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 21:06

I FEEL like you two are bored judgmental house wives with nothing better to do. I might be wrong but it's how I feel and I'm entitled to to think that on my own thread.

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 21:13

What a load of nonsense. Don't twist my posts to suit your own weird agenda. If you think it's ok for a grown woman to label her young step daughter a slut because of some perceived injustice and not be challenged because it's all so tough and she should be allowed to vent then you've got a real problem and need telling. I can't imagine that even your staunchest supporters on this thread could find a way to agree with that! I'm finding it hard to believe that you're not just a goady fucker anyway, the OP combined with your twisting of what everyone is saying and your anything goes when it comes to venting stance makes me think you're just trying to piss people off. I really hope so anyway because it would be terrifying to think that you had access to another persons child with the way you think.

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 21:14

You certainly are entitled to think whatever you like, and I am entitled to judge and find yet more evidence of your unpleasantness in your limited and unoriginal attempt at an insult.

gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 21:34

You do sound puerile OP.

wannabestressfree · 10/02/2016 21:39

I literally cannot believe someone would write that..... it's so vile.
Nicki has it spot on.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 21:53

It's not nice to have what you wrote twisted around is it. So maybe think of that before you go and twist other people's threads

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 21:55

Eh? You're flailing now aren't you? Grin

I'd report this thread and get it deleted if I were you.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 21:58

No not flailing. You chose to say I was twisting your comment when all you have done is twist what could have been a great thread into a bitch feast. As I said before. If you don't like it get off it

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NickiFury · 10/02/2016 22:02

I don't think anyone but you likes the idea of this thread now given that your ethos seems to be it's fine to say anything you like in the name of venting, even calling little girls sluts, if they take up too much of their fathers attention and what they don't know won't hurt them.

NickiFury · 10/02/2016 22:06

Any chance you could link to the forum that you stole this idea from? I'd love to get a look at how that turned into a great thread.

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WSM123 · 10/02/2016 22:12

Omg no one actually said that it was an example. It would have been a great thread if it wasnt attacked but a bunch of judgmental cows who are he'll bent on assuming ocassionsl negative th aught equate to being a nasty step parent.
It's sad that it was ambushed and was ruined. Google steptalk.com

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gooseberryroolz · 10/02/2016 22:14

It's not nice to have what you wrote twisted around is it. So maybe think of that before you go and twist other people's threads

That's pathetic OP. Really.

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OllyBJolly · 10/02/2016 22:15

This thread has taken a very distressing turn.

WSM I think you need to examine exactly where your thoughts and attitudes are coming from. The motivation for this thread was evil or naive; I'm hoping it was the latter.

Cleensheetsandbedding · 10/02/2016 22:16

I shocked at the nastiness on this thread to children that have gone through a seperation. Yes children can be hard work but some of the SM need to get the fuck out of these kids lifes.

She did something similar when she got a cake after school once. She was all "Look what I've got and you're not having any" waving it in his face, and DS smiled at her and said "Cool". Having not got the reaction she was hoping for, she then reiterated, "But you're not having any". And he ignored her. So I said "Will you just shut up about it and eat the cake before you drop it please. He's not bothered if he's not allowed any

Immature and vile. He wasn't bothered but the poster of this message clearly was! I wonder is this 'mother' would actually speak to this child in this way in front of her bio mother or father??

FaFoutis · 10/02/2016 22:23

I think CantWait is overloaded and trying her best Cleensheets, she wrote a lovely post about her DSD.

I, on the other hand, am a judgemental cow, anally retentive, precious politically correct and a bored housewife.

Ludways · 10/02/2016 22:24

Keeptrudging please tell your stepchildren that you love them, don't hold it back. I used to feel nervous about saying it to my dsd but one day I couldn't hold it anymore and I blurted it out, to my utter amazement she said it back. Truly one of the happiest moments in my life. It's easy to say now and it's so natural.