Do-gooding clique thread

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Thanks for the name dozie

I thought you weren't going to post anymore what with kittens and hats not being your thing

Why It is fantastic that you can move on and not hate him. Part of the reason I like the ethos on this thread is that hating your SDC's should not be a flippant over used emotion. I cannot guarantee I could forgive him if I were in your shoes I whole heartedly commended you for it) but then again hate and anger never solved anything.

That's kind of the point. For those of us who have issues with SDC's but don't want to join in with the hating/demonising or what I believe to be very wrong labelling (mini wives makes me shudder) we can come here.

We can dispel the myth that all SP are child hating monsters and hopefully support people in a slightly different way.

Commend not commended. My key board hates me

Hey, Tapper, as Flossy said you are quite welcome here on the Do Gooders thread. Here's a hat for you to wear. No hard feelings from us.

My hate fetish is clearly getting out of control. I love everyone's hats.

I get that Flossy but there were times (in our old life) when I did hate them, the thougjt of another weekend of SDs anger made me feel sick to my core, so Id post here, to enable me to put a smule.of my face and enable me to be nice to her(my scs were v troubled by the hatred their mother held towards dh) - it kept me sane Mumsnet SP but I was accussed of everything on here, told to leave DH, etc, we worked through it (only for hell to descend), while I always knew it wasnt SDs fault she was just 9, it was so hard to have her constant aggressive hatred and also to have ss initially as he too was very angry.

some SCs are just not kind and in my expereince the more difficult the parental relationship, the harder things are likely to be for a SP - especially if disney parenting is thrown into the mix.

HAT!! HAT not hate

I was going to say, "All I can say is" -

In fact, I did say that. Only I posted on the wrong thread and now all the lovely people cheerily discussing sexy accents in Chat are convinced that I think they're not worth jack.

Oh. My. God.

Oh hooby

Tapper do try to stop picking fights. Why are you so angry?

You can't take me anywhere, Arsenic. Well, you can, but the second time is only so I can apologise.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/stepparenting/1133815-Maleficents-Guide-To-Step-Parenting this thread from 2011 sums it all up these rows have been rumbling for years

Tapper (hug)

Did you kill the sexy accent thread? Did they understand the apology?

And that kind of support is still available why

For those who are happy to talk about hating their SDC's those threads still exists and this one is not taking any of that away. I truly think under your circumstances that allowing you to hate for example on this thread would have been ok because anyone can see that it was the kind of support you needed at that time.

A few of us however do not agree with some of the terminology used to describe SDC's and we do not agree with the hate or the SP are never wrong attitude and when we have challenged it in the past we have been shot down and forced of the thread.

We just want to be allowed to express an alternative point of view without being told to fuck off. I don't think that is a terrible thing to want.

Oh Christ who let hooby out on her own

What flossy just said. Plenty of room for everyone whyonearth

Thay just ignored you hoob "mancunian, spanish, random hat photo, sorry sorry sorry blush, french, welsh, italian"

'Maleficent' rings a faint bell, have a disinclination to click that link

Arse do I need to go look at what an arse hooby has made

PMSL!!

Thanks Flossy. I love you too.

They just carried on. Bless her scatty hoob self

It is quite funny.

^some SCs are just not kind and in my expereince the more difficult the parental relationship, the harder things are likely to be for a SP - especially if disney parenting is thrown into the mix

Very wise words why, it's also true that many children in general are not that kind actually but they are more likely to mimic the people around them and if kindness is expressed often, alongside boundaries and respect, they will learn.

hoobs

Shut up you lot! I'm crying with laughter now, crying!

She might have hit upon an actual method you know.

We could hat-bomb threads. Like love-bombing but with err, hats

Positive fluffy hats, naturally.

Rainbow hats, heart-shaped hats, basket-of-kitten hats...

Oh my god hat bombing it fits in with my unhealthy hat obsession!

Very wise words why, it's also true that many children in general are not that kind actually but they are more likely to mimic the people around them and if kindness is expressed often, alongside boundaries and respect, they will learn

This is how I look at it Fair. I know in certain situations this is not possible but I really do think it is a positive way to go about things.