Do-gooding clique thread

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Thanks for the name dozie

Perfect!

See? This is a problem-solving thread.

That's me!

why do you see similarities between your situation and the other?

Do you think leaving shit at the top of a laundry basket is the same as doing too much laundry?

Actually arsenic you are rigjt having someone elses teen doesnt have to be hell - my own dc didnt give my husband hell - but then we (ex and I) worked together to ensure dcs well being came first and foremost and DC would not have been allowed to be rude etc. If the same could be said of all relationships and parents threads like Tappers wouldnt exist. I wouldnt allow my teen to sit in a room on an xbox for 3 days but maybe I have different expectations.

no Walter but I did read the part about 3 ays on an xbox no doubt leaving Tapper to do everything, nor am I as blind as to see thatas the real issue - from the 5 pages I read Tapper is an pitsider in her own home, no doubt financially physically and emotuonally supporting it - that I relate to - diff is my husband listened when I spoke.

I completely agree with you Why if you have any hatred for you SS I do not consider it unwarranted given what your family has suffered. As I said I will not join in with unwarranted hatred and for me yours isn't.

why are you deliberately trying to make this a thread about a specific individual?

Why if you wish to discuss Tappers thread further then it maybe a good idea to start another thread.
You are of course welcome to continue chatting on here but MNHQ do not like TAAT and I would hate for this one to be deleted because of your discussion that is of course unless that is your intention?

Honestly we don't want to talk about Tapper any more. It's finished, it was left behind on the last thread. We've said repeatedly this thread isn't about her, only issues that were raised on the thread. It would be very poor form to create a thread to continue bitching about her, so we didn't. I am wondering why you are intent on making THIS thread about her too?

No need to even start a new one, she starts one herself every few weeks, you could go and reactivate one to offer her your support.

If this is a problem solving thread can someone get rid of the mozzies for me? I'm bitten to buggery.

And murderousHoobcat has left a dead bird in the garden which I'm too squeamish to pick up. I think I may have to pour a long glass of tonic and ice and wait for someone to come home to deal with it.

If this is a problem solving thread can someone get rid of the mozzies for me? I'm bitten to buggery.

Can we start with easier things and work up to mozzies?

my own dc didnt give my husband hell - but then we (ex and I) worked together to ensure dcs well being came first and foremost and DC would not have been allowed to be rude etc.

And that's about it why, totally agree with you. It's about respect and communication between the adults, not blaming the children.

You could fashion an outfit from a mozzi net hooby sort of an all over covered head to foot affair?

Any good?

No.

Why did Walter Mitty bring my name up on this thread then? Talk about double standards!

Don't worry I have no desire to talk about hats, kittens and cake, so I wont be posting. Just found this thread and laughed, how hypocritical you ladies are!

Go for the 1000 mark, then you can start another one.....MN do not worry, this was their reply to my request to close my initial thread down:

"Hi Tapper,

Thanks for your report. As the thread is nearly full we're going to leave it to fill up. If we deleted it it is likely that another thread would start in its place. Do feel free to hide the thread if you no longer want to read them comments.

Best wishes

Amy
MNHQ"

Joy upon joys. Another thread did start up - wonderful!

And that's about it why, totally agree with you. It's about respect and communication between the adults, not blaming the children.

Agreed

Not about you.

Bye.

my own dc didnt give my husband hell - but then we (ex and I) worked together to ensure dcs well being came first and foremost and DC would not have been allowed to be rude etc

I think this is key in all sorts of parenting.

Unless you're on the same page, there will never be harmony in a household, blended or otherwise.

How can there be? Children of all ages need structure. They also need love and respect. They need to be a priority in their formative years.

Why your situation is a horrendous exception to the rule. I can't imagine how you all got through it.

Where is this other thread you speak of?

That thread was linked here, not so subtle pictures references Tappers "alleged" drunkeness are on here - so why are you complaining about it being openly discussed? Is it only ok if we hide behind not so subtle digs and insults?

The thread ended because it was FULL.

Flossy I dont hate him anymore - he doesnt deserve that power and hating him took up space best filled with love for my husband and my children - he has a blackness inside him, and karma has had the last laugh because he is now living with the mother he cant stand playing happy familys while they all pretend the 7 years they barely spoke and I was his mother didnt happen and gia sister begs to see us in secret because her mother has threatened to diaown her if she speaks to her dad.

We have found happiness again because we told the truth wgile they live in a cesspit of their own lies and deception.

I think that response from H Q translates to, "Nice try but we're going to leave your unpleasantness to speak for itself", Tapper.

But hey guess what, lady? This thread, just like the rest of life, is not about you, you, you.

Anyhow,

Mozzies. I'm react horribly to them. I've huge lumps on my arms. What purpose do these scummy, foul things actually serve?

Hooby, you all say I am unpleasant. Have you read back what you posted? You are a bully and I hope the mossies continue to attack you - karma!

whyonearth that original thread derailed, the discussion wandered far and wide, some obscure blogs were linked, their content examined, the general board heirarchy discussed, a sub-discussion of obligations to adult children sparked off.

Finally on the last page, a sockpuppet accused the hardy insomniacs amongst us still engaged in THAT discussion of being a clique, so we spontaneously became one, and accepted the name she had snarkily given us.

So none of this is aimed at anyone. That is your explaination. Hope it clarifies matters a bit.

walter thank you we havent got through it - there is an ever present sadness but like many things in life people go through we have learned to live with it - made harder by the hung charges, then rumours spread that the press made a mistakr and indeed I have been tried for child abuse and he was merely a witness.

We are happy now though - albeit in a more subdued way DH misses his children dreadfully and I miss what we were, although they drove me insane at times, I did truly love my SCs they were just more of my children and sometimes even I still miss them.