One of my dcs has attachment disorders, generated by family collapse and early childhood trauma as a result of being the secondary victim of a serious and distressing crime.
For professional support my children were given - in total, 20 mins of SS time - less than 5 minutes per child - there was no cgild in need in our family, no multi agency working, nothing, nada, zilch - I personally received pre trial support after I turned yp on the door of our local rape crisis centre and begged for help as I thought without some I would kill myself.
All of the above has been diagnosed by me - with the help of other more specialised forums. There is a wealth of literature on early childhood trauma but none of this, apparently applies to my children.
Now I may be wrong in my assessment - there ate actually worse scenarios I could paint - but by making this assessment over time - I have been able to support my dc in a way I believe helps them because no one else is going to.
I agree misdiagnosis can be dangerous but if we werent living in a world where help is so hard to find, and families - blended or not - were actually able to access support - then people wouldnt be playing amateur psychology on the internet.
Where possible I add my voice, money and experinces to campaigns that try to address these issues and bring about change - because until change happens - the internet is all people have.