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I hate my step kids!

999 replies

Tappergirl · 30/07/2014 23:07

They live with us full time, are parasites, and have ruined my relationship with my husband. Now though, I blame it on him for being spineless and taking every spat as my fault. I dont want to walk away but I can not see another option :-(

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TheFairyCaravan · 02/08/2014 21:16

Keep showing your true colours brdgrl! Remember you just said you like to be honest and real and not have a MN persona. Its nice to see what your SC have to put up with!

brdgrl · 02/08/2014 21:16

Comments about my children growing up not to trust me - OK.
Comment about that poster's own marriage - not OK.
That makes sense. Hmm
Tell you what, why don't you report it as a personal attack?

NickiFury · 02/08/2014 21:17

Oh no, I am MORE than happy to let it stand.

brdgrl · 02/08/2014 21:18

Good.

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:21

I tend not to report for personal attack.

The volume and flavour of your posts across this board (along with three or four sympathisers) tell an important story about who and would is dominating the step-parenting forum, I think. Better they all stand.

Waltermittythesequel · 02/08/2014 21:21

And here we go.

Again.

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:22

I tend not to report for personal attack.

The volume and flavour of your posts across this board (along with three or four sympathisers) tell an important story about who and what is dominating the step-parenting forum, I think. Better they all stand.

PerpendicularVincenzo · 02/08/2014 21:22

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FlossyMoo · 02/08/2014 21:23

Why do that brd why bring up something like that?

You did it earlier on this thread by linking other threads not started by the OP and posted by members who were not even on this thread. (Too many threads in that but meh)

Truth be known I tend to avoid threads that you are on. Your way of completely shutting down anyone who has a different pov on a SM thread makes it pointless and I speak as a SM & DM.

Alita7 · 02/08/2014 21:25

I've never had any reason to feel Brd is a bad step mum or mum, the threads of hers I have read have always been reasonable and quite frankly she's taken on 2 kids as her own because their mother died. That's not something a lot of women would do. I get the impression from other threads that she's doing a good job of it.

I may be incorrect but my impression was that Brd is likely to be unable to have her adult dsc back after they leave presumably due to finances. Brd also described her financial situation and with her low income they may have a council house which will mean that they will have to move and can't keep a room for the dscs when they leave.
If Brd means that she just doesn't want to offer support then I disagree with that sentiment and potential actions but I don't feel I can judge her for it as it's a very personal thing.

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:25

How on earth anyone could read Tapper's posts and see an opportunity to advocate for withdrawing support from over 18s, I do not understand.

Of all the thoughts that could possibly occur...

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:28

Truth be known I tend to avoid threads that you are on. Your way of completely shutting down anyone who has a different pov on a SM thread makes it pointless and I speak as a SM & DM.

Me too Floss

NickiFury · 02/08/2014 21:28

And yet brd is the first to whine when someone else mentions another thread on a thread. You've so little self awareness brd and yet you've set yourself up as this font of step parenting knowledge and advice, its terrifying really.

EthicalPickle · 02/08/2014 21:32

This thread is getting out of hand (and it was never good to start with Confused )
Sad

basgetti · 02/08/2014 21:33

Alita I read a lot of your posts and I think you often come across as insightful and kind. I understand your eagerness not to fall foul of the ruling elite on these boards but your repeated explanations on brdgrl's behalf really aren't necessary. Posters have their own experiences of certain posters and can read the posts they've made, and are entitled to feel disgusted by them.

brdgrl · 02/08/2014 21:33

Thank you, Alita. I very much appreciate you having read my threads and posts and understanding the situation.

In all honesty, I am thrilled if I have derailed this thread, as that was the best thing that could possibly have happened to it.

On the other hand, I have spent a bit too much time on it, and have to depart MN entirely for a bit, as I have work to do, and need to finish it before Monday, when my family and I are going on a lovely holiday, provided by my earnings, which I feel sure we will all enjoy.
Toodles.

TheFairyCaravan · 02/08/2014 21:35

I'm sure it will be a better place for your absence brd!
Toodles

Waltermittythesequel · 02/08/2014 21:37

Well thank fuck for that!

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:38

Alita I have to be honest and offer the thought that if I were to die, my nightmare scenario would be for my DC to end up in a scenario where they had to fall back on their own resources from the age of 18, be that local authority care or a cold, no-nonsense step-mum who pushed them out of the nest and kept insisting they were adults at 18 and could look after themselves.

It happened to a schoolfriend of mine - she lost her mum to breast cancer just before she started secondary school and her step mum packed her backs and gave her two hundred pound and a set of three suitcases on her 18th birthday. Her dad just stood by. The double loss is unthinkable.

PerpendicularVincenzo · 02/08/2014 21:38

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ArsenicFaceCream · 02/08/2014 21:39

pounds

FlossyMoo · 02/08/2014 21:41

See you are happy because the thread has gone your way and you have derailed it.

The OP was strong and of course provoked reactions. Mostly negative but on MN I would say 98% of posts that have the words hate associated with children always do.

You have not helped the OP brd you have only encouraged her to post again at some point with the same vitriol and continue to harbour these feelings of hate.

The OP was not SM bashed. She was called out on her poor attitude and rightly so. You may have convinced the OP her attitude is fine and acceptable but you seemed to have forgotten there are children/young adults on the receiving end of it everyday. Well done. I hope you feel happy about that too.

basgetti · 02/08/2014 21:42

Arsenic that is heartbreaking. I often try to imagine what it was like for my Mum to know she was dying and leaving little ones behind, she probably had the same fears. I wish there was some way for her to know how well cared for we have been, including in adulthood, by my stepmum.

PerpendicularVincenzo · 02/08/2014 21:45

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NickiFury · 02/08/2014 21:46

Yes I think I would make a tactical withdrawal after that display too Smile

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