I've asked MNHQ...

[ChinaCupsandSaucers]

.....if we can have a little 'note' at the top of the Stepparenting board, with a list of acronyms that cause offence - to ensure that posters get support and threads aren't sidetracked by inadvertent use of common phrases that are less welcome here on MN;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/1811572-Board-notes

Apparently he doesn't treat his childs mother with the respect he should

Well, I don't know if he does or not, because you haven't described what he should do, really!

He respects the contact schedule, backs up her discipline, ignores her abuse towards him and me; but he does pull his DCs up if they are rude to me, for example, or if they deliberately hurt their DSSis.

He doesn't interfere with her life, but equally, he doesn't drop everything to respond to her demands.

Is that disrespectful?

Although they say god loves a sinner.

Anyway I was reading this post - are we talking about the same post - I've copied and pasted it to check.

I'd appreciate your advice as to what I should do in my own situation - because my DP doesn't give his first wife(who he refers to as his exWife) priority over me, and he treats my DD (his DSD) equally to his own.

Deep - I wonder if you would post the same innane twaddle on the adoption boards.
Adoption is hard work. The children often have issues which can cause massive upheaval for the family.

I wonder what sort of response you would get if you told the mother of a much longed for adopted child who wanted support that she 'knew what she was getting in to, probably just wanted the drama and had a desire to look good'.

Do you actually have any experience of step families??
Mine, whilst we have had our problems is a very loving one.
DH and I getting married, buying a house etc etc has actually provided more stability for my dsd since she now has a mother figure who has shown consistency and who she now understands will stick around, after her BM (and I use that phrase deliberately) had proven consistently that she doesn't give a shit.

But yes, please, god, think of the children!

deep as an aside, my DSS school report highlighted his limited imagination - can you give him any tips?
You've explained in several of your posts what you imagine someone elses situation/feelings/curcumstances to be so it's clear you have this skill - my poor DSS is sadly lacking in that regard according to his teacher!

(China that made me laugh)

Umm interesting, you missed off the last paragraph of Cups post, when you copied and pasted. Very interesting!

Cup, you describe him as disrespectful yourself, clearly you see it.

It seems to me your sd feelings about herself or how she sees her mum treated, which you admit is disrespectful, don't matter to you cup, as long as your being respected and your dc are respected, all is ok.

You're right, I did.

I guess that subconsciously I can see that his choice to take his DCs mum to court (to secure contact for his DCs), and insisting that the court order is followed is disrespectful.
What mum wanted was for her DCs to forget about Dad and that just didn't happen!

I hear, repeatedly, that its best for DCs if separated parents stay single - I forget that my DD is an exception to this rule, because she benefits from both her DSP.

Its all getting too weird - even for me - good luck cup.

It seems to me your sd feelings about herself or how she sees her mum treated, which you admit is disrespectful, don't matter to you cup

I haven't mentioned a SD?

You made it clear previously it was disrespectful behavior from your dp to behave as he was to his dc mum.

You made it clear previously it was disrespectful behavior from your dp to behave as he was to his dc mum.

But maybe I'm wrong!? My definition of "lack of respect" and yours may be different - how will we know unless you share with me what you consider to be disrespectful behaviour?

Ah, reality has hit you been found out presenting a half story, and now you twist it, and leave, rather than admit it, interesting.

deep I've already admitted that dragging his exW through family court was, IMO, disrespectful to her, her feelings and her reputation.

...and I'm not going anywhere, yet!

No you said different, then added that to cover-up.

Deep, do you not have anything better to do?

You are making yourself look really really stupid.
Even when compared with the ridiculousness of the rest of the thread.

Psycho left when I showed her up for who she is, Ho back and see what she did, you will get a more rounded idea of the way she presents things.

Do you have anything better, does anyone else on the thread? Do you know what I am doing between posts?

Really?? You showed me up for what I am did you?? Is that what you actually think??

I said my stepson is a paedophile, and I also said myself and my children have suffered abuse - do you really need me to spell it out for you? I can send you some press links via pm if you really want me to.

My dentist insists on calling me Ms Petal instead of Mrs Petal. I hate the term 'Ms', it drives me up the wall, but my dentist (surely?) doesn't do it to deliberately wind me up. And I'm sure that if I pointed it out, he'd start calling me Mrs.

Which is exactly the same principle as BM, isn't it? No one ever used it to be offensive?

Do what you want psycho, I am sure half the info would be missing.

of course half the info would be missing would you expect a press report to go into graphic detail? provides names and addresses?