I've asked MNHQ...

[ChinaCupsandSaucers]

.....if we can have a little 'note' at the top of the Stepparenting board, with a list of acronyms that cause offence - to ensure that posters get support and threads aren't sidetracked by inadvertent use of common phrases that are less welcome here on MN;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/1811572-Board-notes

Don't be ridicualous, Petal. I've seen it used a lot in order to be offensive.

Deep, you are an odd little sausage.

Psycho, step away lovely, I think you're on the receiving end of a wind up merchant.

This thread is very strange.

you know what - some people will go to any lengths to prove a point, but I am not prepared to debate anything, even as what started as light entertainment, with someone who thinks they will any way defend or belittle what my stepson did to our family

good luck with your "quest", they only person you have shown up is yourself

Reality - great minds, I knew there was a reason I had stayed away from mumsnet for so long - Deep has just reminded me of what that reason was, I am going to return to support groups where people actually have real names and don't hide behind being an internet warrior.

Psycho (please namechange I don't feel right calling you that!) you have just popped back at a bad time, and bumped into, erm, an odd sausage.

There's still support here - you've dished out plenty of support (to me) in the past, stay around and get some back.

As in you would miss half the info that gave a full, true view that represents the situation, rather than a limited view.

Wow, just wow.
This thread has made me so angry, I have been on mn for about 18 months, my first post which was a silly choice was on aibu and was about my dp's ds's mum ( did I get that right?) I was completely wiped the floor with by the step mothers are evil crew , however I did receive some great advice from others and was pointed in the direction of the sp forum. I am often lurking on those threads now and have gained some fantastic advice from just reading others stories. Every week pretty much I name change and start to write a post on there for advice, call me a wimp but I never hit the post button! The abuse that step parents receive on that board is just horrendous and un called for. i have enough stress with death threats and constant abuse going on in rl from my dp's ds's mother without putting myself through more on a parenting forum for asking for help.
deep you are the kind of poster who makes people in need of advice not want to post for fear of being attacked.

I read the BM threads over the last few days and it was obvious the op's on both threads meant no offence and were just looking for advice. I think the step parenting side of mn should be a safe place for people to use,at the minute it is not and any poster who is in a foul mood and up for a fight is able to come on the forum and cause hurt and upset towards step parents.

Deep, you've totally lost the plot.

Oh dear, the last person IRL to say that to me has since had a serious mh dx given by a psychiatrist.

Interestingly the girl who bullied my dd at school and called my dd nuts etc, has been a long term inpatient in a mh ward.

Deep, you're also incapable of intelligent, rational debate. I'd bow out now, if I were you, before you make yourself look even more inadequate.

*and

Oh dear, now your going after my iq and debating ability.

Which, incidently, is where I have locked my step daughter. Better give her some stale bread and water.

Now the hunting, wrong again.

I honestly don't know why people use the steps boards here for anything other than the most innocuous advice. mumsnet is a horrible place for steps.
There are numerous sites specifically to support step-parents, all of which are better than taking abuse on here.
I know that there are many decent steps trying to give good advice, but the abuse outweighs that.
I'm glad that I don't have to rely on mumsnet for step-parenting support. It's great for mums, not for stepmums.

deep may I ask three questions to you?

Do you have any experience of step families?
Do you have step children?
Do your dc have a step parent?

Well then you are doing a good job of pretending, Deep.

Troll, defined as:
In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a forum, chat room, or blog), either accidentally or with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

Just described yourself and some other posters on here, I see.

Deep, is that the equivalent of "I know you are, but what am I?".
School holidays are LONG aren't they.
See you in September steps!

Im sure I know the answer already but are you going to answer my questions before I leave this thread deep ?

Reminds me of a Newman and Baddiel sketch.

AHEM

Just for clarity, let's take one more look at the op that kicked this whole discussion off, the hapless vulnerable innocent op using a term she thought perfectly inoffensive who was unfairly pounced on just for those two little letters 'bm':

artex That's not the thread I had in mind when I posted in 'site stuff' - unless you know different?

China, I think you deserve a round of applause.
It has always been a secret little wish of mine to have a thread with hundreds of messages! 425, who'd have thought it?!