Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Challenge accepted - in true Arnie style.........I'll be back

I used to luuuurve Arnie when he was younger!

I'm sitting here in my shorts and bikinni, hoping that the wind dies down and I can go out into the garden - must be mental!

OMG!

Just did a search on Yahoo "what can I buy someone who has everything and look at one of the things it brought up!!

Proof that some people really will buy sh*t!!

PMSL, my db would love them but I don't think sil would appreciate them somehow!

Is there a theme park or anything similar anywhere near you? Just thinking you could pre-buy them a family ticket to go there

Mmmmmmm, it's a thought but I don't think a theme park is sil's thing, db will want to go on everything in site and she will be looking after the kids all day (the youngest is only two) watching him have the time of his life!

Can't belive I have just spelt sight as 'site'!

I can't even spell believe!

Don't tell me I have beaten you Naam?

What about a fire-pit ? They came around for a BBQ last year and we lit ours and they really liked it or is that a really crap idea? Hopeless at buying presents.

Just been for lunch

Fire-pit is a very good idea, specially if they've already seen yours and liked it. We've got a chiminea, agree they're great. And they'd keep it for years too

Do you think they'd appreciate a small temporary type swimming pool? You can pick up a 10ft one for around £60. Maybe not such a good idea though with the youngest being only 2

How about a patio set? Bet they've already got one just trying to think of something they can all use rather than something for just one or two of them

They've already got a patio set. The only problem with the fire pit would be the youngest - but I am sure they wouldn't let him go anywhere near it.

I'm sure it'd be fine - presumably they have a fire of some description in the house? If so I'm sure they're teaching him to keep away from that so it's no different really

True...

What are you up to the weekend?

Not a lot unfortunately. DP starts nights on Friday, hate it when he's nights. England play at 4pm on Sunday so looking forward to that but very little else. Got yet more work to do on the garden, seems never-ending! Suppose we're getting there though, we're just trying to make it as maintenance-free as we can. Just bought this to put on one of the slopes in between the levels. We're going to put slate chippings and some small lights around it, should look nice - we hope!

How about you? Anything else apart from the party?

Thats pretty Naam, your garden is going to look lovely.

Apart from the party, not much. I suppose it depends on the weather, we don't have dss this weekend but we do have dsd, maybe if it is hot we may go to the beach or something.

You are soooooo lucky being near the sea, I so wished we lived closer

DP and I were invited to a wedding yesterday - my boss is getting married in September (remember the one who got stuck in Mexico last year?) it's going to be a really posh do - we've never been to a posh wedding before Should be good we're really looking forward to it, PIL are having dsd all day and overnight

My older brother s wedding was a really posh do. It was a bit wierd tbh, He is left home when I was 14 and we haven't really had much to do with each other since, so I was at this really posh do, didn't know anybody (even though my father was there, but I don't know him either).

His wife's family is really posh (her db was in the same class at school as Prince Harry). My younger db and I were put on this table right at the back with a couple of very distant friends of her parents, (you know friends of a friend that you just had to invite because they might be offended). They were shocked when they realised that we were 'family'!

It was all rather sad really...

and stuffy, pretentious and boring!!!!

Sounds horrendous, it's not nice when you feel you 'have' to go somewhere when you don't really want to

Oh bugger! Think the sh*t's going to hit the fan now...

When we got back at the weekend, dsd said that after she had the row with her nan last week she was upset so she spoke to a counsellor at school and that she was seeing her again today. The counsellor has rung DP and said that dsd is very happy with us and that most of what she said to her would remain confidential....except....dsd told her exactly what happened when her mum threw her out, ie about the fight they had. The counsellor said that because other children (her DPs) go to the house, she's obliged to report it to social services to make sure those children are not in any danger!! Bugger, bugger, bugger!!!! I dread to think what's going to happen when they go round to her house, she'll go absolutely loopy. And of course it'll be our fault I suppose....

Oh well, if she comes banging on our door we'll just ring the police to get rid of her

Oh No! I don't know what to say!

Seeing it from the councellors point of view, she is right, she does have an obligation to make sure that the other kids are ok.

BM is going to hit the roof though!

Is she likely to come round?

I hate to say it but it really does sound like the situation might need a mediator, you know someone independant who can talk to everyone involved and try to untangle the mess.

BTW I am glad she is happy with you, you are doing a great job.

Sorry about the change of subject but, a huge spider has just 'landed' on my shoulder, I quite like spiders but it did make me jump!

Mmmmmmm, I was wondering where tarantula/alligator was.....

Thank you

I've suggested a mediator before but DP said no way would BM even consider it, and I do think he's right too, I don't think she would. Really wouldn't like to say if she'll come round or not. The thing I can't help thinking about is that dsd said at the weekend that she thought it was good that she could tell the counsellor anything and it wouldn't go any further as long as she wasn't in any danger so dsd will have taken it literally - she of course isn't in any danger so she won't have given a thought to any other kids, and quite rightly so, she shouldn't have to think like that at 13 years old. But when she finds out that the counsellor has gone to SS she'll be upset that her confidence has been broken. Oh well, we'll just have to sit her down and explain, she's a fairly sensible girl so hopefully she'll understand

lol - spider landing on a squirrel, bet you've eaten it haven't you??