How do you deal with parenting conundrums? Take our quiz

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Being chief decision-maker comes with the territory when you’re a parent - but sometimes the best way to go is not so clear cut. Take our quiz to find out how your decisions following common parenting conundrums align with those of other users’.

Here’s what O2 have to say: “#IsItAlright to let them use a tablet at breakfast? We hear you. Parenting is full of #IsItAlright questions, challenges and dilemmas. That’s why we’ve launched O2 Family, to bring advice, safety tools and kid-friendly offers to parents across the UK. We don’t pretend to have all the answers. But hopefully we make it a little easier to navigate the everyday messy magic of family life."

Whether you turn to the TV when things get tough, choose to embrace your child’s creativity no matter how questionable it may be or you find bargaining with your children the best way to get things done, take the quiz here and share any results that surprise you (or your own parenting conundrums) below.

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As time has gone by my attitude has become markedly less confrontational. I go now with what works best and will amend my parenting accordingly.

Loved the quiz. I answered honestly and am happy to announce I am 'average' which I am pleased with really.

TypicL mumsnetter here too. So much of it depends on the child though. Certain things would work with DC1 but not DC2!

The bedtime one surprised me. I answered with the majority but the second most popular one was to make a game of it and race themto bed. Never get them excited at bedtime!

I've completed it. I'm half ordinary, half minority!

On theClothing conundrum. Where's the option of embracing the pirateyness. I wouldn't just be bearing it, if run with it!

Was I supposed to get a result. It didn't tell if I was average but a glance suggests I am.

I only agreed with the majority on one point - holding pudding to ransom for peas

Mostly in the minority, except for the clothing one - I wonder if it's different that my two are teens so I mentally substituted 'cute dress up outfit' for 'unsuitable jeans and hoody that you found on the floor in a corner'?!

I'm amazed at how many people would let their child go to a special event dressed like a pirate!

Otherwise, seem I'm pretty typical.

Done!

Got to learn to pick your battles.

Easy peasy. Mine goes everywhere dressed as a pirate.

The half an hour extra cuddles happen in bed though.

I was surprised more people didn't go for the throwing the jumper over the costume option!

If the child is 2 or 3, what's the problem with going to a wedding or funeral in a pirate outfit? I honestly don't know. There is not one person in my very wide and numerous family who would object - most would know exactly why, and find it lovely, even the men!

I suspect the any child in the whole lot of us would be able to wear a pirate costume to any 'do' all the way through the primary years. Maybe expect more conformity from them once they hit 12 or so.

I've seen similar with some cousins quite recently. They have a boy of 13, who has become fairly typical teen, and attends family get togethers only if he is allowed to bring his book. He will read the entire time, might manage a grunt here and there. If it's a sit down meal he'll put his book down and join in the general conversation -he's fun, intelligent, quick, with GSOH. I can pretty well guarantee that once he's 17ish he'll be human again. We all just let him read.

Really interesting result... didn't see that one coming!

Pretty typical answers from me too, obviously very mainstream!

Another average mum here, good to know I'm not doing anything too out there!

Well mine are grown up now so I've answered from memory. I thought I was too uptight and strict but not by MN standards. With the benefit of hindsight I would have done a lot differently, I'd certainly have allowed the pirate outfit .

My DC is 12 so thankfully violins and pirate suits no longer feature. The sodding X-Box on the other hand... now that would be an interesting survey!

Ds has just bowled home with a recorder.... I think I felt like crying instantly

I am defo a strict parent though and don't mind admitting it.... I also make sure there are lots of cuddles love and encouragement too though

Majority for most. Very surprised by the vegetables and pirate questions though.

Yup, I knew it i'm a weird mum, I would make them get changed because they need to know when its appropriate to express themselves, but then I would give a couple of choices of suitable outfits to pick from.

I don’t think you’re odd in that response ratbagratty. It’s just the limitation of this sort of lighthearted quiz - many would grin and bear it not because of “expressing themselves” but because you might choose not to pick that battle on that day. But there’s no option for that

My responses were mainly in line with others, but some choices caused a chuckle or 2.

I'm with the majority for all my answers, and quite old fashioned I guess when you see today's parenting that manners are a must/no pudding or treats if you're too full for veggies, etc. I see a lot of parents in my job, and my friends/family, in today's world of work and family and stress, taking an easier option of bargaining or bribing the kids, or backing down to demands, but that'll just escalate in the end and not to forget you're getting bossed about and controlled by a little person who needs to know their own rules and boundaries. One thing I will always avoid is an iPad type device being needed to get through a meal, etc. I see so many kids glued to a screen eating their dinner/supermarket shopping/pushchair and find it quite sad that maybe the parent is also on their smartphone with no interaction together or that a child can't learn to amuse or occupy themselves without a constant stimulus.

Hmm, parenting is about strategies. I'd mix and match some of those answers, some it was a non of those as my first choice.
Surprised how strongly so he of the answers were favoured.