Mumsnet users share their experiences of trying to conceive with Proceive

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Trying to conceive can be straightforward for some and a struggle for others. From deciding to start the process of trying to conceive to the emotions that surround the journey, it can feel like quite an overwhelming time. Proceive would love to hear your experiences of trying to conceive and how the TTC chat came about with your significant other.

Here’s what Proceive has to say: “Embarking on the TTC journey is emotive for many people and for many different reasons, we are keen to know what emotions were stirred up when you and your partner decided it was time to start trying for a baby. We know the average time for a couple to conceive is 12 months but we want to hear from you and find out about your experiences and feelings around this time in your life.”

What were your expectations of trying to conceive and how did they compare with the reality? What changes did you make, for example around your lifestyle or diet, when you decided to try to conceive? How did you and your partner agree to start trying to conceive? Or did you find that when you stopped trying, it just happened?

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Because I didn't start my periods until I was 18, and I had infrequent periods from then on, when we decided to stop the contraception to see what would happen, it happend quite quickly! We had no expectations, and really I think that it was a haphazard approach. That was the first pregnancy. When we decided to have a second child, I still had infrequent periods, and my husband was on nights for half of the week. I thought that it would never happen. But within a few months I was pregnant. Again a haphazard approach without any pressure!

I think the reality is really not to get too stressed about it, as you relax and not think about it your body will naturally take everything in it's stride!

Took nearly a year with my first, did temperature chart etc and got a bit stressed with it all as thought it would just happen (naively). With my ds it didn't take quite as long but nearly but we didn't do anything at all apart from have a bit more sex.

I threw myself completely into TTC with the aim of conceiving as quickly as possible - temping & charting, ovulation tests (pee and saliva microscope), followed the SMEP timetable and fortunately each time I've tried (3 pregnancies, one miscarriage) I've got pregnant within two months. I'd cut out all alcohol and caffeine (except chocolate which obviously doesn't count) and also got my medical condition as well controlled as possible before starting.

It took longer than I hoped as I hadn't realised it can take ages for your period to return after coming off the pill. Once they started again I had that one period and the got pregnant. I then got pregnant by mistake when breastfeeding but it ended in miscarriage one October but fortunately got pregnant that Christmas. I realise how fortunate I am not to have had more difficulties.

We tried all the gadgets and charts etc, then one day got drunk after a party and boom

This isn’t always the case, though, angiehoggett- nature doesn’t ‘kick in’ for everyone, unfortunately.

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Thanks and good luck
Ellie - MNHQ

Trying 8 years

Diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis at 28, 2 laps, tube removed due to hydrosalpinx and bowel and bladder resection with cystectomy

IVF with own eggs failed
IVF with own eggs cancelled
Diagnosed with premature ovarian failure
IVF with donor eggs failed
IVF with donor eggs miscarriage
IVF with donor eggs DS born January

Got there in the end but it wasn't half a tough few years, and no relaxing won't make a blind bit of difference 😀

We used lots of ovulation sticks and I ate spinach, steak, and took lots of vitamins. We feel lucky 3rd time round ... both times funnily enough.

I got pregnant first time both times (very lucky) both planned but not by any charting or anything. I wonder if we had a third if we would be that lucky

I was very lucky with my daughter. We decided we wanted to be parents so I came of birth control. Luckily 2 months later I fell pregnant. I know how hard it can be though as my friend has had to go through IVF AFTER 2 years of trying. She fell pregnant on her first cycle but didn't drink alcohol for about 2 years. Xx

I was going to be very laid back about it all, but within a couple of months was charting temperatures, and went on to try all sorts of things to help. Probably a good job I did as my cycle was far from standard and if I'd gone for assuming I ovulate on day 14 I'd never have got pregnant. As it was it took a year for my first, and over two years with two miscarriages on the way for my second. I clung onto my sanity with my fingernails - I don't think you can understand how tough ttc can be until you're in the middle of it (and I wouldn't begin to understand the added heartache of those who end up trying IVF, and particularly those who never conceive).

I didn't have a timescale in mind so did not expect anything in particular

We tried for 3 years, we tried vegan diet, temperature charts, an ovulation app, after tests from our GP who was very sympathetic, we found out that the cause was possibly a very low sperm count, and IVF was a possible solution. We were put on the waiting list. The vegan diet went out of the window (phew) and whilst waiting for a consultation, we fell pregnant with DS1. To this day I feel skint, exhausted but blessed.

It took us 8 months to fall pregnant, by which time I had started to panic and sought advice from my GP!

I used an pregnancy app on my phone fors we went to th 9 months, after 6 month doctors and had some tests run, that all came back clear, I finally tried some ovulation sticks and got pregnant very shortly afterwards

no issues at all. it all worked out fine.

We exercised more (DH)/less (me), are more fruit and veg (5 a day) and DH quit smoking. It took 2 and a half years in the end, we'd definitely have tried proceive if we'd known it existed. Just ordered some as we're once again TTC!

Met my partner and two months later we were expecting. Nature did its thing and the experience of conceiving was rather pleasurable.

I completely understand how lucky I am because I didn't have any problems trying to conceive either of my 2 gorgeous girls.
My only problem was hitting the menopause far too soon and not having the chance to try for another one

My partner had his snip reversed, but no joy.

The first time I was pregnant it was a complete accident / failure to use contraceptives efficiently.

3 1/2 years later after being on the pill since giving up BF at 4 months we assumed it'd take about 6 months, So, aiming for another spring baby, we stopped the pill and used condoms for a month. However, things didn't go to plan and we ended up with a November baby earlier than expected!
I've never taken my ability to conceive for granted and I know I'm blessed to have 2 healthy children after 2 easily-conceived pregnancies.

Ovulation app, some planned 'moments' during lunch breaks, and it all went rather too well.

Two years of trying. Adapted diet, lifestyle & lost a lot of weight. Became pregnant six months later.