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Mumsnet users share their experiences of trying to conceive with Proceive

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EllieMumsnet · 16/07/2018 14:39

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Trying to conceive can be straightforward for some and a struggle for others. From deciding to start the process of trying to conceive to the emotions that surround the journey, it can feel like quite an overwhelming time. Proceive would love to hear your experiences of trying to conceive and how the TTC chat came about with your significant other.

Here’s what Proceive has to say: “Embarking on the TTC journey is emotive for many people and for many different reasons, we are keen to know what emotions were stirred up when you and your partner decided it was time to start trying for a baby. We know the average time for a couple to conceive is 12 months but we want to hear from you and find out about your experiences and feelings around this time in your life.”

What were your expectations of trying to conceive and how did they compare with the reality? What changes did you make, for example around your lifestyle or diet, when you decided to try to conceive? How did you and your partner agree to start trying to conceive? Or did you find that when you stopped trying, it just happened?

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Minnibix · 27/07/2018 16:08

I never had a problem, my hubby only had o look at me and poof there I was pregnant again

Help201602 · 27/07/2018 16:46

We’ve been trying for over a year now. First few months just went with the flow. Then decided to get a clear blue advanced fertility monitor, which excitedly showed a peak the first month. However I didn’t fall pregnant. I have changed my diet, low carb, lost 1 stone 4lb in weight. Have marathon sessions. Still not pregnant. It can be all consuming, so devastating that it’s not happening. On the verge of accepting it might never happen.

tiddles12 · 27/07/2018 19:35

we decided to try for a baby on honeymoon as I had been on the pill for 10 years, we thought it would take a year to conceive.. I caught straight away and had my DS 9 months later!

sm2012 · 27/07/2018 20:31

I used ovulation sticks for my third as I was a bit older but with my first two we were lucky to fall pregnant within 3-4 months both times.

twinklenic · 27/07/2018 20:51

My first 2 children came along very easy but 10 years later when myself and hubby tried for our first baby together we found it quite difficult to get pregnant then when we did , we miscarried twice before finally having our little one. It took 3 years of trying and shes now almost 5

meepmoop79 · 27/07/2018 21:17

No problems really. We tried and it worked. We were very lucky.

lhlee62 · 27/07/2018 22:59

It took 6 months of trying to conceive my eldest, 6 long months of checking ovulation charts, legs in the air(!?!), feeling excited and then being really disappointed. I called my husband a jaffa (a seedless orange!) and told him we needed to go and see a doctor and we fell pregnant. The second was an oops so there is only 20 mths between my 2.

PickAChew · 27/07/2018 23:34

It's such an unfair lottery. In my mid 30s, despite the odd kooky cycle, already, I got pregnant whenever I had unprotected sex at a horny part of that cycle, three times. Once ended in miscarriage but I was pregnant again almost straight away.

dadshere · 27/07/2018 23:36

Dh took a holiday on his own on the beach. Came back and instantly pregnant! During that time he had no alcohol, no internet and no processed foods!

tabbaz123 · 28/07/2018 07:17

We were very lucky and did not have any issues - although I have to say I was very 'clinical' about our second conception and tried to time it purposefully as best I could using all the advice and old wives tales in the book ........ However I do know of many that have had conception challenges and feel so much for their anguish

claza93 · 28/07/2018 07:56

I have been incredibly lucky and have managed to have five children. The first one happened straight away but the others took a few months. We have always been pretty rubbish with contraception hence five children.
When I struggled to catch I had massages - especially on my feet and this seemed to help things along :)

devito92 · 28/07/2018 10:43

It happened 1st time , no really all the build up and bang it just happened. Yes i know its not that easy for some.

Rachdayan · 28/07/2018 11:10

It's been a real struggle over many years, including unsuccessful IVF, and not really being given valid explanations as to why it was so difficult. Puts a real burden on relationships. I'm envious of those people it just happens to where it's not planned or an accident, as when you have to think about it every month for years it's tough.

helly01pbo · 28/07/2018 13:52

It actually wasn't as difficult as we thought. We just said 'if it happens it happens'. After 6 months I was pregnant. I know some of my friends have had a nightmare trying to concieve, but I do wonder if when you're really wanting it, it somehow makes it harder.

Helsbells68 · 28/07/2018 14:07

It took us nearly a year and strangely I fell pregnant after having a very severe allergic reaction to an insect bit which needed a course of steroids and anti-histamines.

sophiefx · 28/07/2018 15:39

Have been with my partner for 5 years, children didn't even cross my mind. One day I was on my way to work and seen a mother and daughter on the bus, I had a vision of me and a daughter doing the same. When I got home that night, me and the OH had the baby chat. I stopped taking the pill that night and started trying. 3-4 weeks later, pregnant appeared on the pregnancy test. Found out we were having a baby girl and just felt like it was meant to be. I now can't wait to take my little girl on the bus like my vision.

BL0SS0M · 28/07/2018 15:40

After several miscarriages I looked into everything...had all the tests, knew my cycle inside out and eventually...thankfully it happened! Then after years of not trying we got a little surprise! So we have experience of trying and not trying and being incredibly lucky.

pinkjjf27 · 28/07/2018 16:00

I had health issues as a child. I was told I could never have kids and it seemed to be true so I never took precautions. One day I felt shaky, weak and weird My period was the size of a pea I felt so ill that after a week I went to doctor and he did a test. I said that’s a waste of money I can’t conceive. I was expecting twins. After my babies were born I was told I Definity wouldn’t be able to conceive, guess what they were wrong about that too .

sarah861421 · 28/07/2018 16:10

A sort of a nightmare, My sister and my mother both took (several ) years to conceive and I was told I would be exactly the same. Not a problem until I moved in twith my boyfriend, I told him, and he said that was perfect because we would have time toogether first, and I agreed. Two week later I was pregnant! Our relationship has survived but I miss that stolen time

Cailin7 · 28/07/2018 19:56

Thank god we had no issues with our three Dcs all conceived naturally and quickly. I feel for all who have no been so lucky and have problems.

emmmaaa26 · 28/07/2018 20:39

Took us a good few months and having a tracker on my phone really helped us to keep track.

melmoo · 28/07/2018 21:17

Once we descided we wanted to have children conceiving our first was simple and almost immediate. No difficulty there.
Adding a second proved more tricky, and it means our two are now 26 months appart - and we'd hoped to have them as close a possible together.
It was very frustrating trying every trick in the book (from the medically functional through to old wives tales). Made more frustrating by the knowledge that everthing was 'woking', it just wasn't happening.

Marg2k8 · 29/07/2018 16:05

Took me 3 years to fall pregnant with my eldest.

holey · 29/07/2018 16:28

I'd always wanted babies. I'd have had them in my teens if that had been in any way practical. I met DH at uni and started instigating the conversation about starting a family as soon as we were both in reliable employment after graduating. For 4 years he always said he wasn't ready. Then one day he started the conversation, not me. I've still no idea what changed his mind but he made me throw away the pills that day. With DD it took around 6 months of TTC before I got pregnant, although we weren't exactly throwing ourselves into it, more a case of letting nature take its course. After she was born, we knew we wanted more so decided to "let nature decide". I stopped breast feeding when I went back to work when she was 7 months, had one period then got pregnant with DS1. There's 18 months between them. Then when DS1 was coming up for a year we decided to try again. I came off the pill, had one period at the end of the pills then one "true" period, then got pregnant with DS2. There are 20months between them.

I know how lucky we were and how easy it was for us. I can't imagine the heartache of struggling to conceive and really feel for people who have problems.

Lheath · 29/07/2018 17:11

We decided to stop being careful when we got married, I found out I was pregnant not long after getting back from our honeymoon. 2nd time round it took a few months