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Mumsnet users share their experiences of trying to conceive with Proceive

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EllieMumsnet · 16/07/2018 14:39

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Trying to conceive can be straightforward for some and a struggle for others. From deciding to start the process of trying to conceive to the emotions that surround the journey, it can feel like quite an overwhelming time. Proceive would love to hear your experiences of trying to conceive and how the TTC chat came about with your significant other.

Here’s what Proceive has to say: “Embarking on the TTC journey is emotive for many people and for many different reasons, we are keen to know what emotions were stirred up when you and your partner decided it was time to start trying for a baby. We know the average time for a couple to conceive is 12 months but we want to hear from you and find out about your experiences and feelings around this time in your life.”

What were your expectations of trying to conceive and how did they compare with the reality? What changes did you make, for example around your lifestyle or diet, when you decided to try to conceive? How did you and your partner agree to start trying to conceive? Or did you find that when you stopped trying, it just happened?

Whatever your experiences of trying to conceive, share them on the thread below to be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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Jenniferb21 · 23/07/2018 04:17

I have a 2 year old boy and 12 week old indentical twin girls.

With both pregnancies it took 3 months of TTC and I started taking folic acid straight away and switched to decaf tea and coffee. I rarely drink alcohol but didn’t drink when TTC neither did my husband.

I am generally quite healthy but I ensured I slept well each night and had a consistent bedtime of 10pm and woke at 6:30am.
I am a senior manager in retail which can be stressful so I delegates more and limited stress at work as much as possible.

My little boy and twins were both born in April and only 4 days apart so it will always be a busy birthday week for us which I think is lovely. Xx

Flamingo84 · 23/07/2018 09:12

I stopped my regular contraception (patch) about a year before we wanted to start trying. I wanted to be free of the hormones and ready to start when we wanted. DH and I are both in early 30s and had a long conversation about how we might find it difficult to conceive. We discussed letting things happen naturally and that we’d re-evaluate if we hadn’t had any luck after a year. We honestly thought it would take a long time and wanted to make sure our partnership wouldn’t suffer from the pressure.

I was using a period tracking app to make life easier and it gave an approximate ovulation date each month. I had a years worth of my data in it so when we decided to start trying we made sure to try near the ovulation date.

As it turned out DH and I had one attempt then he got a terrible cold and we thought we’d missed the window for that month. However much to our surprise and luck we conceived on the one attempt. I was so surprised I took about 4 tests over the week!

As it was just before Christmas, ironically my normal healthy eating schedule had gone right out of the window. I really thought that it would take longer to conceive and would have until after Christmas to start taking vitamins and eating right.

I’m 34 weeks now and it still feels like a bit of a dream. We were very lucky and I’ll never take that for granted.

Ratbagratty · 23/07/2018 10:30

What were your expectations of trying to conceive and how did they compare with the reality?
Didn't expect to be told I was very unlikely to be able to have a child. In reality I now have 2.

What changes did you make, for example around your lifestyle or diet, when you decided to try to conceive?
I gave up on trying and started to relax and try to settle into a life with them. Was on a new lifestyle diet following British heart foundation portion guide and not on contraception.

How did you and your partner agree to start trying to conceive? Or did you find that when you stopped trying, it just happened? We talked about it, had several appointments for fertility testing, got results, gave up on trying just trying to lose weight so I could hopefully get off then weight loss stopped, tummy grew, doctors said I had a blockage turned out to be a 30 week baby!

2nd child conceived first time of trying!

Ratbagratty · 23/07/2018 10:31

Get off should say get ivf

GazeboLantern · 23/07/2018 10:52

We'd been talking about where our relationship was heading, and what we wanted to do with our lives, for at least a year, so deciding to try for a child was literally an unsurprising moment of "Shall we?" followed by "Yes."

Conceiving dd1 was quite a shock though - one attempt!

Ds (dc2) - not much different!

Dc3, though, was totally different. Not sure whether we both wanted a third, not sure about our physical ability, financial, etc. Decided to try. Three 1st trimester miscarriages showed us that we did, truly, want a third, but also that we couldn't cope with repeated losses. So we set a cut-off date after which we would move on, counting our blessings and not our regrets.

Dd2 conceived on my last cycle before the cut-off date Grin

Goingovertosusanshouse · 24/07/2018 10:59

We didn’t try, have been pregnant 3 times with no lifestyle changes. Twice they were one time without contraception and third was on pill and exclusively breastfeeding. I appreciate that I am very lucky.

duck22 · 24/07/2018 12:07

I count myself incredibly lucky, we had no issues both times

user1495997773 · 24/07/2018 15:18

DS was born a year after starting ttc, so we didn't envisage any problems when we started ttc DC2 when DS was 4... but how wrong we were! After 18 months with no BFP we went to the GP, and both eventually had various hospital appointments (not complaining about the NHS waiting list, btw, I know they have more urgent things to sepnd money on), but they couldn't find any reason why we weren't having any success... I finally got prescribed clomid, and we got lucky on our first cycle! The 7 year age gap between DS and DD is a bit bigger than we would have liked, but I realise I'm very lucky to have them both.
Flowers to everyone who is still ttc, I remember how frustrating it can be XX

Mamabear1986 · 24/07/2018 20:47

I have had 4 children, all boys. Sadly our 4th boy was still born. With our 1st son, we were pretty lucky. We both had decided we were ready to start a family so u came off the pill. I literally fell pregnant straight away. He arrived 9 weeks early. We were so focused on him and visiting him in neonatal that contraception slipped my mind. I fell pregnant with my 2nd very quickly. With my 3rd I got the implant removed in October. I assumed I would fall pregnant straight away but this time it took us until March before I found out we were expecting. Our 4th took even longer. I used an ovulation app which tracked my cycle for me. It alerted me to my most fertile time. We eventually fell pregnant with our 4th son.
The best advice I can give is not to stress too much. Get your body ready and if it's meant to be, it will happen

fizzledays · 24/07/2018 23:04

Hubby and I wanted kids, but he smokes a fair bit and had a severe prostate infection at the beginning of the year (he's only 32!) so I just had these niggling doubts that we'd struggle. I went off the Mirena at Christmas kind of time and we didn't actively "try" until May. I used an app to track ovulation and we agreed that we'd have to start properly trying at some point so we just went for it in May...surprise surprise...pregnant. I was so shocked it happened so quickly, although my body had settled into a routine again I guess.
He eats terribly but I've always had a relatively good diet (I'm a bit overweight but not drastic) but I did religiously take vitamins and just be a bit more sensible since January. It seemed to work to our absolutely shock and delight!!

sambababy · 25/07/2018 00:27

I remember we were excited when we decided we would start TTC. When the time came, it only took 2 cycles. I used an app called fertility friend, did the temp thing and used conceive plus. I really couldn't believe it when I saw the line on the test. With DC2 it was almost a one-hit-wonder, right after DC1 decided she liked sleeping at night Grin Thinking about TTC again now but worried we wouldn't be that lucky again and I'm a much more stressed out person than I was back then. All that said, I've had close friends of mine really struggle and I am so lucky that I didn't. It's a horrible thing to watch a friend go through unsuccessful IVF time after time and I can only imagine how awful it is for them.

Howlett · 25/07/2018 13:48

Hi me and my partner have been trying over 4 year's. Been on proceive tablets over 4 month's. Only thing i have notice that my periods use to be 26 days and went back to 28 days. Also my nipples feel sore when I know when I'm due on. Wood like it to work. Help me fall pregnant. Best thing ever. Plus also other ladies trying fall pregnant. Don't realise how many have trouble. Until you been there. Still is. Hmm

SillyMoomin · 25/07/2018 21:51

Try, try and try again :(

It was incredibly difficult. Perseverance

Theimpossiblegirl · 26/07/2018 17:38

I was very lucky to conceive naturally after about 6 months of trying.
I gave up smoking, ate more healthily and tried to reduce my stress levels with yoga and exercise.

UpOnDown · 26/07/2018 19:25

We used ovulation sticks/apps.

2infinity · 26/07/2018 20:54

I used clearblue ovulation sticks as I don't have regular cycles and was really worried about conceiving. I was pregnant within 3 months. Very lucky.

Bobbie · 27/07/2018 00:36

Tryed for 5 years never fell pregnant. I started using a ovulation tracker app and taking cheap wilko zinc tablets, within 2 months i was pregnant. I would swear by zinc after my experience.

mave · 27/07/2018 06:28

One was an accident, the other I used ovulation strips and caught straight away! We wanted a third and never fell pregnant as went through early menopause sadly!

Elizasmum02 · 27/07/2018 06:31

i was told after my frist micarriage id never have children. two years later i fell pregnant with my daughter she was very very unexpected but so wanted!

EmilyK83 · 27/07/2018 06:44

We'd decided from pretty early in our relationship that we wanted kids! We got married last September, and in the May a few months before, we decided to start trying - I was 33, and we'd had friends who hadn't manage to conceive for several years, so we wanted to give ourselves as much of a chance as possible!

It happened the first month of trying...I was 16 weeks pregnant when we got married, and we announced the news in the speeches on the day...

topsy73 · 27/07/2018 06:58

Our attempt came after a particularly horrible time at work...we started trying and six weeks later we were pregnant....we had lived our lives before trying and did not think it would happen so quickly. I was 38 when we started trying and my husband was 48....we would have loved to have had another but 6yrs later nothing...we always say it was meant to be

Clairecricket1 · 27/07/2018 07:02

I was very lucky i have 2 of each which were all first time of trying I used a diet plan for each gender which i have 2 of each xx

barbsbarbs · 27/07/2018 07:12

never used any contraception ever, but I only ever conceived when I was in a certain sex position, that is when being on top of hub. any other position have never concieved.

vonniebab2 · 27/07/2018 08:15

We were very lucky and conceived within a few months for all our children

cluckyhen · 27/07/2018 08:19

I was told I can't have children but have 2!

With my DS it was shock as after a year of nothing and then tests it happened - maybe it was because the pressure was off but with DD I followed all the old school myths, legs in the air after, butt tilted etc. Funnily enough - we took a break from trying and I fell again.