Mumsnet users share their experiences of trying to conceive with Proceive

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Trying to conceive can be straightforward for some and a struggle for others. From deciding to start the process of trying to conceive to the emotions that surround the journey, it can feel like quite an overwhelming time. Proceive would love to hear your experiences of trying to conceive and how the TTC chat came about with your significant other.

Here’s what Proceive has to say: “Embarking on the TTC journey is emotive for many people and for many different reasons, we are keen to know what emotions were stirred up when you and your partner decided it was time to start trying for a baby. We know the average time for a couple to conceive is 12 months but we want to hear from you and find out about your experiences and feelings around this time in your life.”

What were your expectations of trying to conceive and how did they compare with the reality? What changes did you make, for example around your lifestyle or diet, when you decided to try to conceive? How did you and your partner agree to start trying to conceive? Or did you find that when you stopped trying, it just happened?

Whatever your experiences of trying to conceive, share them on the thread below to be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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my 3rd baby we tried for ages for. We had one of each and other people's attitudes were that we were done...... Quite hurtful as I didn't want to share our difficulties.

I took a short course of metformin and a change in diet helped. I'm also convinced the avocados helped!!

After having been on the pill for some time (four years?), we decided to start a family, but nothing happened. We were about to take serious medical advice when, after about eighteen months, our first child appeared. We wanted a second child, and he arrived soon, seventeen months later.

I was very lucky & conceived straight away

It took a while to conceive but we managed it in the end. I count my blessings for the gift we received.

I was surprised how quickly I became pregnant after stopping the pill. It happened sooner than I felt ready

very lucky and got prgenant straight after coming off pill both times

It was straightforward for me, took 3 months. But it is such an emotional intense time. I have massive sympathy for anyone who struggles.

My husband and I couldn't conceive naturally and went through many heartbreaking years of childlessness, invasive medical procedures, and counselling before having our miracle IVF babies. To complicate matters, when my eggs were taken out, they perforated a blood vessel and I got internal bleeding. I then developed OHSS. We longed for a baby and persevered, and our eldest son is now two years old, whilst our new-born is three months. We never thought we would get the chance to become parents, which makes everything all the sweeter now. I love my boys with all of my being.

I think we were rather lucky, after 10+ years on pill, i thought it would take a while, but managed it within 3/4 months!

I remember when i was trying to conceive i would keep my legs in the air after "the deed was done" for 5 minuites. Must have worked :)

I have been so incredibly lucky and fell pregnant within a couple of weeks of trying with both of my boys. We plan on trying for our third next year so fingers crossed. We will just try and see what happens to start with.

After coming off the pill it took me just over 6 months to fall pregnant, every month when 'mother nature' arrived I was devastated. And when it finally happened I was so happy I could burst, I downloaded every app bought folic acid and we told our parents. Unfortunatley at ten weeks I had a miscarriage, it felt like every bit of happiness had been taken from me. After 3 months I fell pregnant again, but there was just fear that it would all go wrong again not happiness. Fortunatley I now have a happy healthy baby.

Practice, practice some more and practice again. That's all I have to say about that :-)

I was very fortunate and conceived fairly quickly. My heart goes out to those who have problems.

i was lucky in that it took no time at all for my to conceive both of my daughters but i have great sympathy for people who do

I was very lucky and did not need to try on either occasion - niether were considered (although wanted of course) but we were never "trying" as such.

I tried for a first baby quite late..37 but fortunately I fell pregnant very quickly....within a few months. We didn’t change our lifestyle at all until after I fell pregnant.
We tried for a second baby but unfortunately we weren’t lucky enough to conceive again. Probably a lot to do with my age as by then I was nearly into my 40’s. Although disapponting I am so grateful for what I’ve got.

Lucky both times, although I enjoyed the process

I hope this post will be helpful to some of you.

When our daughter was newborn, 4 years ago, my husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had a testicle removed and 2 rounds of aggressive chemotherapy and we were advised that his sperm count was left exceedingly low.

As we are lucky enough to have 2 children, a boy and a girl, we were OK with this impacting growing our family although given the choice I'd have loved another.

Anyway, cut to this year, and with no effort, and at the age of 41, I'm now 17 weeks pregnant with No. 3. It's been a huge surprise but we're so thrilled and it just shows that anything is possible despite medics suggesting it was highly unlikely :)

If anyone is in a similar situation, I hope it gives you some comfort that all is not lost.

Oh blimey, what a timely post...AF arrived a couple of days ago, the witch.
With my son, we were SO lucky... Agreed that we wanted to start trying, stopped the pill and never got my period- pregnant.

Been trying to conceive No.2 for nearly a year now. It's getting so hard to stay positive. I swear my body's playing tricks on me- my last cycle was randomly 57 days, and before that I'd had every classic early pregnancy symptom going, only to be not pregnant...
It's tough not to get hung up on tracking cycles but when you're doing everything you can and it's still not happening, picking yourself up from the upset and disappointment every month gets harder and harder.

I'm now at the 'willing to try anything' stage of quiet desperation and sadness.

We've been lucky as we have two children that were both conceived within 2 - 3 months of trying for them both.

We were really lucky and conceived first times with both children, well the second one is currently only 10 weeks, but assuming that goes well we will feel very blessed by how easy the whole experience was for us. Considering I'm now 36 I feel extra lucky.

we were very lucky and it happened straight away, however the pregnancy was a very problematic one, thankfully all turned out well.

I was very lucky because I was 30 when I first tried (relatively old) and knew when I was fertile and it happened straight away.

I was surprised how quickly it happened. We discussed it, stopped using contraception and almost immediately I was pregnant both times. I was late 20s for the first & early 30s for the second.