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Good luck Claw!

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fightingtheLA · 14/06/2010 22:14

Hi Claw
Have been following your sorry saga with school for a while now. Just wanted to say good luck with the meeting tomorrow and hope you get more from it than the usual clap-trap,fob-offs etc. etc. I find it difficult dealing with everything even with a very supportive school so am in awe of your tenacity. Knowledge is strength and posters such as yourself, Debs, Star,Attila etc..have really given me the confidence to fight for my ds!

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claw3 · 17/06/2010 23:46

Thederkin, thanks i have sent my letter to most via email, she will be fuming having to answer awkward questions, while ds and i swan off into the sunset and have a lovely morning at the new school

Mummysaurus thank you, none of us want perfection do we, just a bit of understanding, which seems almost impossible to come by!

Visit is 9.15 tomorrow, i have reports ready and ds's camera is charging. Just filling out contact forms etc now.

Im more excited than ds

fightingtheLA · 18/06/2010 07:41

Well done Claw. Bet the Head is shitting herself - leave her to sit in it!. Enjoy the visit today - it must be such a relief.

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claw3 · 18/06/2010 07:55

Fighting - LOL

Just read your earlier post, i missed it yesterday about your ds having to have counselling. Your poor ds. My ds has just started 1:1 weekly therapy at CAHMS for a year because of all his anxieties. School certainly hasnt helped. Its not on is it.

You are applying for SA arent you? If you want copies of my submission or any other info etc, you are more than welcome. Just let me know.

fightingtheLA · 18/06/2010 08:27

Thanks Claw. I have sent of my parental views but if they agree to assess I will need to submit more so might take you up on your offer. Thanks

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claw3 · 18/06/2010 11:49

Fighting - Youre welcome, i found it helpful looking at examples, just so i knew where to start and what to include etc.

Visit went well, as we walked across the playground with ds taking pictures, he told me 'i would like to come here, how old do you have to be'!

He was feeling anxious this morning, would not eat and was writing lists and feeling sick too.

He displayed typical ASD behaviour when we got there too, SENCO gave us a tour and he took pictures, his interaction with her was very limited. He spoke about what he wanted to talk about and showed no interest in what she was saying. We saw a cat in the playground and that is all he spoke about.

When she asked him questions which required a answer, she had to ask him 3 or 4 times, most replies were not related to what the question was.

When she looked at him, he put his camera up to his face.

Im glad he was having a very typical ASD day as she told me she had spoken to the Head of his old school. boo!

Anyhow he will do a half day next Thurs and Frid and providing these go well, full day on Monday.

He will have 1:1 TA with him on Thurs and Frid to help him settle. She has also told me she will read through reports and if he needs more help than they can offer she will speak with LA and back my request, it was like second nature to her!

claw3 · 18/06/2010 23:16

Oh bless ds, im sooooo glad i did this.

Ds's step bro is visiting and ds told him 'im going to a new school'. Step bro asked him 'why is that'. He replied 'i had enough, boy X beats me up everyday'

StarOfValkyrie · 19/06/2010 11:59

poor ds

claw3 · 20/06/2010 11:28

Star, ds had never told me that before, i get the feeling that now ds doesnt have to go there anymore, i will be hearing a lot more

There was me trying to do this change of schools slowly, the minute we walked into the new school playground, he asked 'can i come here, how old do you have to be'

He couldnt wait to get away from old school

StarOfValkyrie · 20/06/2010 11:55

Aw!

Make sure he knows he is going to this new school because he 'deserves' it for being such a good boy (i.e. make sure he never feels that he has been moved because HE failed at his other school iyswim) and that the new school heard about him and really wanted him.

Also, to help build a positive picture of yourself and negate the 'info' they have heard about you, write to the new school and tell them how delighted you are that they have accepted your ds, how welcome they made you feel, and understanding you thought they were and how much ds is looking forward to coming.

That should show you from the outset that you are a parent of communication, not a persistant moaner iyswim, and should help keep communication channels open.

StarOfValkyrie · 20/06/2010 12:00

Oh sorry, I know, I'm telling you to write another blardy letter..........

claw3 · 20/06/2010 12:06

Good idea Star, i will write a positive letter for a change.

We went to the new school summer fete yesterday (ds with his map of new school!) he wanted to take his bag of money (he collects change) to give to the new kids, because he thought he had seen some kids in his new school who might like him and he wanted to give them money

Ds does need lots of reassurance and his confidence built up.

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