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2shoes · 14/08/2009 10:21

I won't be posting about dd on here or the teen board(will still keep an eye out for any where I can advise though) this whole Daily Mail thing has made me feel very unsafe. some of the issues I would be talking about soon will make me very Identifiable, so I will stick to TTR and SKINUK where it is safer.

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MatNanPlus · 15/08/2009 23:03

You need to scroll down the page WetAugust

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2shoes · 15/08/2009 23:36

sadly though soemtimes you have to put your self first, I think it is sad that the sn topic doesn't get the help and protection it deserves, but there is only so many times you can fight your corner before you have to say enough is enough.

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Goblinchild · 15/08/2009 23:42

There are other websites that have sn forums, some are specific.
You'd lose the ability to flick between the Real World and Spectrumland for example, which is a pity, but you'd still have the expertise and support that you required. Problem two is that most sn boards are specific, so you'd probably lose the wider sn community that you've got here.

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sarah293 · 16/08/2009 08:30

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jemmm · 16/08/2009 08:35

Moldies?

Excuse a relative newcomers ignorance...

sarah293 · 16/08/2009 08:50

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jemmm · 16/08/2009 09:29

blimey - had a quick glance... I'll steer clear of that one I think...

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 11:56

I posted this on the MNHQ response thread but thought it was fair to pop here too. Fot those on TTR its on no real significance

'OK, thanks MN- interesting.

For me (I know you all know I am formerly Peachy through my fabbo typing LOL- an example of how identifiable some people can be obv) I don't feel I can post in SN any more, my situation with my boys doesn't work without a back story, neither being typial and I can't use my back story any more.

I will continue with MN but in a bland fashion. There's just not much I an post in any other way. Uness of course DP is on a thread in which ase I feel morally obliged to pile in. Could we perhaps have a function that brings that up so I don't have to trawl? ( at DP)

I've been here in one membership or another since 2001, to say that the sit ahsnt changed since then as some people have done is ludicrous. The DM wasn't interested in us way back then. However I just don't feel MN can meet my needs any more which of course is my decision, and I will pull back massively now. I've been trying to get hwlp for a problem on another thread and whilst netters have been fa, the truth is I can't gice enough info to really explain.

I wish you all luck though, I will stay in the postnatal area and no doubt pop by when I have a lonely evening.'

2shoes · 16/08/2009 12:06

lily I am sad that it is comming to this, that people feel usafe, I do hope though we will all still fight the fight when the iiotic posters do there bi monthly ati sn thread.
tbh imo mn has not been safe for sn for a while, It hasled me to wonder why mn have an sn topic at all, maybe it is some WWW law that they have to be seen to include us.

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Poshpaws · 16/08/2009 12:28

I have been a Mnetter nearly as long as Peachy (2002) and I must admit that this episode with the DM has really saddened me most of all 'knowing' who the journo was.

I was not bothered by moldies at all or any other scandal as I am not a prolific poster. However, although I post very little these days, when I do post it tends to be on the SN board and I read it every day.

DS2 has no diagnosis. He does have S/L delay though and SALT input and was on the SEN register at pre-school. When he was 2 and I was panicking about his progress, I came here for advice. I lurked at first, feeling a fraud, but when my first post was answered I was very grateful for the advice. Ever since then, I have used the knowledge gained here to further help DS2 (hearing checks, assesments, social stories, etc), all things that I would have not known about outside of this group. Hell, I didn't even know about hidden disability until I came here .

Thanks to all the advice, knowingly and unknowingly given to me on here, I have become much happier about Ds2's quirks and although he has come on leaps and bounds, I am comfortable in the fact that he is different, and that is thanks to speaking to you guys.

It's a shame that many of you feel the need to go to TTR and leave here. I don't feel that my situation is causing me too much grief at present so would feel a bit of a fraud (again) if I were to join, but it does worry me that if once DS2 starts school (Sep) his issues become more marked, that there will be no-one here I can 'rant' with about it or seek advice from.

Purely selfish of me, I know, but I for one would miss what knowledge you have of the 'system' and support you give new entrants like me.

2shoes · 16/08/2009 12:41

Poshpaws I think people will still post and support, the only difference is imo, they will do it without giving their own story.

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Poshpaws · 16/08/2009 12:50

TBH 2shoes, I can completely understand that. I lurked for ages on the SN board for that precise reason. I had not yet come to terms with DS2's issues at the time, let alone people recognising me from details I may have given and them asking questions in RL. Gosh, I panicked when SN posts could be seen temporarily on active convos .

Glad that you and others will still post.

TotalChaos · 16/08/2009 13:52

poshpaws - worry not, I think most people will stay in one shape or form, but I think we will all be more cautious about anything that could potentially embarass our children or ourselves if quoted in the Daily Mail!

I would be very happy to "speak" to you, on or off site, as it sounds like we've had similar issues with our DS (mine is a year older than yours)

MojoLost · 16/08/2009 14:48

Hi all,
I don't log into mumsnet too often, so only just saw this thread, I am very intrigued.
Is this DM article available online? I am curious to know how much detail has been published. Who is this much loved ex-mnter who is the journo?

I hope I can continue to count on your experience and knowledge, I definitely need a helping hand, don't know ANYONE in RL on the same boat as me. Reading about what has helped your DCs is truly invaluable for me, so please don't hide away. Thanks.

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LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:03

I came soooo close to posting it on my facebook profile LOL.

I didn't but there you go.

And yes, the kitchen did occur to me too

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LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:28

Ah it was dyspraxia was it? To my eternal shame I rememebr talking to her and not much more. I always got her confused with Aitch in my head, which is now I relaise rather unfair.

She's a moldie then? confiirms a few musings

jabberwocky · 16/08/2009 16:38

Deffo Moldie. Apparently "beloved" by many.

She had been on here a while before I joined in 2004. She kind of outed herself once before when she wrote an article about hiring a sleep nurse after posting for some time about her daughter's sleeping or lack thereof.

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Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 16:46

Yes, because MNHQ don't have enough to do atm trying to work out how best to deal with this, without being on permanent delete mode...

jabberwocky · 16/08/2009 16:52

I didn't think they were working on anything. The post from Justine said they were OK with it.