there are many many nt parents who need to take time away from the boards for very similar reasons.
it is unfortunate that this very normal situation has become too much for her. i assume she has internalised way too much of this ongoing situation because of her as. many posters have attempted to point this out, but as she has found herself so overloaded (with both mn and rl) she can't interpret what is going on at the moment. to be fair, nothing would be going on at all if she hadn't kept demanding someone else explained, or let her explain. someone needed to step in and call a halt, which is presumably what her own counsellors did.
that was really clumsily put, but there is a whole board of sn parents (and apparently half of mn) tying themselves in knots when the best thing to do is to back off, tbh. let the few posters who are in touch with amber give her some support, and if she feels she is able, then she can come back to the tea room thread she started, and take it from there.
i have to say i would be appalled at the prospect of attempting to flag threads or posts that may be misconstrued by anyone, in any situation. applying that to the entirety of mn would be utterly unworkable.
i didn't read the original thread, but having gathered the content, can well understand why a parent wanted to ask for opinions on why this literature was being distributed by an autism support group. the sn board of mn (where many parents of as/asd children hang out) is exactly the right place to ask such a question.
amber is the only one that knows whether providing support to parents of sn children (who will have diverse and varied views, both positive and negative about their child's disability), is something that will come at too great a personal cost for her personally. and as she said, her own counsellors will suggest that she stops posting if it becomes too much. in the same way that dd2 can walk, and walk, and walk, but i know that the continuous falls are going to result in injury or extreme fatigue and pain. i advise her to stop walking and use her wheelchair.
if it is the social interaction on a fast paced board that is difficult for her to cope with, but she wants to continue to provide support, then maybe an alternative avenue needs to be explored. like her blog, like a series of short articles on given themes, whatever. someone earlier already explained why combined support groups for 'parents of' and individuals themselves rarely work. an individual is always going to feel differently about their own disability to someone experiencing it second-hand. both viewpoints and feelings are valid and need a safe space to be explored. it is always interesting for parents of sn children to meet up with and discuss issues with adults with the same disability as their child, but it is rarely a good idea to vent about your child in earshot. we would all adjust our language in such a situation 'why does he do this?' rather than 'ffs, this is driving me mad'. a parent's support network such as the sn board has to be able to provide a safe space for 'ffs' moments (without requiring to pause, consider, and determine whether your own feelings are valid enough or warrant a flag).
amber is very welcome on the sn board, and provides valuable advice, but sometimes we all have to make a decision about what is best for us personally. and maybe that requires a more specialised niche than an open forum pan-disability parent support board.
this is not me hounding amber away, and i don't want it to be construed as such. i am worried for her, and hope that someone is making sure she is ok, particularly with what is going on in rl. i would not be selfish enough to want her back here giving advice if it was too much for her to cope with, but equally i see little chance of adjusting mn to provide a more as-friendly experience.